its not a unique situation for one person to like the other more, that still doesnt stop either from being honest with the other.

If you met someone else, stop going out with this girl, she will get the point.

IF she was so easily into you from a mere 'smoking' and 'fornication' schedule, she may be able to move on easier than you are thinking.

Absolutely not, but... I think it's quite apparent I DON'T want to tell the truth (like you said), so the condescending comments are nothing more than a juvenile attempt to belittle me.

And yeah, I find that offensive.

there is no truth telling involved, or lying

would it be impossible to just 'stop seeing her'?

dont ask her out and be busy when she asks you out, mention in passing that you met someone wonderful or let it get back to her,, she will get the point and move on...

LMAO

Tribbles, the 'problem' you point out is also your truth. She likes you more than you like her. She can still be a nice person, you can still wish her well ... and you can say it just isn't going to go any further between you two. Make it about you not her and not in some cliche way ... say you just aren't feeling it. Period.

If you think you can sparing her feelings by lying to her, please believe me ... you can't.



It is okay to end it ... you are both adults ... you can both make choices.

How about the one my ex laid on me: "God told me you weren't good enough to be a wife for me" FML

oh ouch!

I've been through several relationships where the guy just stopped feeling me all of a sudden, or so I thought. For all I knew, they were pretending to like/love me and lead me astray for the longest. I think your problem is that the girl you really like, based on her personality, isn't as hot as this girl who is "hot" but "Dumber than a bag of rocks". I think it's really messing with your decision making process because you're asking us to help you (I think) yet you're not willing to take our advice. My advice though? I'd rather hear the truth than a lie any day. No matter how bad it would hurt me. Because eventually Im going to realize what I did wrong as far as picking a boyfriend, or Im going to try to change things in myself. After a while, I've realize I date momma's boys. I date guys who don't have their lives together and depend on other people to get them by or they just never have the means to provide for me at all.

..let's see there's the "i'm gay" which seems to work on Jerry Springer..there's the "i'm going out for a pack of smokes" and never come back trick..then there's the song "fifty ways to leave your lover" that might provide a few tips....and then there's the truth.... ..

You could always use the proverbial "its not you its me" line.

We were only together for 3 months but we often talked about marriage because it was, what I thought, something we both wanted. But apparently not from me. Oh well life moves on

IF thats true, how much time does it take to just not sleep with her anymore?

seems pretty simple, unless I missed something



Gotta agree with the logic in that.

Alisha973 wrote:


You see, this is what bothers me. You say that, but it could very well end up being very detrimental to you, thus jading you.

I've had it happen to me, I know.

No one thinks it's better to lie so all the blame falls on ONE person rather than something that makes you question yourself?!

Bummer that sucks.

and sadly there is no way out of it.

for her she will just like you more and more so she is going to be hurt no matter what,

and it really sucks when you are a nice person and noone wants to hurt you.

But the dumbest thing is that us people who are really nice and trust you and see the best in you are normally the ones who get hurt as we just dont see it coming..


Anyway, for you there is nothing to do but be honest, really I have had it done to me heaps, and I would so have liked just one man to tell me truthfully that although he really cared about me and loved me as a person, that he wanted someone else..
That although it would have torn me apart, I could deal with heaps easier than having someone else eventually tell me , or even worse not knowing until he leaves and then tells me he has been with her for ages, that destroys your self confidence.and trust in others..

it will actually make it much harder for her to love and trust the man who can give her the same in return..

sorry I cant be more help.

Just tell her the truth , You never know maybe you get lucky

And she would think she was the one who made the poor choice.

testing one two one two

Hello Tribbles

Turn on those ears. Everyones telling you the same basic thing. Be stand up about this for their sake and your own.

Wow, do her a favor and dump her quickly so she doesn't have to put up with you any longer than she has to. lying is better

First off you should have been truthful with her about the fact you were gong to "one up" her first chance you got. I know sometimes that honesty is hard too but at least you can always say "I told ya".

And now you need to say "Hey its been grand but I am out".

Yep
Listen to romeo..

I am nice and i would stay with someone just to not hurt their feelings,but i would never play up. sooooooooooooooooooooo maybe she wants out but just doesnt know how to without hurting you. so make it easy for her..

Man pls it is better to tell her what u feel about her and what u want to do NOW before it becomes worse

Artgurl:

Artgurl is totally right. You owe it to her to not play games with her, not deceive her, and also to not be needlessly hurtful.