Topic: He asked me 2 be his Wife?
FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:30 PM

The key points are-

No love it's a overused useless word that to most explains the depth of their feelings for the one they hope to spend the rest of their lives with....


No sex yet, so no idea if it's good or sucks, if it will help keep the relationship going or ruin it...

No other options so the first and only offer is better than being alone...



All of those reasons spell DISASTER!!!!

I hope your parents married for LOVE and stayed together for LOVE...


My opinion is that you don't want to be alone so you'll accept him b/c he is your only option at this point..

You have no idea what love is so you negate the meaning....

You're 18 and feel like you know about the world, what you want and all there is to know...

You have no clue, you're getting ready to throw away good years of being young and having fun...

You WILL be divorced when you wake up in a couple of years and realize you made a mistake and want to live life and find "true love"...





Yes!

EquusDancer's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:31 PM


The key points are-

No love it's a overused useless word that to most explains the depth of their feelings for the one they hope to spend the rest of their lives with....


No sex yet, so no idea if it's good or sucks, if it will help keep the relationship going or ruin it...

No other options so the first and only offer is better than being alone...



All of those reasons spell DISASTER!!!!

I hope your parents married for LOVE and stayed together for LOVE...


My opinion is that you don't want to be alone so you'll accept him b/c he is your only option at this point..

You have no idea what love is so you negate the meaning....

You're 18 and feel like you know about the world, what you want and all there is to know...

You have no clue, you're getting ready to throw away good years of being young and having fun...

You WILL be divorced when you wake up in a couple of years and realize you made a mistake and want to live life and find "true love"...





Yes!


:thumbsup:

no photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:32 PM

The key points are-

No love it's a overused useless word that to most explains the depth of their feelings for the one they hope to spend the rest of their lives with....


No sex yet, so no idea if it's good or sucks, if it will help keep the relationship going or ruin it...

No other options so the first and only offer is better than being alone...



All of those reasons spell DISASTER!!!!

I hope your parents married for LOVE and stayed together for LOVE...


My opinion is that you don't want to be alone so you'll accept him b/c he is your only option at this point..

You have no idea what love is so you negate the meaning....

You're 18 and feel like you know about the world, what you want and all there is to know...

You have no clue, you're getting ready to throw away good years of being young and having fun...

You WILL be divorced when you wake up in a couple of years and realize you made a mistake and want to live life and find "true love"...

Or he leaves you b/c he wasn't ready either!




well if u set out to make me feel bad and cry u accomplished it

Winx's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:32 PM
How long have you been seeing him?

IndnPrncs's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:35 PM
I in no way intended to make you cry.. but honestly if it wakes you up then it's not a bad thing...

You don't know enough about the world to stop living it for YOU.. Give you some time.. Who cares if you're alone.. You have family and friends that love you and those are the people you will enjoy time with... IF he really cares about you then he'll understand and want to "date" not get married before you truly know what you want in life..


The people giving you advice in here are experienced people.. Some married and divorced, some never married but they've all one thing in common.. SINGLE and have had relationships that didn't work... More than one I can pretty much guarantee you...

If we don't know about mistakes who does? We're giving you advice most of us wish we had listened too years ago...

no photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:36 PM

How long have you been seeing him?

almost a year

Etrain's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:37 PM
smokin Don't do the crime if you can't do the timesmokin

kc0003's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:39 PM

I in no way intended to make you cry.. but honestly if it wakes you up then it's not a bad thing...

You don't know enough about the world to stop living it for YOU.. Give you some time.. Who cares if you're alone.. You have family and friends that love you and those are the people you will enjoy time with... IF he really cares about you then he'll understand and want to "date" not get married before you truly know what you want in life..


The people giving you advice in here are experienced people.. Some married and divorced, some never married but they've all one thing in common.. SINGLE and have had relationships that didn't work... More than one I can pretty much guarantee you...

If we don't know about mistakes who does? We're giving you advice most of us wish we had listened too years ago...







agreed...part of life is learning from you own mistakes, but you can learn just as much from other peoples as well. There is much to be said about experience and much to be learned...

no photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:40 PM

I in no way intended to make you cry.. but honestly if it wakes you up then it's not a bad thing...

You don't know enough about the world to stop living it for YOU.. Give you some time.. Who cares if you're alone.. You have family and friends that love you and those are the people you will enjoy time with... IF he really cares about you then he'll understand and want to "date" not get married before you truly know what you want in life..


The people giving you advice in here are experienced people.. Some married and divorced, some never married but they've all one thing in common.. SINGLE and have had relationships that didn't work... More than one I can pretty much guarantee you...

If we don't know about mistakes who does? We're giving you advice most of us wish we had listened too years ago...

oh please ive been in colorado for a year and have yet to make one friend that hasnt screwed me over and my family dont like me all that much so thats out, i swear u people talk to me like im ****ing stupid, i hate that

74Drew's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:41 PM
Edited by 74Drew on Mon 03/22/10 10:43 PM


agreed...part of life is learning from you own mistakes, but you can learn just as much from other peoples as well. There is much to be said about experience and much to be learned...

my mistake is learning from everyone else's mistakes. i've learned so much not to do that there's nothing else to do.

my other mistake was posting in this thread.




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FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:41 PM


I in no way intended to make you cry.. but honestly if it wakes you up then it's not a bad thing...

You don't know enough about the world to stop living it for YOU.. Give you some time.. Who cares if you're alone.. You have family and friends that love you and those are the people you will enjoy time with... IF he really cares about you then he'll understand and want to "date" not get married before you truly know what you want in life..


The people giving you advice in here are experienced people.. Some married and divorced, some never married but they've all one thing in common.. SINGLE and have had relationships that didn't work... More than one I can pretty much guarantee you...

If we don't know about mistakes who does? We're giving you advice most of us wish we had listened too years ago...

oh please ive been in colorado for a year and have yet to make one friend that hasnt screwed me over and my family dont like me all that much so thats out, i swear u people talk to me like im ****ing stupid, i hate that


Think about how it feels to have years of knowledge shoved back in your face and called absolute ****...

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:41 PM


I in no way intended to make you cry.. but honestly if it wakes you up then it's not a bad thing...

You don't know enough about the world to stop living it for YOU.. Give you some time.. Who cares if you're alone.. You have family and friends that love you and those are the people you will enjoy time with... IF he really cares about you then he'll understand and want to "date" not get married before you truly know what you want in life..


The people giving you advice in here are experienced people.. Some married and divorced, some never married but they've all one thing in common.. SINGLE and have had relationships that didn't work... More than one I can pretty much guarantee you...

If we don't know about mistakes who does? We're giving you advice most of us wish we had listened too years ago...

oh please ive been in colorado for a year and have yet to make one friend that hasnt screwed me over and my family dont like me all that much so thats out, i swear u people talk to me like im ****ing stupid, i hate that


no one is saying that. You asked for opinions and we are giving you them. Some of us have been around the block a bit and have life experience. You are a year younger than my son and I would say the same thing to him.

If you question it then you aren't ready and what's the rush?

IndnPrncs's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:44 PM
Well I think we should be nice mingle people and tell her what she wants to hear....




Marry him...

EquusDancer's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:45 PM

Well I think we should be nice mingle people and tell her what she wants to hear....




Marry him...


Okay.

Ain't no skin off my knuckles...

Feel free to marry him, and best of luck.

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:45 PM

Well I think we should be nice mingle people and tell her what she wants to hear....




Marry him...


and if it doesn't work out, we get blamed for bad advice??? no thank you....I stick to my guns on this

kc0003's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:45 PM



I in no way intended to make you cry.. but honestly if it wakes you up then it's not a bad thing...

You don't know enough about the world to stop living it for YOU.. Give you some time.. Who cares if you're alone.. You have family and friends that love you and those are the people you will enjoy time with... IF he really cares about you then he'll understand and want to "date" not get married before you truly know what you want in life..


The people giving you advice in here are experienced people.. Some married and divorced, some never married but they've all one thing in common.. SINGLE and have had relationships that didn't work... More than one I can pretty much guarantee you...

If we don't know about mistakes who does? We're giving you advice most of us wish we had listened too years ago...

oh please ive been in colorado for a year and have yet to make one friend that hasnt screwed me over and my family dont like me all that much so thats out, i swear u people talk to me like im ****ing stupid, i hate that


no one is saying that. You asked for opinions and we are giving you them. Some of us have been around the block a bit and have life experience. You are a year younger than my son and I would say the same thing to him.

If you question it then you aren't ready and what's the rush?







I would say the same thing to her son too...

74Drew's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:45 PM
i repeat:


i say marry him. the world's gonna end in 2.666 years anyway. and if it doesn't, you can divorce him and take half his stuff. it works out for you either way.


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yellowrose10's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:46 PM


I would say the same thing to her son too...


I'll have Adam contact you laugh

EquusDancer's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:46 PM

i repeat:


i say marry him. the world's gonna end in 2.666 years anyway. and if it doesn't, you can divorce him and take half his stuff. it works out for you either way.


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Nice!!!

IndnPrncs's photo
Mon 03/22/10 10:47 PM


Well I think we should be nice mingle people and tell her what she wants to hear....




Marry him...


and if it doesn't work out, we get blamed for bad advice??? no thank you....I stick to my guns on this




That's b/c you're meaner than me.... Meanie!