Topic: Is this weird and not normal?
singleaussie82's photo
Wed 11/17/10 06:36 PM
Well I'm new to this site, and for probably the last six or so years, I've been trying online dating sites, to meet somebody. Out at pubs and clubs never worked, and I'm reluctant to go through that again. It's a long story, which I don't really want to get into.

Anyway, I'm now 28. In a little over a year I'm going to be 30. I've never hard a girlfriend, no relationship of any kind. Not one single woman has ever been interested in me. Even the online dating scene hasn't worked out for me, and I've been on there for six long years.

Really, what type of person can't even find a partner on the freakin internet? I mean not even one measly chat message, not a single date. Yet I know people who I would have thought to have been more average looking than I, yet they've managed to find somebody on the internet, and it certainly never took them months, let alone years, to find anybody.

I'm the only one of my whole group of friends who's still single. Most are now married. I'm the only one from my Year 12 level who's single.

Is it considered not normal to be 28, a virgin and to have never been in a relationship? Is it pathetic and weird?

I honestly don't know what to do.


RKISIT's photo
Wed 11/17/10 06:44 PM
well if you wait 12 more years they may make a movie about you....really dude i don't know

actionlynx's photo
Wed 11/17/10 06:46 PM
I think it's unusual....but not necessarily pathetic or weird. I had a friend like that, except he was never good looking by any means. Great guy, intelligent, outgoing....had a lot of friends. Just never found the right one....until now at age 37. He was asked out by a co-worker, and he's been very satisfied with the relationship so far. He knew her for 1 1/2 years, was rejected in a previous attempt to date her, but then a year later...

It depends upon how outgoing you are, and how happy you present yourself as. Happiness and confidence go hand in hand. To act happy, you have to have fun and laugh.

Granted, we don't know exactly what you are doing, so we are only guessing...

vivian2981's photo
Wed 11/17/10 06:52 PM
I don't think you're weird or abnormal, just a 'late bloomer'. Hang in there, there is a reason for everything. You may just be the one lucky enough to find that right person just when you need her, and your relationship will last a lifetime.

FearandLoathing's photo
Wed 11/17/10 06:57 PM
Maybe you're a sociopath?

Anyway, count yourself lucky, give all your friends from 12th grade another five years...guarantee at least half the marriages end (if the statistics stick to their guns for me). You're a virgin? Someone else can cover that, you don't want my opinion. It isn't normal to be 28, being a virgin has no hold on how abnormal it is that you are 28.

Hope I've helped.smokin

no photo
Wed 11/17/10 07:36 PM
Not necessarily weird, maybe you just need to relax, and not try to find "someone" so hard. Jsut enjoy meeting new people. Like force yourself to smile at strangers and strike up conversations. Perhaps challenge yourself ot ask someone out for coffee, or to chat online.

soufiehere's photo
Wed 11/17/10 07:49 PM
Are you kidding?
You could still be Pope.

no photo
Wed 11/17/10 07:54 PM
"single, lonely, men" are a dime a dozen...if that is all you have to offer someone Im not surprised you are not having much success in meeting someone...

look at yourself from someone elses point of view..would you date you??
maybe its time to make some changes in your life...

Chazster's photo
Wed 11/17/10 09:37 PM
Yes there are many single lonely men but it he is being honest and saying he never had a relationship by age 28 I would say that is not normal. I am not saying whether it is good or bad just that it isn't the norm.

jtitol's photo
Wed 11/17/10 09:50 PM
Edited by jtitol on Wed 11/17/10 09:56 PM
Maybe you should focus on yourself more by taking care of yourself change your look, hairstyle and try new things that you thought you could have never done before.
If what you are doing now, is not working then change is needed immediately.

FearandLoathing's photo
Thu 11/18/10 12:03 AM

"single, lonely, men" are a dime a dozen...if that is all you have to offer someone Im not surprised you are not having much success in meeting someone...

look at yourself from someone elses point of view..would you date you??
maybe its time to make some changes in your life...


Quoted for truth.