In africa most men believe it is right so that they will be able to know if the woman is really good in bed.Some even go to the extend of getting her pregnant so they will know if she can be able to bear children.But i know the bible condems it.For me i know it is really very difficult to do away without sex and the taught of it

It's up to you, what you believe.

I believe there is much more to having a Lady friend, then what she can, or cannot achieve in bed. A good heart, is all I care about.

Africa is a big place. Are you really able to give the view of men from an entire continent?

Marriage only has to do with religeon. What about all the people who had sex before religeon? How about the biblical Adam and Eve? They had sex before religeon and marriage were around. That bible sure has a lot of people screwed up!

Right or wrong....


those who dares,do not care
those who cares,do not dare

IMO, it's not the Bible that has people screwed up; it's how greedy and evil people have taken things out of context or put their own interpretation to it to justify their own wrong doings. Marriage is a good example: nowhere in the Bible does it say that you have to pay for permission to be married (marriage license) or have a $20k wedding in a church, etc. That is SOCIETY'S spin on it..

King David, who lusted after someone's wife, indirectly caused her husband to be killed and then married her himself, was still honored by G-d, even though he had to suffer the consequences of his actions.

There can be serious consequences when you just sleep randomly with anyone. Especially these days.

Anyway, whatever you do is entirely between you and your Creator. I read somewhere that in some cultures, when a woman is widowed, she's paired for a while with a young man. That way, she is taken care of until she remarries or can stand on her own and the young man learns what it is to be a husband and provider. In the meantime, both have sex and companionship. I think that's a great idea.

Only you can decide whether sex before marriage is right for you.

Thats not true. Most people in Japan don't have a religion but they still get married. Korea isn't very religious though there is religion there and it is common to not have sex before marriage but that is strictly cultural.

Many people in the US aren't religious yet still get married.

..i hear Africa has alot of AIDS too...i wonder if there could be a connection...don't know..i'm really not that smart..

I think thats different though. The US was founded by religious people and I would say as a whole the US could be considered a religious country. The same can't be said for Japan and the majority of people there are not religious. Though I guess your point being is non religious people get married too. But in this case you could say the religion affected the culture.

very well stated

I don't fully understand this first post. Care about what?

Secondly it was a girl that asked me the question "would you buy a car before test driving it?" when talking about sex before marriage. Some people are not sexually compatible.

Is not necessary!!! but depends on the agreement between you and your partner.

I was just agreeing with you that people who are not religious also get married. So, my point was the same as yours.

I Personal decision really...i dnt c nothin wrng with it

Thanks guies for you wonderful comments.Just keep it rolling

Some people have sex without a relationship. Is it wrong? As long as they are consenting adults no. Its all personal preference and subject to your on p.o.v.

care about EFFECTS.

To my opinion its not fair to compare a car with companion.We are human beings,not machines.Sex is most important part of married life but cant be & shall not be tested like test drive as it is not going to assure you the guranteed results for specific period.

Sexual compatibility depends on many aspects other than physic.That may be time,situation,emotions,stress etc. etc.these variants may vary the results each time so what is the use of TEST DRIVE before marriage?

I've bought several cars without test driving them first. However, if I'd get married, that would be a different story. Then again, I fix cars for a living......