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The best way to get noticed more is to upgrade.
If you wish to upgrade your profile just send a Postal money order to my PO Box. 
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But I think the biggest barrier is your e-mail restrictions settings. That's a pretty narrow age limitation you've got there. ^^^ This. You need to open up your world to more guys than the crowd you "believe" you're willing to date. Talk to some of the older, and some of the younger guys. Talk to people who aren't from within 50 miles. Afterall, consider that some of the larger towns upstate like Middletown, Poughkeepsie, etc.. are 100+ miles away.. and that's not that far. A guy might Move for ya. I think you're limiting yourself. I don't think she is limiting herself; I think she knows her limits. If she isn't willing to date too much older or younger, why open her up to uselessness? If she is not willing to date further than 50 miles away, why open her up to uselessness? If she is serious about meeting someone -- it seems she doesn't want to waste her time or theirs.   Why? Because then she wouldn't have to wonder why no one is responding to her. that's why. First let's discuss the "mileage". When you sign up to Mingle, it asks you for a zip code. You write-in your town. The distance thing restricts way too much going on zip-code. She's in NYC. NYC is big. And she's in Staten Island which is the furthest point south and west of NYC. Guy A travels from his home, which 45 miles from the bronx to work every day. He works 20 miles away from her. His zip-code lists him on Mingle as living 65 miles away from her. See where this is going? This is a guy she may very well be able to meet on a daily basis in her area, but he's not able to e-mail her because... of a 50 mile restriction. Why are you arguing with me about her restrictions?  I simply supporter her preference to whatever she wants in HER profile. She may not be willing to travel. When she asked for profile advice, I'll bet she was more concerned with the type of pix she has uploaded or essay feedback -- and not geography or the age she prefers to date. During after-thought ... maybe the OP didn't realize her email settings were set to the 50 mile default. In that case we are posting for naught because it was not purposeful on her part!  I didn't think she was asking for advice. She was wondering why "few people" contact her. And setting limits on Who can and Who can't.. is the first reason why, isn't it? And like I said, travel doesn't come into it and it's not all about "her".. What if HE is willing to travel? what if HE works in her town every day and just lives a bit far later on? I understand in California you guys don't have mass-transit worth a damn, but in NY it's perfectly normal for some people to take a 90 minute train ride to work from the lower hudson valley to manhattan. Which would then put someone she can date within her 50 miles, however their profile wouldn't reflect this. |
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Why are you arguing with me about her restrictions? I had the impression that you were arguing with him about his 'horizon broadening' comments. When she asked for profile advice, I'll bet she was more concerned with the type of pix she has uploaded or essay feedback -- and not geography or the age she prefers to date. Could be, but none of us are mind readers. You can offer pic advice, PK2 can offer 'horizens' advice, and she can make her own decisions. During after-thought ... maybe the OP didn't realize her email settings were set to the 50 mile default. In that case we are posting for naught because it was not purposeful on her part! This makes no sense to me whatsoever. "Posting for naught" means "posting uselessly" or "posting for no purpose", right? And the advice might not be useful because the settings might not have been chosen on purpose? That exactly when it is most useful to draw something to someone's attention. |
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Why are you arguing with me about her restrictions? I had the impression that you were arguing with him about his 'horizon broadening' comments. When she asked for profile advice, I'll bet she was more concerned with the type of pix she has uploaded or essay feedback -- and not geography or the age she prefers to date. Could be, but none of us are mind readers. You can offer pic advice, PK2 can offer 'horizens' advice, and she can make her own decisions. During after-thought ... maybe the OP didn't realize her email settings were set to the 50 mile default. In that case we are posting for naught because it was not purposeful on her part! This makes no sense to me whatsoever. "Posting for naught" means "posting uselessly" or "posting for no purpose", right? And the advice might not be useful because the settings might not have been chosen on purpose? That exactly when it is most useful to draw something to someone's attention. Well, there ya go! We don't think alike ... 
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Cast a larger net. Get more responses and then start to sort them out.
Parable? Well, like my home; I painted the window trim, but just white, not any color. It doesn't bother me, if and when I do get married, she will have the choice of any color. Does that make sense? |
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I emailed her comments for privet use cuz yall are fighting each other.. It's like your for the problem not the solution if your nice and direct she will appreacheate it it's about her not yall dam some people a very selfish and inconsiderate.. You go lady I like that you put your self out there
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Well, there ya go! We don't think alike ...  |
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I emailed her comments for privet use cuz yall are fighting each other.. It's like your for the problem not the solution if your nice and direct she will appreacheate it it's about her not yall dam some people a very selfish and inconsiderate.. You go lady I like that you put your self out there I hope she can understand it, because your command of the English language is not that great. |
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You want to know why you're not ATTRACTING the kind of men that you want. It's like fishing, you need to find out what bait to use to attract the men that you want and then use it. Attraction isn't a choice.
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 Nice reaction Patsfan. 
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Nice reaction Patsfan. I was at a loss for words 
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Edited by
tngxl65
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Wed 09/30/09 11:05 AM
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I don't get the 'hay' reference. Has a picture gone missing? Or has the profile changed?
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I don't get the 'hay' reference. Has a picture gone missing? Or has the profile changed? It's definitely a different pic. |
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GREAT PROFILE..........
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Edited by
wux
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Wed 09/30/09 01:05 PM
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I don't want to sound egotistical, but I know I am an attractive female Anytime you preceed a sentence with something you don't want to be, you emphasize that you ARE the very thing you say you're not. "Not to be a b*tch but..." will always preceed a b*tchy statement. "Not to be homosexual but..." will always preceed a homosexual statement. likewise... "Not to sound egotistical but..." If someone is not to be a btch but acts one, she is. If someone is not to sound like something, in this case egotistical, then she will sound like it. But sounding and being are quite different. A person who sounds like something or another, in this case egotistical, could be egotistical, could be the opposite, could lack in exreme egotism, anything. If a horse sounds like a pig, the horse is still a horse. If a pig sounds like a pig, he is a pig, but unrelated to his pigness. Anyone could sound like a pig, and be a pig or be something entirely different. Sounding like someone does not give any indication to others whether the person is or is not what he or she sounds like. |
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