People with a great sense of humor....never "say" "I have a great sense of humor."

is this frustrating for you?

whats that song that the tin man sings on the wizard of oz?

i don't take the profiles so seriously. it is just a brief thumbnail to give you an idea if the person is sensual, goofy, erudite, severe, dogmatic, quirky or vacant...

if they are very long my eyes get tired. if they are short they are rather uninformative. so nothing in them really annoys me very much. i read them and if they contain something i find interesting (or if i'm just in a friendly mood) i will often drop them a line. but not always. sometimes i am too busy with work or out of the country or something.

show me a sexy woman whose breast is >75% visible in profile due to a PLUNGING neckline and i'll show you a profile that gets plenty of views!

I don't care about spelling as long as they can communicate verbally...
and the tooting ones own horn gets old.

I'm awesome, fun, funny, my friends say I'm great...
duh, of course they do, their your friends.

This has happened to me twice! I am 5.11 barefoot. One guy I was chatting with said he was also 5.11 but it wouldn't bother him if I was taller wearing heels.

Our first date I wore 4 inch heels. We met at the restaurant and he showed up - all 5.7 of him! I was 6.3!!

He was embarrassed and I was irked but we still made the best of the evening.

I don't mind people saying they are funny or outgoing or whatever. I see profiles as "advertising", in a way. People are looking to entice people to get to know them. If something catches my eye (like humor because I love humor) I might email them to see if it's the same type of humor as mine or if they really do have a sense of humor.

I don't really like the ones saying they are hot because pictures can let others decide if they think that person is hot.

I agree with what s1owhand said



That's pretty much how I feel about profiles, myself

as far as pictures go...yes pictures will get more of a response than the mingle bubble. But there are people cautious about posting pictures for many reasons. Some aren't good reasons (cheating, etc) but people can steal pictures online and use them for fake profiles or whatever. That is why at times I post the avatars and I turn my pictures to private.

tru prolly but it doesnt entitle the viewer to make inappropriate comments or suggestions

block/delete works gentlemen

ya I actually hardly ever read them myself

Totally disagree in the parameters of DATING.

We're not talking 1st marriage here. They are usually referring to dating random people, and honestly that is only right to put your children first.

It's one thing to put your spouse who is the biological children's parent as a priority, because as the children see that love and committment modeled it is a positive example. That's THEIR daddy or mommy. Or a step parent even if the relationship is healthy and they love the kids as their own.

But to put someone who just came into your life above children who you have birthed, are raising and investing in the lives of .. that's wrong on so many levels.

They always have clothes on


and YES Harold......Proclaiming senses of humor bothers me

u r correct to sssume that I am talking in the context of stable long term relationships, and marriages

I do not agree that it only includes the biological parents. It is sometimes even more important for step parents to present a united front because of the relationship dynamics in blended families with children in the home (crying out for structure BTW). Divorced parents are sometimes so guilt ridden that they have a hard time here, and I am one (divorced parent whose been there done that) I am definitely talking in the context of the nuclear family whatever that happens to be. This does not include the occasional guy who I date...my kids seldom if ever even meet those men - because of exactly what u r saying. So I think we prolly agree on more than not, actually

Once again I have witnessed up close many many relationships fall apart because one or both parents put the chldren (who became spoiled and whiny) above not only their primary relationship partner, but before their own authority as well (the kids ran the household and were catered to at the EXPENSE of the adult relationship model-that is what is actually wrong on so many levels -look at what it teaches them- to expect to be catered to)

I have seen it time & time again, and to a lesser extent expereinced it. Children draw security from united loving parents who care for them, and they learn their place from where they learn to be self supporting, considerate, and independent adults who have grown up in a home wiht a functional model - be it bio or step, or adoptive parents. I have witnessed this success many times over also.

But as usual c'est la vie - we r entitled to our own opinions, and I expected disagreement on this because it is hard to explain what I mean.

First no one and I repeat not one person anywhere loves their children more than I love mine. no matter how much I love my sons, it is a different type of love and obligation than that to my marital partner - anything else is just too weird -

for example, My fiance and I have a pre-planned important anniversary dinner, but Sally Sue decides she wants to go to Kings Island...really? ummm answer is no Sally Sue, but that does not mean she is not first in my life. It means she goes to King's Isalnd some other time because the world does not revolve around her and she needs to learn that at a young age.

All I know is that it's amazing how many don't get how important their kids are to that person. So I can see putting that on a profile. Sad to have to put that disclaimer on a profile, but some people just don't get it.

I've dated some before where they thought I should be able to leave my child (when he was younger) at the drop of a hat to go out.

Not to disagree with the obvious YR......it just SHOULD be OBVIOUS!!!
If it weren't, that wouldn't be anyone "I" would want to know.



In other words...should be a "given".

yeah...it should be lol. But I understand (after guys I've dated) putting that disclaimer. Some people....men and women don't get it.

so.... you can't get a babysitter........but what about "ME"

you want to baby sit? gotta warn ya....my son is 19 now

I know it's sad to feel the need to put that on a profile....but it beats a smack on the head

It "is" LMAO

EDIT: "a smack in the head"......like my contemporaries becoming Grandparents...TFF!!!