Topic: hi
sexyin07's photo
Wed 06/23/10 11:20 PM
i need some addvice i have a new man in my life and he treats me really great but my ex boyfriend is really jealous and has threated to hurt himself if i dont go back to him what should i do.

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 06/23/10 11:24 PM
Edited by IndnPrncs on Wed 06/23/10 11:27 PM
Do what makes you happy.. If your ex hurts himself that is his unfortunate choice... You can't stop him and his manipulating you to get you back is dishonest and lacks integrity... Anyone that would do hurt themeselves over another person is unstable...

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 06/23/10 11:30 PM
Hand him his instrument of choice and tell him to have at it.

One of two things will happen.

He'll either figure out that you are actually done with him and realize that the manipulation won't work.

Or

He'll go ahead and hurt himself which will point out the fact that he is mentally ill and isn't someone you need to have in your life at this time anyway.

sexyin07's photo
Wed 06/23/10 11:33 PM
thanks for the advice the other problem is this ex of mine has a son. and i dont want his son to see his dad hurt himself.

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 06/23/10 11:35 PM
he won't hurt himself, he's playing you... As I said it's unfortunate if he really does but even more unfortunate if the child has to be raised with the same threats... Life isn't something to mess with.. If he thinks so little of it then hopefully he's an organ donor and can save someone who knows how to cherish life...

sexyin07's photo
Wed 06/23/10 11:40 PM
ok good i hope he really dosent hurt himself his son needs his dad.

kc0003's photo
Wed 06/23/10 11:49 PM
i know there is a reason he is an "ex" and now you have yet another to keep it that way.

he is trying to rule your life, you have to move forward even though that means leaving him behind. you are NOT responsible for his actions no matter how much he tries to convince you otherwise.

remove yourself from his control, as fast and as far from it as you can.

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 06/23/10 11:52 PM
Ok....here's my suggestion...it's gonna sound kinda harsh but...



Stop worrying about what he " might " do. Especially when it isn't very likely anyway.

START concerning yourself with what is best FOR YOU.

no photo
Thu 06/24/10 01:24 AM
Young lady, if his threats of self injury are serious call the suicide help line or police to protect him!
One may want to be judgemental when it comes to ex's. And I ask members of this site on situations such as this to guardedly give advice.....
I do not know of your relationship and obviously you have moved forward....
Report your ex as a risk of life to himself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OKCUTIE67's photo
Thu 06/24/10 10:15 AM
I had this situation with my first ex when I left, although minus the kid. He would call me drunk and threaten to kill himself. Knowing his house was full of guns, even though I didn't really think he would do anything, I contacted his family and told them what he had been doing. His mom said she would take care of it and that was the end of that! She probably whooped him right into shape! :laughing:

thayet153's photo
Thu 06/24/10 01:15 PM

i need some addvice i have a new man in my life and he treats me really great but my ex boyfriend is really jealous and has threated to hurt himself if i dont go back to him what should i do.



When your ex boyfriend threatened to hurt himself if you don't go back to him is showing me that he is trying to control you. That is the biggest warning flag that he is abusive. My advise to you is to forget about him, and be happy with the new man that you are with. Do not ever let anyone control you.

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 06/24/10 01:50 PM

Young lady, if his threats of self injury are serious call the suicide help line or police to protect him!
One may want to be judgemental when it comes to ex's. And I ask members of this site on situations such as this to guardedly give advice.....
I do not know of your relationship and obviously you have moved forward....
Report your ex as a risk of life to himself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Good point on calling someone... I think the other advice was just fine and had nothing to do with being an ex but with manipulating her which is the case the majority of the time...

freeonthree's photo
Thu 06/24/10 08:18 PM

i need some addvice i have a new man in my life and he treats me really great but my ex boyfriend is really jealous and has threated to hurt himself if i dont go back to him what should i do.


Threatening to hurt himself is scarey stuff. You may want to discuss that with someone, in case he's serious. Good luck with the new squeeze bigsmile