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Am I the only one who has ever noticed? That the stuff people put on thier About me sections. Are more like things they would say at Job interviews. And less like the things they'ld say to someone at a bar. Or to someone who they are trying to pick up.
I suppose it has a lot to do with what type of relationship they are looking for. But still, the whole fun in dating is getting to know someone. In the process you either fall in love. Or learn that that particular person is not the type you should or want to be dating at all. Knowing to much about someone right off the bat. Ruins a lot of the fun in dating or even hooking up for one night stands. |
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A lot of people probably struggle with "how much is too much" or they think that they need to exagerate just a little when really they should just be themselves. I guess that's just how I tried to do it, haha.
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hu I put allot into my about me section and you both just opened my eyes to how formal I sound. Wow. its pretty bad. Well its true but I realy need to liven it up. Oh and CB your about you page rocks by the way.
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I see it as more of a personal ad, depending on what you are looking for.
People (well some do) read profiles. If it says something I'm not interested in, then I can read it and pass it by. Someone might have an interest or something that catches my eye and I might email them. |
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hu I put allot into my about me section and you both just opened my eyes to how formal I sound. Wow. its pretty bad. Well its true but I realy need to liven it up. Oh and CB your about you page rocks by the way. haha, I'm a bit of a pro. Been around here for a while, but thank you :) And basically, I think it's best to just throw out a good mix of real stuff about yourself. If you just leave it as a list of your favorite bands and your weekend hobbies you'll have nothing to use as small talk for those awkward moments on first dates! Think about some things you'd want people to really know that they can't get form your pictures or your job title. Who are you as a person? |
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Hmmm i wonder how many people on here are actually just looking for a one night stand...
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Edited by
Justin68
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Sat 09/04/10 07:07 AM
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LOL, Jamie I posed that exact question on a completely different thread.
yeah, just like in a bar or other social setting. it has a lot to do with looks. I mean EVERYONE will click on a profile of a person they are attracted to. few people actually read those profiles. I think you should be honest in your profile. But at the same time make it simple. I mean you want to make so people know exactly what you are looking for. But at the same time, you want them to want to get to know you better. I am looking for strictly sex hook ups. I'm not financially stable enough to date. Let alone start a relationship. But that isn't to say people who are looking for strictly sexual hook ups. Can't fall in love. And there are some women on here who are just looking for sexual hook ups. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't post pictures of themselves. So they admit that is what they want. But are still so embarrassed and or ashamed of it. That they won't use real pictures of themselves. I'm getting off subject. I believe you should be honest and simple. Short and sweet in your about me sections. |
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Edited by
Kings_Knight
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Sat 09/04/10 07:19 AM
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I put some stuff into my profile deliberately so as to weed out on the front end the ones who'd never agree with my positions - saves a lot of time 'n trouble later on. I know it works by the nasty li'l unsolicitied emails I get from 'em - at which point I just kinda chuckle and delete 'em ... they don't realize the profile has just served its purpose ...
As to your problem - you DO realize no woman is gonna put up a profile with the magic letters 'C F M' in it, right ... ? |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Sat 09/04/10 07:31 AM
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LOL, Jamie I posed that exact question on a completely different thread. yeah, just like in a bar or other social setting. it has a lot to do with looks. I mean EVERYONE will click on a profile of a person they are attracted to. few people actually read those profiles. I think you should be honest in your profile. But at the same time make it simple. I mean you want to make so people know exactly what you are looking for. But at the same time, you want them to want to get to know you better. I am looking for strictly sex hook ups. I'm not financially stable enough to date. Let alone start a relationship. But that isn't to say people who are looking for strictly sexual hook ups. Can't fall in love. And there are some women on here who are just looking for sexual hook ups. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't post pictures of themselves. So they admit that is what they want. But are still so embarrassed and or ashamed of it. That they won't use real pictures of themselves. I'm getting off subject. I believe you should be honest and simple. Short and sweet in your about me sections. By "make it simple" do you mean more like your profile? You maybe honest in your profile, but it tells very little about you. If I were looking through profiles, I'd probably pass yours by, as it's so short and doesn't say much. Though, when you're just looking for sex, I guess you don't need to say much. But, as with anything else, it all comes down to preferences. Sounds more like you just don't want to read longer profiles. Of course, that's your choice. |
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I put some stuff into my profile deliberately so as to weed out on the front end the ones who'd never agree with my positions - saves a lot of time 'n trouble later on. I know it works by the nasty li'l unsolicitied emails I get from 'em - at which point I just kinda chuckle and delete 'em ... they don't realize the profile has just served its purpose ... As to your problem - you DO realize no woman is gonna put up a profile with the magic letters 'C F M' in it, right ... ? You'ld be surprised |
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Hmmm i wonder how many people on here are actually just looking for a one night stand...  HA HA HA!!!! |
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LOL, Jamie I posed that exact question on a completely different thread. yeah, just like in a bar or other social setting. it has a lot to do with looks. I mean EVERYONE will click on a profile of a person they are attracted to. few people actually read those profiles. I think you should be honest in your profile. But at the same time make it simple. I mean you want to make so people know exactly what you are looking for. But at the same time, you want them to want to get to know you better. I am looking for strictly sex hook ups. I'm not financially stable enough to date. Let alone start a relationship. But that isn't to say people who are looking for strictly sexual hook ups. Can't fall in love. And there are some women on here who are just looking for sexual hook ups. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't post pictures of themselves. So they admit that is what they want. But are still so embarrassed and or ashamed of it. That they won't use real pictures of themselves. I'm getting off subject. I believe you should be honest and simple. Short and sweet in your about me sections. By "make it simple" do you mean more like your profile? You maybe honest in your profile, but it tells very little about you. If I were looking through profiles, I'd probably pass yours by, as it's so short and doesn't say much. Though, when you're just looking for sex, I guess you don't need to say much. But, as with anything else, it all comes down to preferences. Sounds more like you just don't want to read longer profiles. Of course, that's your choice. Sex or dinner and a movie. Reading someones profile, I really don't care what someones career goals are. someone else pointed out, that is the kind of thing you make small talk over. That also tells me that that particular girl will put her "career" infront of ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP she is looking for. If I read your profile and know everything about you. Then what would we talk about through e-mails and what have you? My profile tells you what i watch on TV, What kind of hobbies I have. What I do with my free time. And the type of relationship i am looking for. At the same time, it is open. Which leaves something for someone who would be interested to ask or talk about. Look these are profiles for people looking to meet people for Dating, love and YES SEX! Even if you are looking for marrige, do you really want to know what someones educational and career goals are? it's not a JOB interview. it's people Saying "Hi, I like you" |
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LOL, Jamie I posed that exact question on a completely different thread. yeah, just like in a bar or other social setting. it has a lot to do with looks. I mean EVERYONE will click on a profile of a person they are attracted to. few people actually read those profiles. I think you should be honest in your profile. But at the same time make it simple. I mean you want to make so people know exactly what you are looking for. But at the same time, you want them to want to get to know you better. I am looking for strictly sex hook ups. I'm not financially stable enough to date. Let alone start a relationship. But that isn't to say people who are looking for strictly sexual hook ups. Can't fall in love. And there are some women on here who are just looking for sexual hook ups. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't post pictures of themselves. So they admit that is what they want. But are still so embarrassed and or ashamed of it. That they won't use real pictures of themselves. I'm getting off subject. I believe you should be honest and simple. Short and sweet in your about me sections. By "make it simple" do you mean more like your profile? You maybe honest in your profile, but it tells very little about you. If I were looking through profiles, I'd probably pass yours by, as it's so short and doesn't say much. Though, when you're just looking for sex, I guess you don't need to say much. But, as with anything else, it all comes down to preferences. Sounds more like you just don't want to read longer profiles. Of course, that's your choice. Sex or dinner and a movie. Reading someones profile, I really don't care what someones career goals are. someone else pointed out, that is the kind of thing you make small talk over. That also tells me that that particular girl will put her "career" infront of ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP she is looking for. If I read your profile and know everything about you. Then what would we talk about through e-mails and what have you? My profile tells you what i watch on TV, What kind of hobbies I have. What I do with my free time. And the type of relationship i am looking for. At the same time, it is open. Which leaves something for someone who would be interested to ask or talk about. Look these are profiles for people looking to meet people for Dating, love and YES SEX! Even if you are looking for marrige, do you really want to know what someones educational and career goals are? it's not a JOB interview. it's people Saying "Hi, I like you" You're right. I never know what to say in those things. But I'm positive I'm not going to look for someone who has a PhD, but DOESN'T like sex. |
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Edited by
IndnPrncs
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Sat 09/04/10 11:22 AM
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Sometimes they may be like job interviews.. That's the wonderful thing about people "they are all different".. I say to each their own.. I used to have quite a lot in my profile and the purpose was to keep those that wouldn't click with my preferences, career, family, hobbies, etc away... Then I changed it to say pretty much nothing b/c that can also keep people away..
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with all the changes I made to my profile yesterday I cant seem to think of anything else to spice it up. ahh ill give it a while as is I guess.
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LOL, Jamie I posed that exact question on a completely different thread. yeah, just like in a bar or other social setting. it has a lot to do with looks. I mean EVERYONE will click on a profile of a person they are attracted to. few people actually read those profiles. I think you should be honest in your profile. But at the same time make it simple. I mean you want to make so people know exactly what you are looking for. But at the same time, you want them to want to get to know you better. I am looking for strictly sex hook ups. I'm not financially stable enough to date. Let alone start a relationship. But that isn't to say people who are looking for strictly sexual hook ups. Can't fall in love. And there are some women on here who are just looking for sexual hook ups. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't post pictures of themselves. So they admit that is what they want. But are still so embarrassed and or ashamed of it. That they won't use real pictures of themselves. I'm getting off subject. I believe you should be honest and simple. Short and sweet in your about me sections. By "make it simple" do you mean more like your profile? You maybe honest in your profile, but it tells very little about you. If I were looking through profiles, I'd probably pass yours by, as it's so short and doesn't say much. Though, when you're just looking for sex, I guess you don't need to say much. But, as with anything else, it all comes down to preferences. Sounds more like you just don't want to read longer profiles. Of course, that's your choice. Sex or dinner and a movie. Reading someones profile, I really don't care what someones career goals are. someone else pointed out, that is the kind of thing you make small talk over. That also tells me that that particular girl will put her "career" infront of ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP she is looking for. If I read your profile and know everything about you. Then what would we talk about through e-mails and what have you? My profile tells you what i watch on TV, What kind of hobbies I have. What I do with my free time. And the type of relationship i am looking for. At the same time, it is open. Which leaves something for someone who would be interested to ask or talk about. Look these are profiles for people looking to meet people for Dating, love and YES SEX! Even if you are looking for marrige, do you really want to know what someones educational and career goals are? it's not a JOB interview. it's people Saying "Hi, I like you" How does having career goals mean they put their career before anything else? I'd be more worried about those who have no goals at all. And if you think you've learned everything about someone by reading their profile and can't think of anything else at all to talk about/email about, you're obviously not going to get far with that person. As prncs said, we're all different. If the profile you look at doesn't interest you, just move onto the next person. Should be easy enough, right? |
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LOL, Jamie I posed that exact question on a completely different thread. yeah, just like in a bar or other social setting. it has a lot to do with looks. I mean EVERYONE will click on a profile of a person they are attracted to. few people actually read those profiles. I think you should be honest in your profile. But at the same time make it simple. I mean you want to make so people know exactly what you are looking for. But at the same time, you want them to want to get to know you better. I am looking for strictly sex hook ups. I'm not financially stable enough to date. Let alone start a relationship. But that isn't to say people who are looking for strictly sexual hook ups. Can't fall in love. And there are some women on here who are just looking for sexual hook ups. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't post pictures of themselves. So they admit that is what they want. But are still so embarrassed and or ashamed of it. That they won't use real pictures of themselves. I'm getting off subject. I believe you should be honest and simple. Short and sweet in your about me sections. By "make it simple" do you mean more like your profile? You maybe honest in your profile, but it tells very little about you. If I were looking through profiles, I'd probably pass yours by, as it's so short and doesn't say much. Though, when you're just looking for sex, I guess you don't need to say much. But, as with anything else, it all comes down to preferences. Sounds more like you just don't want to read longer profiles. Of course, that's your choice. Sex or dinner and a movie. Reading someones profile, I really don't care what someones career goals are. someone else pointed out, that is the kind of thing you make small talk over. That also tells me that that particular girl will put her "career" infront of ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP she is looking for. If I read your profile and know everything about you. Then what would we talk about through e-mails and what have you? My profile tells you what i watch on TV, What kind of hobbies I have. What I do with my free time. And the type of relationship i am looking for. At the same time, it is open. Which leaves something for someone who would be interested to ask or talk about. Look these are profiles for people looking to meet people for Dating, love and YES SEX! Even if you are looking for marrige, do you really want to know what someones educational and career goals are? it's not a JOB interview. it's people Saying "Hi, I like you" How does having career goals mean they put their career before anything else? I'd be more worried about those who have no goals at all. And if you think you've learned everything about someone by reading their profile and can't think of anything else at all to talk about/email about, you're obviously not going to get far with that person. As prncs said, we're all different. If the profile you look at doesn't interest you, just move onto the next person. Should be easy enough, right? I agree Sing.. The last thing I would be interested in is someone without goals or a career... The way a person writes can also be a key to whether or not you might or might not click... For instance if their profile is about how they were screwed over and goes on and on, you know that they still aren't over the past and they tell their life story for all to see.. Whining and not being able to move on are no goes for me... |
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Am I the only one who has ever noticed? That the stuff people put on thier About me sections. Are more like things they would say at Job interviews. And less like the things they'ld say to someone at a bar. Or to someone who they are trying to pick up. I suppose it has a lot to do with what type of relationship they are looking for. But still, the whole fun in dating is getting to know someone. In the process you either fall in love. Or learn that that particular person is not the type you should or want to be dating at all. Knowing to much about someone right off the bat. Ruins a lot of the fun in dating or even hooking up for one night stands. The vast majority of the ones I read are "I don't know what to write here" or "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" or endless strings of cliches that are found in everybody else's profiles. And, it's true, that sort of profile tells me everything I need to know about that person! 
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Am I the only one who has ever noticed? That the stuff people put on thier About me sections. Are more like things they would say at Job interviews. And less like the things they'ld say to someone at a bar. Or to someone who they are trying to pick up. I suppose it has a lot to do with what type of relationship they are looking for. But still, the whole fun in dating is getting to know someone. In the process you either fall in love. Or learn that that particular person is not the type you should or want to be dating at all. Knowing to much about someone right off the bat. Ruins a lot of the fun in dating or even hooking up for one night stands. I understand what you are saying about having a "surprise" effect - and that being part of the fun; however, I don't want to waste my time. If I don't discuss my deal-breakers in my bio section then I am setting myself up for meeting the wrong person. I don't exclusively use this dating site to meet guys. I also meet guys in every day life. While the in-person experience makes it more fun - the arduous task of finding out whether he has kids, has an education, hasn't been to jail, etc, can suck the fun out of dating. To me, that is more like a job interview. I don't want to find out 2 weeks later I am dating an ex con, who is a meth freak, bible thumping misogynist with a litter of kids and a 7th grade education!  |
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I understand what you are saying about having a "surprise" effect - and that being part of the fun; however, I don't want to waste my time. If I don't discuss my deal-breakers in my bio section then I am setting myself up for meeting the wrong person. Melody, I just want to say "Thank You!" on this one. I've tried to make it very very clear, in my profile, as to what I'm looking for and NOT looking for. I get a lot of profile views here, and only about 10% of those people ever contact me. I think a large part of that is because the others have read my profile and realize we would not be a good match. As it stands, the majority (I should say "entirety," to be accurate!) of people who do contact me, stating that they're interested in starting something, are people who are excluded by my deal-breakers, as stated in the profile. Either they didn't read that far or they somehow decided they can change my mind! But imagine how much worse it could be if I DIDN'T mention my deal-breakers in my profile....! |
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