What kind of dates are you planning where she is unaware of how she should dress? Are you just meeting her somewhere, then deciding where to go? Sounds like lack of communication and planning.

As for me- if a man doesnt put effort into dressing nice whether the date lasts 15 minutes or not, how can you expect him to put effort into a potential relationship?

And yes Blonde gal, I too find out what kind of dress he is expecting so I dont embarass him or myself.
I never go on a date with even the slightest thought that it will not last, Im a fun intelligent woman and have never really had a bad date. I have had some that didnt turn out as well as others, only because some men expect you to hop into bed with them immediately after dessert, LOL and Im just not like that. However I have and usually do remain friends with people I see. Just because we are not marriage material doesnt mean we dont bring something into each others lives life.

As for dating openly- knowing someone is "intimate" with other women,
that is not an option for me. That tells me they are not really looking to settle down and it sends a bad message- (in my personal opinion). Some women are fine with this, for me tho, I give my full undivided attention and expect the same.

A first date for me would be something like a comedy show, or concert- maybe a museum or something where we could walk and talk and enjoy the surroundings.

A date to me is when a male friend of mine calls me up and says "Get dressed you old hag! We're going boating." or where ever he had planned for us. Someone I already know and the pair of us already know we enjoy spending time together.


I don't "date". I have found that people tend to be on their best behavior in every sense on "dates", or too tense and or nervous including myself at times to really get to know the other. I just think of meeting someone as a gathering, a social event.

With that said, money or the spending of the crude green stuff isn't even on my mind. Where we go is of no concern to me either for it is all about getting to know a new person and hopefully making a friend. That being the case where ever we are will fall out of focus (blurred) and a waste of effort to plan and or money.

My surroundings can't put me into any "mood' the only one that can put me in a mood is myself and my partner for the day / evening, which I hope is positive and I can do the same for him.

Course I'm not opposed to any random, spontaneous get together either. What I like on any get together is the person I am with.

Suggestions: I'm afraid that all depends on the people involved and what makes them most comfortable and able to enjoy one another.

I like a date that is activity driven and not just the same ole dinner and a movie! Something like min-golf, the beach, a billiards, etc. I also like the man to be confident and allow me to pay my half. If there's no attraction, atleast I had a good time!
Cristina

P.S. - I like a date where sex isn't necessarily on the agenda...atleast get to kno wthe person first!!

Dating for me is all about variety,i like doing something different that we havent experienced together yet....i like live events, visiting different places/landmarks/eateries...i like playing pool, bowling and other competitive challenges.

Its all about sharing new experiences in a social aspect for me.


I think the best first date is bowling and a beer :)

Haven't dated for ages, so probably wont get it right. But I like wearing jeans, wich I think you can dress them up or down. So I like the same in a guy. I guess just be confident in what evere you wear.

I think and feel that I would exceed my monies as if to exceed for myself...in other-words..
I would spend any amount as to how I would for me as in a extra thought of spending...
So,,if I would do a hundred dollar dinner,,,,cool for her.

but if I felt a three hundred dollar dinner was to high,
NOT cool for her,lol

All of the above at some point in time or other. But for the most part comfortable, casual, inexpensive and fun. The most important part is to spend time together.

I'm more a casual date, I can dress up as well. but I find that I gravitate more to the jeans and "clean" shirt type...there's just something about that that sends me...it's like their being who they really are....Relaxed, secure within themselves, etc;..that's just my opinion..

Bowling and beer would be a fun first date! And yes, I agree about sharing new experiences.

What do you mean by you probably won't get it right?

And I agree with your opinion.I feel that if this is "you",then you should be straight up and show the "date" the real person.
I like a casual date that is relaxed and open to conversation in a place without a lot of distraction,until we get to know each other a bit.Then I like outdoor things the best,weather permitting.

First meet? Definitely casual in jeans, with lavender scented flowing locks and a little lipstick.

I can't worry about snagging hose, breaking a heel or perspiring on silk on a first date/meet.

Plus we need to see each other like we are on an average day.
If we hit it off everything goes uphill then doesn't it?

I pull out the glam once in a while, but if you go on a first meet in beads and stilettos what are you going to do to top that look and what will he do to top that date?

Lets have coffee and a walk or a light lunch in a quaint pub.

As far as places to go on a date whether it be the first or tenth date make it places you enjoy but different as well. To many get stuck in a rut. I can have just as much fun playing horse shoes, going to the gun range, fishing , boating, playing putt putt. pool, swimming, bowling, movies, walking out in the woods ect it all depends what you like to do and the person your with.

As far as clothing one should always make it clear what they are going to do or what to at least wear in order for the other not to feel out of place.

Heck I went on a second date and we went too the gun range and actually had a great time. Putt Putt can be another thing wear you can be casual and see the person for how they interact with you.

Movies are great with someone you really want to be around but horrible first dates no way to talk and get to know each other. At least I don' prefer movies on the first date have done it did not like it.

This wasn't a thread specifically about first dates. However, I do like to keep things casual for a first date.

When if I have to eat dates than I'd prefer the softer ones.

Sometimes I enjoy getting to get all dolled up or cute looking and going out to eat with the guy I'm with... but I love staying at home and watching movies too (: