I work with this lady who brags all the time about herself. For
example: If she gets her nails done, instead of letting them show for
themselves, she brings it to my attention. If she gets
her hair done, she makes it a fact to tell everyone in the office....If
she buys new shoes, she points them out to everyone early in the
morning...... I feel like telling her to stop
with the bragging but I don't want to hurt her feelings....


Is bragging some form of insecurity? Did I miss that memo???
Should I tell her or ignore her insecurities?????? Or maybe I should
buy some earplugs.....

Insecurity
Conceited or ****y
The need to feel important

Because she is insecure and thinks she needs material things to make her
a better person!!!!!!!!

Queen you crack me up. Is there some way you can take her aside
and have a little chat that could lead to that.

Do other people in the office feel that way? If so that can be your
support

I brag but only about my daughter and my Kaite

just all about feeling insecure
earplugs sound good queenbee... hahahhahhahha just kidding

Maybe she's lonely, doesn't have friends to talk to and isn't sure how
to start conversations?

It seems like since I've got a lot going on in my own life....
I don't want to hear that %@#$%*^%&$$#$$$%%T%%%
everyday..........

I guess I'll buy the earplugs......However, I agree about her being
insecure.....

She must have a really boring life if that is what is important to
her... Seems like she wants to impress someone.

That's a good point Spider.... I never thought of
it that way.....DAMN! now I need a
drink
just
kidding....

In psychology, this is a form of overcompensation. A person who feels
inferior or who has low self-esteem will often say things which she
feels will elevate her standing with others. It's another version of
the Attention Whore which we've all come to know and love here!

There is a very common principle at work here, which comes into play in
a lot of different scenarios; i.e., the school bully is often a coward
who has decided to strike first, rather than be victimized; or the
rampant homophobe who is actually covering his doubts about his own
sexuality. The whole purpose is to mask the person's "true self" by
affecting a diametrically opposed persona.

People need to feel special... u know .. its an extension of their
personality... or shortcomings of it... u know .. like some men get big
pickup trucks to show for what they may not have any other places?? i
guess... not jus pickups... suvs... gods gift for those that dont have
it all lmao ... j/k.... kinda....


ps.... i drive a yugo hahahahaha.... cant afford a mini

I agree with you 110% Rain......I still feel it is O.K. to brag
sometimes, when you have something special to brag about but everyday
you go on your Brag-ga-Roo Routine
I don't think so......

sometime the truth could be a good reality check. maybe you should tell
her

I feel sometimes people brag because they were raised that way. If their
parents put an emphasis on the importance of being better than someone
else it could make them feel that way as an adult. I actually know a
couple of people like that. Other people brag to make themselves feel
good or they are just assholes.

Queen, I like to mess with folks like that. Usually what I do is say
something like - "you know, if you saved all the money you put into your
nails, you could afford a makeover" Then the next time, I say
something like, "I wonder how much a boob reduction/or/boob job would
cost". And when it happens again, I might say something like "that
probably cost you more than I donated to the woman's shelter last year".
I find these comments work best when made in front of others too.

I've never had to make more than three of these comments, then they quit
drawing my attention to their vanity. I like it that way, but it does
kind of take the fun out of it.

Hosea,

I agree with you for suggesting I try to tell her, but she is soooooo
busy bragging.... It's kind of
difficult. Here's the kicker, when she
brags, she brags over and over again about the same things to other
people and......I hear the same brags at least 4-5 times a day.....Like
I said earlier..... I MUST BUY
SOME EARPLUGS.....

Queen...

It seems to me as if she needs to be the center of attention. She is
probably pointing out all these things to make you notice them even
more. I would definately get ear plugs....seems like you need them
desperately

People might brag for many reasons. First of all they might lack
self-confidence and brag to make themselves feel better. By projecting
faults on others and uplifting their own spirits, they begin to feel
that they actually are something important in this world. Bragging also
occurs among people because they might not know their place at work or
at home.

By bragging, they will get attention and will feel they belong
somewhere. They could brag about anything ranging from, like your
friend, nails and anything insignificant to wealth or the lack of it.
When people are lonely, they might be under the wrong assumption that
by bragging, people will like them better and they will make more
friends.

If your work mate brags, and consistently does so, you have to help her
gain her self-confidence. You must show her that everyone will like her
more if she does not brag and she does not need to brag to get attention
and feel wanted. Bragging is a disease and it is a vicious one.


Depends on how well you know this person ( or want to get to know her)
take her to one side as some of the other JSH family have suggested, and
tell her in a firm yet gently way, the effects her bragging has on you.
Failing you telling her, get a senior member of staff to dish the dirt.

There's a colleague where I work who thinks he's better than all of us
striving toward our PhD's because he already has one...I want to a) slap
him b) tell him I make about 30 x more than him but I don't because
it would feed into his ickiness....any advice on that one?