Walk towards the light...

(wrong "moving on"?)

I agree... don't fight yourself. Listen to your feelings and find wisdom from them... then use that wisdom the next time around... sounds like philosophic BS but it works too. GL.

Trying to give an explanation as to how one should move on is tough to do. I say this because all of us are different people. We can "hear" good advice from someone, and deep down we will probably believe it is the best advice out there. But to actually use that advice, and apply it? Well, that is another thing.

I find that when you break-up from a relationship that was awesome at the beginning, and then went sour at the end, those are the hardest to move along from. You invest yourself into it because you believe that the relationship is what you truly want. It hurts like hell to see something fall to pieces, especially when you have put time and energy into it. Thing is, we all know that relationships can end, and yet we never think about it happening because we feel that it won't not work.

When it does end, you have to grieve. If you didn't, I don't think you would really be human. Feelings aren't a bad thing to have, and it isn't a bad thing to admit that recovery from a relationship (long term) will take time. You can't mope around though. You have to be constructive, and not destructive. How you do that? Well, hobbies like gardening, or running, or anything that will keep you going. And you can't begin to believe that having a relationship is meaningless. Because deep down, all of us want to be with someone in an awesome relationship.

Some people use their faith in God to help them. Some use their beliefs in other religions to help as well. These are not bad things either. I always say that if prayer helps you, and it helps you become more connected to whatever God you pray to, then by all means, do it. Having friends and family to laugh and to do silly things with is great as well.

The emotional part of moving on is tough. And you will have days when you cry for no reason, or feel sad for no reason. Happens to men and women. And like I stated earlier, each person will move along in different ways. Some, sadly, never really do. You can't hold onto the past because it will never allow you to fully enjoy the future.

beer and doughnuts

Best answer EVER!

I wish it was so easy