Topic: Wisdom from poeple who've been married before ?
krupa's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:21 PM
I swore at a very young age I would never go through a divorce....not getting married makes that promise doable.

Besides...I have pretty much ruined myself with self-centered freedom and I doubt many chicks could put up with me for a life time. Aint saying it couldn't happen...But the woman would definitely have her work cut out.

seamac's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:21 PM

ya didn't know if the water in the photo was the ocean or an inland lake. You are further north. honestly I am not sure what kind of snow Portland has right now - but in the past, she has not had as much as her friends who are inland

it's a beautiful photo - thanks for sharing

@seamac



Sorry I should have clarified! Usually the ocean does effect snow fall, making it less than what they get inland, this year is a big exception. We are due more on Sat. but no one seems to be predicting how much...My guess would be that your sister has her fair share, this was a huge storm and the places further south form us got at least as much judging from the reports. My son is in chicago and they got slammed and my friends in PA got much less snow but two solid inches of ice! Crazy winter!

newarkjw's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:26 PM


I wouldn't want advise from peeps who have had a few marriages though, seems they couldn't offer much except about how they (we)
f UcK~ed up...


Yeah that or we are smart enough not to go through bullchit again. Marriage is nothing more than a piece a paper. I don't need a piece of paper..........smokin

no photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:26 PM


ya didn't know if the water in the photo was the ocean or an inland lake. You are further north. honestly I am not sure what kind of snow Portland has right now - but in the past, she has not had as much as her friends who are inland

it's a beautiful photo - thanks for sharing

@seamac



Sorry I should have clarified! Usually the ocean does effect snow fall, making it less than what they get inland, this year is a big exception. We are due more on Sat. but no one seems to be predicting how much...My guess would be that your sister has her fair share, this was a huge storm and the places further south form us got at least as much judging from the reports. My son is in chicago and they got slammed and my friends in PA got much less snow but two solid inches of ice! Crazy winter!


no problem - as we are a little of topic with this anywaylaugh

but yes- its weird weather winter. Here in Columbus, Ohio we've remained almost untouched by it, relatively speaking. my sons an hour SW of here in Dayton got more snow & ice. I feel like I live in a bubblelaugh

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:29 PM



I wouldn't want advise from peeps who have had a few marriages though, seems they couldn't offer much except about how they (we)
f UcK~ed up...


Marriage is nothing more than a piece a paper.


yep true that.., that piece of paper gets REAL important during a divorce...

no photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:31 PM

I swore at a very young age I would never go through a divorce....not getting married makes that promise doable.

Besides...I have pretty much ruined myself with self-centered freedom and I doubt many chicks could put up with me for a life time. Aint saying it couldn't happen...But the woman would definitely have her work cut out.
laugh same here krupa. my divorce hit me pretty hard so I've take some time to spoil myself a little - I'm prolly hopeless at this point toolaugh

seamac's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:31 PM



ya didn't know if the water in the photo was the ocean or an inland lake. You are further north. honestly I am not sure what kind of snow Portland has right now - but in the past, she has not had as much as her friends who are inland

it's a beautiful photo - thanks for sharing

@seamac



Sorry I should have clarified! Usually the ocean does effect snow fall, making it less than what they get inland, this year is a big exception. We are due more on Sat. but no one seems to be predicting how much...My guess would be that your sister has her fair share, this was a huge storm and the places further south form us got at least as much judging from the reports. My son is in chicago and they got slammed and my friends in PA got much less snow but two solid inches of ice! Crazy winter!


no problem - as we are a little of topic with this anywaylaugh

but yes- its weird weather winter. Here in Columbus, Ohio we've remained almost untouched by it, relatively speaking. my sons an hour SW of here in Dayton got more snow & ice. I feel like I live in a bubblelaugh



Off topic? Us??? laugh laugh laugh I have never been known to go off topic, I think I like it! :wink: If you want to get out of your bubble and come help shovel you are more than welcome! We can take a break and walk to sea too...that's what I do, pitch the shovel and go remind myself why I moved here!

seamac's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:34 PM

I swore at a very young age I would never go through a divorce....not getting married makes that promise doable.

Besides...I have pretty much ruined myself with self-centered freedom and I doubt many chicks could put up with me for a life time. Aint saying it couldn't happen...But the woman would definitely have her work cut out.



Yea, Krupa I bet you are pretty high maintenance! A ton of fun though, until the breakup! To bad Texas is sooo far away.

krupa's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:39 PM


I swore at a very young age I would never go through a divorce....not getting married makes that promise doable.

Besides...I have pretty much ruined myself with self-centered freedom and I doubt many chicks could put up with me for a life time. Aint saying it couldn't happen...But the woman would definitely have her work cut out.



Yea, Krupa I bet you are pretty high maintenance! A ton of fun though, until the breakup! To bad Texas is sooo far away.


High maintenence? ME?

Gimme Sex and food and I am as loyal as a dog.

no photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:42 PM




ya didn't know if the water in the photo was the ocean or an inland lake. You are further north. honestly I am not sure what kind of snow Portland has right now - but in the past, she has not had as much as her friends who are inland

it's a beautiful photo - thanks for sharing

@seamac



Sorry I should have clarified! Usually the ocean does effect snow fall, making it less than what they get inland, this year is a big exception. We are due more on Sat. but no one seems to be predicting how much...My guess would be that your sister has her fair share, this was a huge storm and the places further south form us got at least as much judging from the reports. My son is in chicago and they got slammed and my friends in PA got much less snow but two solid inches of ice! Crazy winter!


no problem - as we are a little of topic with this anywaylaugh

but yes- its weird weather winter. Here in Columbus, Ohio we've remained almost untouched by it, relatively speaking. my sons an hour SW of here in Dayton got more snow & ice. I feel like I live in a bubblelaugh



Off topic? Us??? laugh laugh laugh I have never been known to go off topic, I think I like it! :wink: If you want to get out of your bubble and come help shovel you are more than welcome! We can take a break and walk to sea too...that's what I do, pitch the shovel and go remind myself why I moved here!


well I will definte message you on here the next time I go to Maine! Actually I seem to always be there in Winter....so I've been to the beach several times in the freezing cold just to walk. Last year we went to LL Bean New Year's Eve in Freeport in January- had a blast - I tell people I went to an outdoor New Year's party in Maine and they just drop their jawslaugh

no photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:42 PM
Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Thu 02/03/11 04:45 PM
oops sorry again - double post

kissablekiss's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:44 PM
Hold up .............
K
R
U
P
A

I
S

M
Y

D
O
G.........GROWL..........

seamac's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:44 PM



I swore at a very young age I would never go through a divorce....not getting married makes that promise doable.

Besides...I have pretty much ruined myself with self-centered freedom and I doubt many chicks could put up with me for a life time. Aint saying it couldn't happen...But the woman would definitely have her work cut out.



Yea, Krupa I bet you are pretty high maintenance! A ton of fun though, until the breakup! To bad Texas is sooo far away.


High maintenence? ME?

Gimme Sex and food and I am as loyal as a dog.



Come on boy, good boy, time to come in now...

Hey your the one who said the woman would definitely have her work cut out, I was just being agreeable!

seamac's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:48 PM





ya didn't know if the water in the photo was the ocean or an inland lake. You are further north. honestly I am not sure what kind of snow Portland has right now - but in the past, she has not had as much as her friends who are inland

it's a beautiful photo - thanks for sharing

@seamac



Sorry I should have clarified! Usually the ocean does effect snow fall, making it less than what they get inland, this year is a big exception. We are due more on Sat. but no one seems to be predicting how much...My guess would be that your sister has her fair share, this was a huge storm and the places further south form us got at least as much judging from the reports. My son is in chicago and they got slammed and my friends in PA got much less snow but two solid inches of ice! Crazy winter!


no problem - as we are a little of topic with this anywaylaugh

but yes- its weird weather winter. Here in Columbus, Ohio we've remained almost untouched by it, relatively speaking. my sons an hour SW of here in Dayton got more snow & ice. I feel like I live in a bubblelaugh



Off topic? Us??? laugh laugh laugh I have never been known to go off topic, I think I like it! :wink: If you want to get out of your bubble and come help shovel you are more than welcome! We can take a break and walk to sea too...that's what I do, pitch the shovel and go remind myself why I moved here!


well I will definte message you on here the next time I go to Maine! Actually I seem to always be there in Winter....so I've been to the beach several times in the freezing cold just to walk. Last year we went to LL Bean New Year's Eve in Freeport in January- had a blast - I tell people I went to an outdoor New Year's party in Maine and they just drop their jawslaugh



I hope you do let me know the next time you are coming here, it would be great to meet, you'd be my first Mingle meet!! You should come for the Blue's Fest or Lobster Fest, course the town is jammed but my house is easy walking distance to all the downtown fest's!!

seamac's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:52 PM

Hold up .............
K
R
U
P
A

I
S

M
Y

D
O
G.........GROWL..........



I think our Krupa prowls from home to home searching food and sex, finds them, settles in for a day or week and prowls again. Hard to claim his as one's own dog!

kissablekiss's photo
Thu 02/03/11 04:59 PM


Hold up .............
K
R
U
P
A

I
S

M
Y

D
O
G.........GROWL..........

thats where your wrong missy
he only eat what i give him
my krupa just being polite when he said that .....
he is a fiesty little bytch i tell yah ...

I think our Krupa prowls from home to home searching food and sex, finds them, settles in for a day or week and prowls again. Hard to claim his as one's own dog!

AllenAqua's photo
Thu 02/03/11 05:00 PM
I was married for nineteen years. If I was still married, I'd maybe be worthy of giving advice. It was blissful and wonderful at its best, but mind bending and gut wrenching at its worst.

If I ever decided to commit to it again, I'd avoid (like the plague) codependency, resentment, and complacency. I'd always and in all ways keep in mind and heart that compassionate communication is the key to empathy.

To me, marriage isn't a piece paper. It's a declaration to the world that we stand together against all comers.

Then again, what do I know eh...

seamac's photo
Thu 02/03/11 05:29 PM

I was married for nineteen years. If I was still married, I'd maybe be worthy of giving advice. It was blissful and wonderful at its best, but mind bending and gut wrenching at its worst.

If I ever decided to commit to it again, I'd avoid (like the plague) codependency, resentment, and complacency. I'd always and in all ways keep in mind and heart that compassionate communication is the key to empathy.

To me, marriage isn't a piece paper. It's a declaration to the world that we stand together against all comers.

Then again, what do I know eh...



Among other things it is in a big way "a declaration to the world that we stand together against all comers"


I hate it when I hear one partner making jokes at the others expense, it is not guy talk or girl talk to make belittling comments about your partner. It is derisive. I am not talking a little healthy venting to a trusted friend I am taking crude or nasty or negitive, useless comments. I have heard this done in supposed fun so often and I always want to ask is that really how you feel? If not why say it? Always treat your partner with the respect love deserves, whether they are there to hear it or not.

AllenAqua's photo
Thu 02/03/11 05:52 PM


I was married for nineteen years. If I was still married, I'd maybe be worthy of giving advice. It was blissful and wonderful at its best, but mind bending and gut wrenching at its worst.

If I ever decided to commit to it again, I'd avoid (like the plague) codependency, resentment, and complacency. I'd always and in all ways keep in mind and heart that compassionate communication is the key to empathy.

To me, marriage isn't a piece paper. It's a declaration to the world that we stand together against all comers.

Then again, what do I know eh...



Among other things it is in a big way "a declaration to the world that we stand together against all comers"


I hate it when I hear one partner making jokes at the others expense, it is not guy talk or girl talk to make belittling comments about your partner. It is derisive. I am not talking a little healthy venting to a trusted friend I am taking crude or nasty or negitive, useless comments. I have heard this done in supposed fun so often and I always want to ask is that really how you feel? If not why say it? Always treat your partner with the respect love deserves, whether they are there to hear it or not.


Yeah... I guess I know at least a few couples who don't think twice before making disparaging remarks about each other. I can't help thinking to myself that their future together is less than hopeful.
As an outsider it's so apparent sometimes. It seems a shame...

no photo
Thu 02/03/11 06:04 PM

I was married for nineteen years. If I was still married, I'd maybe be worthy of giving advice. It was blissful and wonderful at its best, but mind bending and gut wrenching at its worst.

If I ever decided to commit to it again, I'd avoid (like the plague) codependency, resentment, and complacency. I'd always and in all ways keep in mind and heart that compassionate communication is the key to empathy.

To me, marriage isn't a piece paper. It's a declaration to the world that we stand together against all comers.

Then again, what do I know eh...


certainly you know plenty after 19 years. Lest we forget, nothing can last that long wihtout some good having come from it, and the stuff that wasn't so good is a pretty good lesson learned too.

We learn, I think, to appreciate things that hadn't occurred to us before

We also learn a lot about what we need - to me anyway, that has become so important for the 2nd time around - won't leave that to chance - if I can't bring to the table what my guy needs, I doubt I'd marry - and I'm talking more about emotional and companionship stuff - including things like sex and fidelity than material things

eh - really I've been alone so long now tho