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Yeah, didn't work out... she suddenly got the "walking shoes" after a year and a half of marriage... So divorce, here we come lol
But seriously, it's ok. I've learned a lot from the last year and a half of marriage. I've learned that I can't always count on others to keep a promise. I've learned that compromise has to work both ways. I've learned that I can live and love and feel and hurt and be joyous and free. I'm greatful for what I had. I can't say that I don't feel hurt. I feel betrayed. A marriage can only work if both people want it to work. I know I'm not perfect, but when I said "I will" I meant it. When I said "For better or for worse" I meant it. She walked out on me the second things got rough. She just gave up on the marriage. I didn't cheat, I didn't beat her, I always did my best to love her properly, and she answers me with "I just don't love you the way a wife should love a husband" and left me to try to figure out where things went wrong. Any advice for a bleeding heart would be welcomed. |
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was talking to a friend last night who's girlfriend moved out
we decided "If it ain't there it just ain't there. and you can't make it be there if it ain't" just chalk it up as a learning experience and keep living |
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Squiz, I am by no means an expert. Everything you said is true. You can't make someone feel something they don't. You can only do your best. I'm very sorry and know you must be hurting. Losing love is painful. My only advice is to take things slow. You may want to jump right into another relationship to feel better but that will only end badly.
Take your time, find yourself, heal and know that we are all human. Good luck. |
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There is no "I told you so" here but there is a somebody who heard your story and recognises that the hurt is not going to just go and play with itself somewhere else. I feel for you and I wish great strength for you right now. I speak a blessing to your soul for comfort and wisdom.
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I'm sorry it didn't work out for you... The reason I think waiting is important is b/c of that.. You can be together 4 yrs and still breakup without marriage, so rushing into it only means you have to go through the divorce.. Living together is ok if you love each other...
Take it one day at a time, know that you're in control and do the things that make you happy.. Don't yearn for someone that doesn't love you as you should be loved... Good luck 
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I have learned that you can't love someone if they won't let you.
Some people believe they don't deserve love and will do anything to make sure LOVE never happens. I've been there. No I told you so's. Sometimes you gotta let go, deal with the pain, and move on.
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Awww I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. Yes the words "I do" really do mean something, but it has to mean something to both people. You're right a marriage, a relationship takes two to work things out. Once it becomes one sided, then all is gone. That's great that you were faithful and good to her, hey, her loss. Some lucky lady will come your way.
Hang in there!!  |
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Awww I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. Yes the words "I do" really do mean something, but it has to mean something to both people. You're right a marriage, a relationship takes two to work things out. Once it becomes one sided, then all is gone. That's great that you were faithful and good to her, hey, her loss. Some lucky lady will come your way. Hang in there!! 
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Yeah, didn't work out... she suddenly got the "walking shoes" after a year and a half of marriage... So divorce, here we come lol But seriously, it's ok. I've learned a lot from the last year and a half of marriage. I've learned that I can't always count on others to keep a promise. I've learned that compromise has to work both ways. I've learned that I can live and love and feel and hurt and be joyous and free. I'm greatful for what I had. I can't say that I don't feel hurt. I feel betrayed. A marriage can only work if both people want it to work. I know I'm not perfect, but when I said "I will" I meant it. When I said "For better or for worse" I meant it. She walked out on me the second things got rough. She just gave up on the marriage. I didn't cheat, I didn't beat her, I always did my best to love her properly, and she answers me with "I just don't love you the way a wife should love a husband" and left me to try to figure out where things went wrong. Any advice for a bleeding heart would be welcomed.  Welcome back Squiz. Seems like just last week to me when you announced your engagement
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Yeah, didn't work out... she suddenly got the "walking shoes" after a year and a half of marriage... So divorce, here we come lol But seriously, it's ok. I've learned a lot from the last year and a half of marriage. I've learned that I can't always count on others to keep a promise. I've learned that compromise has to work both ways. I've learned that I can live and love and feel and hurt and be joyous and free. I'm greatful for what I had. I can't say that I don't feel hurt. I feel betrayed. A marriage can only work if both people want it to work. I know I'm not perfect, but when I said "I will" I meant it. When I said "For better or for worse" I meant it. She walked out on me the second things got rough. She just gave up on the marriage. I didn't cheat, I didn't beat her, I always did my best to love her properly, and she answers me with "I just don't love you the way a wife should love a husband" and left me to try to figure out where things went wrong. Any advice for a bleeding heart would be welcomed. Welcome back Squiz. Seems like just last week to me when you announced your engagement Doesn't it though? lol |
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was talking to a friend last night who's girlfriend moved out we decided "If it ain't there it just ain't there. and you can't make it be there if it ain't" just chalk it up as a learning experience and keep living You are sucha schmart man! You are also a schmart azzzz man but you said this perfectly! To the OP, I wish you fast healing -- but allow yourself to heal before you beging to date again.
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There will be no i told u so's here,we have all been there.so sorry to here that it didn't work out.Just give yourself time.Don't rush into anything.There are plenty of nice ppl here that u can always talk to when u need to.
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I wish you well in your recovery!
You deserve better, be patient, enjoy your freedom, love you and move on. Do take your time.
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Edited by
trublu4u
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Sun 10/11/09 12:51 PM
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Dude, I'm so popular here on mingle2 because I state the obvious about such fine institutions as marriage and such...
...so here it goes: JUST WHAT'S IN MARRIAGE FOR A GUY IN THE FIRST PLACE? (Here's where all the hen-pecked guys type angry replies, then call their over-bearing wives attention to them) HEY! THAT'S A GREAT RAP SONG! HERE'S WHERE ALL THE HEN-PECKED GUYS TYPE ANGRY REPLIES THEN CALL THEIR OVER-BEARING WIVES a-TEN-tion to 'em... UH-HUH-HUH-HUH-HUH-HUH!!!! Count yourself lucky, Daddy-Mac. You got yo' freedom back! UH-HUH-HUH-HUH-HUH-HUH!!! You got no time to mope aroun', Dawg!!! You gotch yo' MUSIC to think about! |
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Yeah, didn't work out... she suddenly got the "walking shoes" after a year and a half of marriage... So divorce, here we come lol But seriously, it's ok. I've learned a lot from the last year and a half of marriage. I've learned that I can't always count on others to keep a promise. I've learned that compromise has to work both ways. I've learned that I can live and love and feel and hurt and be joyous and free. I'm greatful for what I had. I can't say that I don't feel hurt. I feel betrayed. A marriage can only work if both people want it to work. I know I'm not perfect, but when I said "I will" I meant it. When I said "For better or for worse" I meant it. She walked out on me the second things got rough. She just gave up on the marriage. I didn't cheat, I didn't beat her, I always did my best to love her properly, and she answers me with "I just don't love you the way a wife should love a husband" and left me to try to figure out where things went wrong. Any advice for a bleeding heart would be welcomed. Welcome back Squiz. Seems like just last week to me when you announced your engagement Doesn't it though? lol
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I'm so sorry it didn't work out for you, but you can't 'make' someone feel the same way you do. The right woman is out there for you. Just don't give up on finding her!!
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Yeah, didn't work out... she suddenly got the "walking shoes" after a year and a half of marriage... So divorce, here we come lol But seriously, it's ok. I've learned a lot from the last year and a half of marriage. I've learned that I can't always count on others to keep a promise. I've learned that compromise has to work both ways. I've learned that I can live and love and feel and hurt and be joyous and free. I'm greatful for what I had. I can't say that I don't feel hurt. I feel betrayed. A marriage can only work if both people want it to work. I know I'm not perfect, but when I said "I will" I meant it. When I said "For better or for worse" I meant it. She walked out on me the second things got rough. She just gave up on the marriage. I didn't cheat, I didn't beat her, I always did my best to love her properly, and she answers me with "I just don't love you the way a wife should love a husband" and left me to try to figure out where things went wrong. Any advice for a bleeding heart would be welcomed. When you take this kind of emotional hit I would say just try to be gentle with yourself and give it time to heal. It will feel pretty hollow to hear you are lucky that it only lasted a year and some before your partner owned up to her real feelings. As time goes on and you do find someone who loves you, it will make sense, and you will see what a gift it was; so try not to let the anger fester. I am not sure misery loves company but already I am sure you see yours is a familiar pain to many and hopefully that takes some of the sting out of it. Trust takes time to rebuild but making yourself take a first step at it before you get so comfortable in the habit of trusting no one is probably not a bad idea. I am not saying jump into another relationhip but making a few friends who like you for who you are would be a place to start. Mingle can be a great place to make friends and talk about all sorts of concerns. You can discover a lot about yourself. And many others. Have some laughs. Hope you will stick around and join our community. |
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Well, sorry to read about your misfortune in the love dept...been there and done that twice. What I finally learned in my 2 experiences, is that "nothing is guaranteed, regardless what she says"!
Good luck in the future... TMF |
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Bind your heart with barbed wire & chewing gum...I promise it works...
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