Topic: define love
FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 11/02/10 02:12 PM
Do not explain my logic like you know what it is.

FFS, I hate when people put words in mouth like they know what the hell they are talking about.

davidben1's photo
Tue 11/02/10 04:11 PM
believing there is no logic in love, and no true knowing of what it be, is why more and more grope in the dark each day, as zombies doing the same things each day, and expecting a different result, and blaming many others for not "loving self".

lol...

the very essence of seeking to procure love for self, is against the premise of love.

if one love something, set it free.

free from what?

expecting another to give "any certain emotion to self, to make self feel better about itself.

such indeed makes the "feelings of love", that exist in humans themself already, harder and harder to feel, so these that believe such be "love", become more demanding to "feel" such, and for others to "provide such", more and more each day, and thus the less inclination or true want of another to "show them love"...

as anything that endorse "love is to get love feelings for self", goes against the very action's of love itself, and wonders why it feels not the love, or not in love anymore...

sure, two can meet, and have such feelings mutually, if there be equal admiration, but, as each day progress, the belief that self has the "right" to be loved, shall create more words and actions of each, that make the other naturally NOT FEEL SO LOVING TOWARD THEM, and so certainly, not wanting to HAVE SEX, OR BE INTIMATE, and then, the demands as the infantile child do begin, lol...

and wa lah, jerry springer hath risen to stardom, for he found the demanders of love in society, do provide him much gain for himself, lol....

the notion that has come to be accepted, that love is but another telling self how awesome it is, is ludicris, and actually goes against any belief that no human is perfect, for if anything even dare tell of how or what self might not be perfect, it has come to be believed that such is SURELY NOT LOVE, lol...

love is one saying to another, tell me how i ****ed up today.

why, if such was spoken, then the want to tell another their lackings, with the most love possible, would be created.

love is asking another to tell self how anything i did hurt you today.

tell me how anything i did or said gave you negative feelings today, and then hearing such FEEDBACK as true, the self deeming this as the most prized information on planet earth, to teach self about OTHER'S, AND NOT ITSELF.

the belief that some other is "supposed" to afford love "feelings" to self, be the very blindness that create humans into nothing but takers as vampire of other's, then quickly become demanders, then some even attempted forcers of other's to give self what it wants, for ITSELF?

please, all such shitty behaviour first came from believing self has the "right' to be loved...

and all the while, the one perpetrating such actions of themself against other's are declaring "oh, i love you", so much"!?

********.

hoggy wash for swine, that snort and smell their "love me" victims for sizing up if these shall be a tasty treat for self, lol...

to love the feelings another gives self for itself, has not one iota to do with loving another person, but rather only about what they "give to self".

if one loves another it wishes to take nothing from another, not in just "material things", but as in no "emotions" for self.

of course, these shall complain more each day, about how another does not suite their "own feelings", somehow convincing themself this is "love".

if two are in a relationship, doing this to each other, of course it will fail in time, the quicker the more this mentality has been embraced in life...

for each relationship entered into, each is trying more desperatley, due to the increased fear of no love for self, to suck the life out of the other, to sustain it's own craving for "desired emotion's" from another...

and if it's been some time since any "giving to self" relationship, these are such cravers of "love feelings" from other's, they literally act as a child, that tries to slam down a glass over a buttetfly, to keep it for itself as quickly as possible, as to not let "love escape", and even as the butterfly gasping and dying, they are content in themself for having captured "love for themself"...

a total cycle of abuse, with each one believing "itself" be the true lover of the other, and the other as the "none lover".

the only thing that could ever cure such infinity debate as to whom be the "loving" with "real love", would be true sight of what "love" actually is...

but, this is not wanted to be known, as if anything did hear what any true love be, than itself would have to admit itself be at fault, and the guilty party of no true love, and that would "hurt" self too much, and, ACTUALLY MAKE SELF HAVE TO DO DIFFERENT, LOL...

and what be the greatest plague of human existence, that human anturally run from?

self as possibly the one in the wrong, lol...

yea, just tell me how i'm right, or your a "hater"!

and, a so a none "lover", lol...

the very first premise of love, is to value what another wants, even if it does not "give to self" what it wants.

but the jealousy, and the envy, and competition is embraced as "love", lol...

uh huh...

to believe other's are to give self love feelings, is the opposite of love, and why "single dating sites" grow expidentially each day.

these that believe such things be love, actually wanted in the beginning nothing but "love" for themself, which controlled all their life's words and deeds, convincing themself they loved, but if they did, then not getting back would have never angered them.

it was never even love to start with, but rather self greed and self centeredness and self opportunity run amock.

self opportunists, declaring they "love" so much, lol...

why, if another speaks not, and does not, what they themself wish for THEMSELF, they soon see no useful purpose for these "others"...

such "love"....

of course, all things have the sovereign right, by way of human existence, to persue their own "definition", or "feeling of love" for themself, but such does not mean that other's will not disagree that such be not as love, or how it fits not with any true definition or action of "love" in their own self...

and indeed, the definition for anything, taken or accepted by self, create the "knowing", or the logic of self, that guide all the words and actions of self...

which create the guide to self for either good, or less than good words and behaviour of self...

and what be "followed" in the self, as the "knowing", dictate what feeelings of self shall increase or decrease, by way of deciding which feelings in the self are "validated" or made ok by self, lest all human "feelings" are now deemed to be as "good ones"...

yes, it does appear, that even more each day, what has become endorsed, is that all feelings in human's are to be embraced as "good", or self is not "loved"...

what a mind **** mentality.

sheer irrational, delusional unsanity could be the only end result.

no wonder mental illness is at an all time high.




LoveAlina's photo
Tue 11/02/10 04:35 PM
Defining "love" can be quite a task for love can be define in many ways, biblically, spiritually, romantically, philosophically,then you have individuals with their own perceptions about love.

One thing about love in all its definitions it doesn't lie...that's for sure....

davidben1's photo
Tue 11/02/10 04:41 PM

Defining "love" can be quite a task for love can be define in many ways, biblically, spiritually, romantically, philosophically,then you have individuals with their own perceptions about love.

One thing about love in all its definitions it doesn't lie...that's for sure....


but, but that does not make it not possible.

indeed, quite a task, so the only place to start be the "process of elimination", of what is NOT LOVE?

for if anything look at this, for itself, it shall be able to spot love true love anywhere else in the world in a nano second.


LoveAlina's photo
Tue 11/02/10 04:53 PM
Hi Davidben1;

I agree love is possible for most things are based on love. Process of elimination is an absolute start in defining what love is...you can at least narrow it down...with the what is not.....

davidben1's photo
Tue 11/02/10 05:23 PM
indeed...

for it is only but for self to accurately access what is not of love in itself but once in mortal existence, that free itself to forever have and feel "feelings of in love", at all times in motal existence.

no photo
Tue 11/02/10 08:32 PM

Love is an emotional response to a unknown situation.

The biggest issue I have with these questions is that they are always about love, which is simply an emotional response like hate. These questions never take into account the amount of care someone may have for someone (or something, Gein fans beware).

I honestly think that instead of love we should be focused more on care considering that love is used by 12 year olds to explain their first date, perhaps care would be a better word. I care about someone, I know she cares about me and it is a pretty awesome feeling knowing someone cares about you.

Care insinuates longevity, longevity leads to love...care=love.


ur if/then sentence deosn't work because they are not equivalencies
care doesn't equal love - I care about many things & people that I do not necessarily love- although care is always a variable in love , love is not always a variable of caring. care may insinuate longetivity but doesn't have to, and either way it 's not an adequate statement to derrive an equivalent or equals equation as it is not dicrete (numerically or verbally) soory, it's true

- it is quite possible to do quite a lot of caring for the moment but not love me, or have longetivity with me

longetivity can also lead to boredom, resentment, and discontent - unless love is already present

FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 11/02/10 10:54 PM


Love is an emotional response to a unknown situation.

The biggest issue I have with these questions is that they are always about love, which is simply an emotional response like hate. These questions never take into account the amount of care someone may have for someone (or something, Gein fans beware).

I honestly think that instead of love we should be focused more on care considering that love is used by 12 year olds to explain their first date, perhaps care would be a better word. I care about someone, I know she cares about me and it is a pretty awesome feeling knowing someone cares about you.

Care insinuates longevity, longevity leads to love...care=love.


ur if/then sentence deosn't work because they are not equivalencies
care doesn't equal love - I care about many things & people that I do not necessarily love- although care is always a variable in love , love is not always a variable of caring. care may insinuate longetivity but doesn't have to, and either way it 's not an adequate statement to derrive an equivalent or equals equation as it is not dicrete (numerically or verbally) soory, it's true

- it is quite possible to do quite a lot of caring for the moment but not love me, or have longetivity with me

longetivity can also lead to boredom, resentment, and discontent - unless love is already present


That is your opinion, mine is different.

no photo
Wed 11/03/10 01:12 AM
FearandLoathing.. all i have seen from you is annoyance.. granted in the begining it was fine.. but now your just sounding like a pompus jerk...

bastet126's photo
Wed 11/03/10 09:56 AM
i find love fascinating. how, 'in love' makes me see the world entirely different, in a kind, more gentle way. how passion invades my every pore. even if 'in love' may come and go, it makes me smile to remember its sweet existance.

FearandLoathing's photo
Wed 11/03/10 11:19 AM

FearandLoathing.. all i have seen from you is annoyance.. granted in the begining it was fine.. but now your just sounding like a pompus jerk...


Can't please everyone.

Loy822's photo
Wed 11/03/10 11:47 AM
I can't define love - too many different types and variables. But have always wondered if it's the same for everyone or different for each person.

no photo
Wed 11/03/10 11:53 AM
* steps in. feels the love. RUNS OUT *

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 11/03/10 06:15 PM

how do U define love?


each of us experience love differently. What feels like 'love' to me may not be what 'love' represents to you. We all filter through that emotion as best we can with the knowledge we have.
Real love, would never ask the things we ask of each other in the name of love. Stipulations, promises, guarantees, conditions, expectations...
To love another for the pure joy of seeing them happy, saying and doing things for them without any thought of yourself..finding bliss in another's happiness, that is love.



newarkjw's photo
Wed 11/03/10 06:37 PM

FearandLoathing.. all i have seen from you is annoyance.. granted in the begining it was fine.. but now your just sounding like a pompus jerk...


Well now so are you. Good lord people it's not that hard.......smokin

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 11/03/10 06:42 PM


FearandLoathing.. all i have seen from you is annoyance.. granted in the begining it was fine.. but now your just sounding like a pompus jerk...


Well now so are you. Good lord people it's not that hard.......smokin


sometimes it is...

Gossipmpm's photo
Wed 11/03/10 06:47 PM
I love you all.....

And that's a good thing!!!!:heart: :heart: :heart:

RKISIT's photo
Wed 11/03/10 06:48 PM
love is when a woman tells a man that cooked for her,"this is the best fish sticks and kraft macaroni-n-cheese i have ever eatin"

bastet126's photo
Wed 11/03/10 06:50 PM

love is when a woman tells a man that cooked for her,"this is the best fish sticks and kraft macaroni-n-cheese i have ever eatin"


THIS gets my vote! :thumbsup:

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Wed 11/03/10 06:52 PM
Edited by Troublebug on Wed 11/03/10 06:52 PM

love is when a woman tells a man that cooked for her,"this is the best fish sticks and kraft macaroni-n-cheese i have ever eatin"


AWW RKISIT thats too cute.
Love is your child runing up hugging you and saying your the best (mom/ dad) ever your my best friend. :heart: