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Sings but he is not changing his character nor his ways just his clothing. Does clothing hold that much of an impact on how we perceive others to be? Appearance will always impact us. It's just natural. But, so is wanting to hit someone who hurts us. But, as mature adults, we don't hit and we learn to not judge a book by it's cover. |
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But he's changing his clothing in order to appear different than he really is. Is he going to stick with that style of clothing, or have to explain when he changes to what he'd normally wear when not on the first few dates?
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Not sure I follow for I am the same person whether I am in shorts, tshirt and flip flops as I am when I wearing my favorite shoes w/dress.
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Sings but he is not changing his character nor his ways just his clothing. Does clothing hold that much of an impact on how we perceive others to be? right or wrong, i think it does. scenario: you are leaving a bar after midnight, it's dark and deserted on the way to the parking lot. on one side of the street, there are 2 or 3 men, shabbily dressed, heavily bearded, hats pulled down over their faces. on the other side of the street are 2 well-dressed business-looking men sporting briefcases and short, neat hair. you have to pass by one or the other group to get to your car. which side do you pick? |
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I have a male friend of mine that does dress down intentionally. He has a ton of money, a fantastic house, an expensive car. He will go as far as to wear a wrinkled shirt on a first meeting just to see if a girl will take the time to get to know him, see if she likes him, his personality, sense of humor. He won't even drive his fancy car, And they have ended the date in the first 5 minutes because of his wrinkled shirt, beater car. It matters not to him..he figures if they are going to make a judgment call in 5 minutes over the way he dressed it isn't going to be the kind of girl he wants anyway. It takes him quite a few dates, every now and then he finds one that sticks around.. not very often, but he keeps doing it. He has to, he has $$ and that's all some women look for, so he weeds a lot of them out. So, that's how he screens his dates. I screen mine other ways. Believe it or not ladies, some of us men really do want more than a willing hole. He wants more than a willing hole, he just doesn't want someone that wants him for his money...he's almost 40 and he wants to find the one I think. He just wants her to want him..not the money, that's why he does it that way. If that works for him, great. Though, is he really being himself? Seems as though he's acting different because he's worried how women will act if he's himself. Yes, he is just being himself..he's just being himself in a shirt that hasn't been ironed. Why is that seeming "being" different? He isn't fake..he wears a wrinkled shirt, why is that a bad thing to do in your eyes..your agreeing with TS that some like to dress up..and that is their preference yet you seem to find something to disagree with me on no matter what I post, through the entire thread. Everyone has their own style and way of doing it..the guy doesn't dress up to meet women, TS does. What's the difference between either way? TS says he likes to look his best and he likes the reaction he gets from strange women checking him out.. my friend Chris doesn't want to be all dressed up...the clothes he wears or she wears doesn't matter to him. Why does it matter so much to you.. |
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Sings but he is not changing his character nor his ways just his clothing. Does clothing hold that much of an impact on how we perceive others to be? right or wrong, i think it does. scenario: you are leaving a bar after midnight, it's dark and deserted on the way to the parking lot. on one side of the street, there are 2 or 3 men, shabbily dressed, heavily bearded, hats pulled down over their faces. on the other side of the street are 2 well-dressed business-looking men sporting briefcases and short, neat hair. you have to pass by one or the other group to get to your car. which side do you pick? Am I armed or unarmed? 
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She should look at least as good as she did when I met her and got her number. For some women that may take more time than others. As for this internet thing, I've met women off sites like this that showed up wearing an over sized t shirt, sweat pants and flip flops. Those dates were over quickly! Tie-dye T and ripped jeans with sneakers? Next. Pleated Khakis with heels and a blazer? It's on! IM sure this depends upon where you met. If you met at a club and they were in a formal dress, or if you met at an expensive restaurant and they were in jeans,,,, Id say they definitely arent well versed in what it means to dress appropriately. Its not something that cant be worked with, but I understand if working at something after just the first date is undesirable to someone. |
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I have a male friend of mine that does dress down intentionally. He has a ton of money, a fantastic house, an expensive car. He will go as far as to wear a wrinkled shirt on a first meeting just to see if a girl will take the time to get to know him, see if she likes him, his personality, sense of humor. He won't even drive his fancy car, And they have ended the date in the first 5 minutes because of his wrinkled shirt, beater car. It matters not to him..he figures if they are going to make a judgment call in 5 minutes over the way he dressed it isn't going to be the kind of girl he wants anyway. It takes him quite a few dates, every now and then he finds one that sticks around.. not very often, but he keeps doing it. He has to, he has $$ and that's all some women look for, so he weeds a lot of them out. So, that's how he screens his dates. I screen mine other ways. Believe it or not ladies, some of us men really do want more than a willing hole. He wants more than a willing hole, he just doesn't want someone that wants him for his money...he's almost 40 and he wants to find the one I think. He just wants her to want him..not the money, that's why he does it that way. If that works for him, great. Though, is he really being himself? Seems as though he's acting different because he's worried how women will act if he's himself. Yes, he is just being himself..he's just being himself in a shirt that hasn't been ironed. Why is that seeming "being" different? He isn't fake..he wears a wrinkled shirt, why is that a bad thing to do in your eyes..your agreeing with TS that some like to dress up..and that is their preference yet you seem to find something to disagree with me on no matter what I post, through the entire thread. Everyone has their own style and way of doing it..the guy doesn't dress up to meet women, TS does. What's the difference between either way? TS says he likes to look his best and he likes the reaction he gets from strange women checking him out.. my friend Chris doesn't want to be all dressed up...the clothes he wears or she wears doesn't matter to him. Why does it matter so much to you.. I never said it was a bad thing. You said he intentionally dresses down for dates. To me, that sounds like he doesn't always dress down.. that he's just doing it to make himself seem a bit different so women don't go for him because of his money. |
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Sings but he is not changing his character nor his ways just his clothing. Does clothing hold that much of an impact on how we perceive others to be? right or wrong, i think it does. scenario: you are leaving a bar after midnight, it's dark and deserted on the way to the parking lot. on one side of the street, there are 2 or 3 men, shabbily dressed, heavily bearded, hats pulled down over their faces. on the other side of the street are 2 well-dressed business-looking men sporting briefcases and short, neat hair. you have to pass by one or the other group to get to your car. which side do you pick? how much have I had to drink? am I wearing my glasses/contacts? just kidding honestly for myself, I'd stay on the side closest to where I parked my vehicle. |
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Sings but he is not changing his character nor his ways just his clothing. Does clothing hold that much of an impact on how we perceive others to be? right or wrong, i think it does. scenario: you are leaving a bar after midnight, it's dark and deserted on the way to the parking lot. on one side of the street, there are 2 or 3 men, shabbily dressed, heavily bearded, hats pulled down over their faces. on the other side of the street are 2 well-dressed business-looking men sporting briefcases and short, neat hair. you have to pass by one or the other group to get to your car. which side do you pick? Am I armed or unarmed? like my AMEX I never leave home without it 
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Edited by
Ladylid2012
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Wed 12/30/09 11:12 AM
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But he's changing his clothing in order to appear different than he really is. Is he going to stick with that style of clothing, or have to explain when he changes to what he'd normally wear when not on the first few dates? Since he is not a suit and tie guy, the only thing that would change is he probably will not wear wrinkled shirts.... and if he's with a girl that didn't care about his wrinkled shirt in the first place... it's not going to be any big change.. I said he intentionally wears wrinkled shirts...with the flavor of this thread tat would be dressing down. |
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Sings but he is not changing his character nor his ways just his clothing. Does clothing hold that much of an impact on how we perceive others to be? right or wrong, i think it does. scenario: you are leaving a bar after midnight, it's dark and deserted on the way to the parking lot. on one side of the street, there are 2 or 3 men, shabbily dressed, heavily bearded, hats pulled down over their faces. on the other side of the street are 2 well-dressed business-looking men sporting briefcases and short, neat hair. you have to pass by one or the other group to get to your car. which side do you pick? Am I armed or unarmed? like my AMEX I never leave home without it
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I, like most people, avoid walking closely to people who "look" dangerous. It's just the way it is. I'm not gonna apologize for stereotyping people based on appearance when it comes to my physical safety.
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But he's changing his clothing in order to appear different than he really is. Is he going to stick with that style of clothing, or have to explain when he changes to what he'd normally wear when not on the first few dates? Since he is not a suit and tie guy, the only thing that would change is he probably will not wear wrinkled shirts.... and if he's with a girl that didn't care about his wrinkled shirt in the first place... it's not going to be any big change.. I said he intentionally wears wrinkled shirts...with the flavor of this thread tat would be dressing down. You had just made it seem like he was dressing a different way to screen his dates. As I said, if it works for him, great! |
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But he's changing his clothing in order to appear different than he really is. Is he going to stick with that style of clothing, or have to explain when he changes to what he'd normally wear when not on the first few dates? Since he is not a suit and tie guy, the only thing that would change is he probably will not wear wrinkled shirts.... and if he's with a girl that didn't care about his wrinkled shirt in the first place... it's not going to be any big change.. I said he intentionally wears wrinkled shirts...with the flavor of this thread tat would be dressing down. You had just made it seem like he was dressing a different way to screen his dates. As I said, if it works for him, great! He does intentionally wear wrinkled shirts...yes, I did say that and he does. And he does do it as a way to screen women as TS dresses up as his means to screen women...he does have to be careful because of his money...but his personality isn't different because his shirt is wrinkled. He isn't being some one he's not... he simply wants to see how women act when they first meet him in a wrinkled shirt... and most lose interest and end the date rather quickly. So if you consider a wrinkled shirt dressing differently, then I suppose he is...but he isn't being different. I guess were understanding each other better now. 
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Pre-packed with a sugar coating mmmmmmmm they are yummy
  Oh so your not on about dates as in the type you can eat?? Anna x
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Pre-packed with a sugar coating mmmmmmmm they are yummy Oh so your not on about dates as in the type you can eat?? Anna x 
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I think that is a bit different than the way TS screens his dates, as TS has stated he does enjoy dressing up. Your friend is intentionally doing something a bit different than he'd normally do. Really, it isn't a big deal. It just seems like a little game to me. I'm sure it helps him choose who he wants to date, though, so that's the point.
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Do you like getting dressed up and going somewhere fancy? Would you rather keep things casual? Do you like spending a lot of money on dates, or do you try to keep them free/cheap? Examples are great. jk
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I think that is a bit different than the way TS screens his dates, as TS has stated he does enjoy dressing up. Your friend is intentionally doing something a bit different than he'd normally do. Really, it isn't a big deal. It just seems like a little game to me. I'm sure it helps him choose who he wants to date, though, so that's the point. Yes..that is my original point... It isn't a big deal at all..so why are you wanting to make it one? You don't have to defend TS, he and I are friends. Your response to my every post seems like a little game to me. Have a lovely day sista
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