..personally i don't really care if anyone wants me..odds are i don't want them either,tho i may not be considered religious i have very high morals..and find that most don't ..besides with all the stds out there it may be a blessing that i don't have to worry about getting any of those diseases..i mean like if i put myself out there

like alot of people seem to be doing these days with their friends with benefits chances are they're going to get one of those diseases..it's just not worth it to me ..i'd rather remain celibate...going on nine years now.....fyi AIDS is on the uprise something like 32% among 17-24 year olds..i don't care how hot someone is..it's just not worth it to me...

so true i rather stay single .....

it aint worth it ....heartache that is ......
well said tombraider

come here, i'll take care of you. :)

Without knowing your situation; I will take a stab at it. Could it be you are trying to hard? Have you thought about trying another approach like joining an interest group that is not online dating? I think that is a better way to meet people without the pressure of dating and who knows you could meet. Not knocking online dating but I think the odds of meeting anyone online is slim. Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do.

The forums sound like a typical grey workday night.

i ask any one who reads this if you could think of a good resan why i can never get a girl i dont now why if it because of my look or im not covdunt enuth i would not be able to walk up to a girl and speek with out stutring thats wat i think the girls take one look at me and they sem to get awy qwit enuth any good any good addvice ples let me now thank for reading

Wahhhh.. That thread title alone. What a turn-off.
If you go around thinking that no one will want you, well then no one will want you. Its all about confidence, which you are lacking.
If you change your attitude, that you can virtually have any woman that you want, well things will start working out for you that way.
I'm being serious.

haha. my sentiments exactly.

She is right. The thread title invites sympathy. Is that what you want?

Poor baby.

There there now. Don't cry.
I'm sure there is hope for you.

I think, many fails to realize, that it's hard to get any sympathy, if you are unknown to your community.

Sympathy for someone's unfortunate fate requires knowledge of the person in question.

If someone comes on a dating discussion board like this, and says "No matter what I do, it still won't happen" - we don't really know what that person has tried or hasn't tried, what's his or her background.

The majority as a whole is very suspicious of others, especially when it comes to issues, which most people have their own personal experiences also, and we can all recall our own , when we said something like that, and even though we blamed everything there is to blame, deep down we were trying to fool ourselves by denying other underlying problems, that had to do with our own doing (or un-doing).

True love has no impossibilities. Just be more patient. I'm still hanging from a love i lost.

We are all the "wrong" people on this site... that's what makes us so special and loveable.

My bewilderment is a bit different from yours... why does a break-up hurt you? I would look at it as a renewal of dating licence... you can go out and sample the herd for new numbers.

I may sound cynical, but that's not true, I just speak my mind.

Actually, I wish for you to find the "real" and only one, but in the meantime, please don't forget, and let this be consolation for you: Those who reject you are not meant for you... so try to forget them quickly. I think the one for you will not reject you. So you have to keep on trying and trying... nothing wrong with that. It's one of them growing pains in life.

Head soup.

I hear you. I used to feel the same way at your age.

I learned to spell, that's one thing. No, I am not fascetious and I am not being snobby or anything. It is important to be able to articulate and spell well.

I don't know if you are a stutterer or just around girls. A stutter is a bad thing, because it shows that the man has no confidence. But not all stutterers lack in confidence; some are fully self-aware, and they can show it once a girl gives them a chance. In fact, a stutter, after the girl learns the guy is actually with it, normal and a mensch, can make a guy look even better than he is -- a sort of strong weak man? women like the complex guys, the self-contradicting personality, they love most the guys in skirts (Scotts).

So if you can't help your stutter in speach... at least you could polish up on your spelling. There is no personality factor in good spellers that turn them into bad spellers... you can impress the girls that way, if you fail to do it at first in person.

Of course I realize that there is such a thing as dyslexia. My brother suffers from it. He has been abused in his schooling because of it, by his parents, his teachers and by his friends, because in those days (over 50-60 years ago) nobody knew about dyslexia. I am a terrible case of ADD, and still, I would be hard to diagnose, coz I am not restless or disruptive, never were in class in grade school. But then again, I can't read a textbook. No can do. And I, too, got my share of the rod and of emotional guilt-riding by my father, for this horrible sin of a disability.

So without trying to instill false impressions, about 10% of stutterers these days would normally be able to shake the thing, and 90% of them are inflicted by a genetic or traumatic cause that makes it impossible for them to change it.

The thing is not to try to change yourself (if it is not possible) but to learn to live with the you that you are and love him for that.

Short answer......probably a whole heap of things...


Long answer...Like attracts like...and as i read earlier in the forums....you don't attract what you want...you attract who you are.


Sad but true...


actually no it isn't...I seem to draw emotionally dependent men....and I don't have an emotional...let alone dependent bone in my body!


Don't listen to me....it's all crap!


be thankful you still have a whole lifetime of f * ckups awaiting!

1. Get off your duff.
2. Take stock in yourself.
3. Forget what everyone else says.
4. Go find something you enjoy doing so much that you would do it without being paid for it.
5. Enjoy your own life.

If you're spiritual in any sense, think about how long Adam must have been alone. I don't even think a female companion was on his mind when she was presented to him.

That is excellent advice.

it is not you sweetie... happen to me all the time... most people don't have any caring in them anymore they are just out for themselves

Had to think about this one.

First I thought hey Young and a student no brainer he is meeting, greeting, dating, and moving on as is normal for that age/situation. College is much less of a MRS. factory for young women today. That usually comes a bit later.

Then I read the (Whine=sudden death in dateing) why does it hurt so much? Well probably from the expectations.

If you think, give off the vibe, every nice person you go out with is some how the "One" that is a lot of pressure and it is no wonder people cut and run when they get that trip laid on them. Lighten up. Date enjoy the moment for what it is, a present of NOW; not tomorrow, or a lifetime.

Yea it is fine to want the sweetheart of your lifetime but in any garden you have to do the preparation work, plant a lot of seeds (no that does not mean get in a girls pants), and wait for the roses to bloom before you pick one to get serious about and prune out the others.

P.S. The guy who stutters has a unique situation that may take a really confident or understanding person but the post that says clean up your othr skills is right. If you are well presented and fun to be with the good girls will not give a whip about if you speak smoothly.