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Does one ever really stop talking about an ex/exes? You don't ever not talk about your childhood. Bits and pieces will still come up. So wouldn't that happen with an ex? One hopes you've worked past the pain and handled the lesson and one certainly hopes the bitterness stops showing. How do you let the other person know that when you bring the ex up its just a comment and not a dwelling upon that person? Or will one actually reach a point where no memories bring up an ex? When you get to that emotional level where you have no reason anymore to really talk about the pain you feel from that failed relationship and realize that laying blame is immature and non productive, you will stop talking about the ex/es pretty much. You may bring them up in a conversation started by someone about one of their exes but it will usually be in a good light and it will be quick and not a dwelling situation. We show our own growth and maturity when we get over the relationship without holding it against the other party. My experience here of course. This is where I am. If it comes up it does. I try to not project my bitterness from the one ex, though I'm sure it happens. I really don't dwell over it, as I don't truly care anymore. But I know some people go on and on about their exes, and some can take the exes as a good thing, so it comes across more wistful. |
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That dirty no good rotten ****?
 Why, I say nothing but loving things about her.  Though, she is DEAD to me. 
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I do talk about my ex sometimes because we did share a life together and we have been divorce many years. We share 5 boys together.
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Edited by
RainbowTrout
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Fri 07/30/10 08:35 PM
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Men hate when I bring up Roy not because I whine and complain because I tell them he's a great guy!  I wouldn't complain. You could even bringing up his name while we are having sex. And I agree he is a great guy. Roy |
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I do talk about my ex sometimes because we did share a life together and we have been divorce many years. We share 5 boys together. I'm the same way. I don't see how I could ever go through the rest of my life never bringing up my ex because we were together 10 years and have a son together. I don't bring him up unnecessarily in conversation though. I respect the fact that someone I'm dating doesn't want to hear about him if he can help it and I'd expect the same of him. But I think if he were to come up once in a blue moon and the man I was with had a huge problem with that, then that would represent insecurity on his part. |
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I bring my ex in conversation. I had a ex named Teresa and a girlfriend named Theresa. While working with one nurse named Teresa I had to differentiate that in my mind. The reason being the nurse was actually my boss. But see I got paid for the nurse bossing me around. The ex never paid me for me bossing me around.
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My ex and I are great friends. It is not a bad thing and I would have no issue introducing her to anyone. She will remain a part of my life. We were friends before the marriage, during the marriage and after the divorce....As it should be..
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I thought about, and talked about, my 'ex' on a daily basis.
And now, we're back together. ________________________ Talking about, or mentioning someone, does show that they, at least momentarily, are on your mind... so, if you're trying to make a new relationship work and can't stop yourself from thinking about an ex... it may or may not be a sign of some type or another. This isn't the best post I've ever made. Perhaps once I've gotten some sleep, I'll have a few words of more refined wisdom to share. either way, good luck dear. |
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Edited by
RainbowTrout
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Fri 07/30/10 10:21 PM
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I thought about, and talked about, my 'ex' on a daily basis. And now, we're back together. ________________________ Talking about, or mentioning someone, does show that they, at least momentarily, are on your mind... so, if you're trying to make a new relationship work and can't stop yourself from thinking about an ex... it may or may not be a sign of some type or another. This isn't the best post I've ever made. Perhaps once I've gotten some sleep, I'll have a few words of more refined wisdom to share. either way, good luck dear. Great answer. I married my ex twice. I exed out my ex and now we are both even. But she is still my ex. Some how the math just doesn't work out if you look at it from factoring. 
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If Im on a date with someone who constantly brings up thier ex, thats a major red flag to me. I run from that like my *** was on fire.
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