So...I was with someone since 91 and 01 we married. It lasted 4 years, in 05 we d. We're still good friends. I have written back and forth with a few of men, and at another place also. They have asked me to call them, all of them. What gives with that? I know have been off the court for almost 20 years and must be a tad old fashioned I suppose because that makes me uncomfortable. No one has asked or my phone number... it seems like "if you want me you have to call me". These men are in my age group. I could be reading into it all wrong and admit that upfront..thats why am asking, from both women and men. Thanks

Well I guess most people wanna verify that it's you by your voice and what not. Also it's easier to tell emotions through the phone and get to know someone better that way.
But also you shouldn't be forced to do something you don't want to. So if you don't wanna call them just tell em you feel more comfortable just pursuing the chatting on line for alittle longer until you get into the comfortable zone. Hope that helps :D

You can say more on the phone. Also it is easier to have the woman call if she is interested than to call the woman and risk getting rejected.

I will be the first to ask then what is your phone number? You want someone to talk to about anything, fine, I'll be your sounding board. E-mail me if you need an impartial ear. There is always someone out there that will be willing to listen, no matter what your story is, and of those, there are many that would love to give you any help that they can. I know the true meaning of friendship, a rare quality these days. Chances are, one of my experiences is similar to one of yours. Either way, would love to be a friend, even if only online.

My best guess is that they are giving you their number so you don't feel pressured by them asking for yours... Some people like to jump to the phone quickly, others don't.. You need to do what makes you comfortable and don't let them cajole you into talking if that's not what you're ready for... I usually talk to people for months before I do the phone call thing..

Personally I feel it's too easy to hide behind a pc. I give my number and let the woman decide when or if to call. I get the feeling women are afraid to give a number. I know it's too easy to get alot of personal info with a number so I don't blame those women for being careful. I think if you are interested in meeting someone trust has to start somewhere.

I was thinking the same thing. With reverse phone look up these days, I wouldnt want to give anyone on line my number without having spoken to them on theirs SEVERAL times and even then, we would have to have made quite a bond of trust.

It should go both ways really, everything should be 50/50.

Listen to catseyes, she's dead-on about just about everything. I think she's Confucius incarnated.

I'm tired of hiding behind a picture..I would love to meet in person. No locals ... I can't control that.

Having been on the opposite end of having them almost harassing for my phone number it does sound like they are trying to make it more comfortable for you.

Like everything in any sort of relationship communication is they key and if you have any interest in them you should voice your concerns via email etc to see what their response is to it.

I really appreciate -all- of the input you guys have given back to this q. Silly...things one wouldn't have even thought of...trust...(i trust too easily), reverse phone numbers, taking it slowly over weeks, months, etc. So new to all this. Have been reading alot to try and get the gist of it all...still a whole 'nother planet to comprehend. Got plenty of time tho...

perhaps the men in your age group are tired of chasing

roko

I used to talk to a guy and he was so weird he never called me, he'd actually go on myspace and send me a message telling me to call him. I was like wtf??? He turned out to be a freaking psycho, so I guess that explains a lot. Good question though, I've been wondering about that on and off for a while....