How do I move on when my boyfriend finally decides to date some one eles after we dated for a yr.and half?Also,my ex cop friend wanted me to date him I wan't ready you know splitsville with the ex.He killed himself,which I found he had alot on his plate with the ex wife couldn't handle her being with another man and he had financial problems all this in the same week.I just feel I don't want to get close to another man ever again,and get hurt.How do you get past the hurt and move on?

Dr. Phill do you want to get this one.

Just take some time to find yourself. No one can answer this question but you. Don't rush anything at all. I was with my ex for 3 1/2 years. Plus we have a kid together. He left for another girl. You know it only took me 2 weeks to get over him. But that is just me. You need to decide this for yourself.

blm12366barbie, we all experience heartache after a breakup because we wish to have our self-worth validated by another person.

We have to realize that our self worth does not depend on another person.

You are beautiful even if no man is around who will remind you that you are beautiful.

Of course you will still hurt because of the empty spot that is now in your life. Yet, you will survive.

You know shortly after I ended my marriage a friend of mine died a couple days after I returned home......I had plans to meet with him that week......I don't think even 8 years later that he doesn't cross my mind and I miss him.........but it does get easier.......just take time to breath relax and enjoy the fact you are still here stronger with each new sunrise and sunset.......and if you need to write your feelings down sometimes it helps to release things like sorrow and heartbreak

You are so right!!Thanks

Really the breakup I knew was coming,I was fine with it but didn't think he would start dating so soon.A girl had just moved in the same apt.building above him.The weekend I was @ the beach.He said he was upset over me and drank some window cleaner and had been drinkn.The new guy upstairs seen him laying outside.When I got back I could tell his mind wasn't with me.He was wanting to stay home instead of coming to my place.Keep his new cell ph. in the car or turn it off when I did see him.Come to find out I went by seen him and the girl.I asked how long they had been seeing each other he said a week.He got with her the day we brokeup ,I asked her so you just moved in upstairs she said yes.I just had a feeling that day he was not innocent I found that he isn't.Really for two months he had been hiding his phone ever since he started that new job.Normally he never keeps a job longer than two weeks .Wonder what eles he's lied about?When I first moved in my apt a few yrs ago he lived across from me he got me to date him.Guess now I know there's a pattern.So he actually got evicted moved to his new apt now ,goes and does the same thing.I wasted a year and half with him!!!!It least I found out now I guess.Just I cooked for him everyday.If I went to his house he never had any food.I would bring stuff and cook there.My daughter said he was using me!!I'm 36 he is 24.He said he allways liked older women.He also said he would get bored with other girls after like 4months.but he was with me longer.I'm just gonna get over it.I have never been with someone and they leave me!!Thanks for responding to me on this it really does help.

Also,my ex cop friend that killed himself.I don't understand why.People say he couldn't handle life anymore.His brother is still mad ,I think the same thing .His kids ,mom and brother and friends he didn't care it seems, he's selfish and should of been here for the kids and family itleast.I guess I'm glad I didn't date him knowing now he was capable of that!!He still has a special place in my heart.

Well. I got some brutal honesty for you here. I hope this helps.
For me, it would help. It's easier getting over something if you realize there really wasn't anything to get over.

According to the limited information you provided, this was a young, immature kid who really didn't have feelings for you. Or respect. He took advantage of your kindness and on your end, you gave but never expected reciprocity. If you don't get back what you give, you're with a user. A taker. And to be in a one sided relationship.... and stay a year and a half?

Please don't start dating again yet. You need to build up your self worth again. And date a mature guy. Age not withstanding... you just need maturity.

I completely agree with Lilith.

Thanks and I finally see the light!!

I think it was the sex ,maybe that's what my problem is with this whole thing.It was really good.

U cannot build a relationship on sex. U must take time to know who that person is and what they want. a young kid like him was looking for a sexy mother type that he could sleep with and would take care of him. Good thing hes gone. Move on ur better than that.

So true!!!what do you do when your addicted?????????HA,Ha
Yeah ,Get with someone eles !!!!!They keep telling me that.I just can't!!!!!!!!!But It would help!!!!!!!!!!Twisted !!He got me Twisted,He use to say I got him Twisted!!!!!!

You guys are gre8t!!Tell me like it is!!

i would say breaking up with a girlfriend or boyfriend is really hard to deal with if you two been together for a long time, for me i cry for a few days and i don't sleep good and after awhile it just gets better, what i do is try and not to think about it or worry myself sick, after a few weeks or a month the pain just goes away and i for get about them and move on,