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Topic: I think I scare men away.
ybcat1's photo
Thu 09/29/11 10:50 AM
I don't know what it is but I think I scare men away. After a few exchanges of emails and then it like they disappear. Wow, I'm just trying to be friends. :smile: Wonder what I'm doing wrong. I can't seem to make male friends.

What can women do that would scare off a man? frustrated

SilentlyScreaming's photo
Thu 09/29/11 10:52 AM
thats better then the guy who messaged me yesterday saying he wants to marry me laugh

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Thu 09/29/11 10:53 AM
What are you saying to them that makes you think it's something you've done, rather than them just being flaky?

AndyBgood's photo
Thu 09/29/11 11:02 AM

What are you saying to them that makes you think it's something you've done, rather than them just being flaky?


Excellent question!

navygirl's photo
Thu 09/29/11 11:44 AM
Edited by navygirl on Thu 09/29/11 11:44 AM

I don't know what it is but I think I scare men away. After a few exchanges of emails and then it like they disappear. Wow, I'm just trying to be friends. :smile: Wonder what I'm doing wrong. I can't seem to make male friends.

What can women do that would scare off a man? frustrated


Show you are independent, show him you have intelligence, show him you can do things for yourself; etc. Just pick one. These days it doesn't take much to scare a man away. I know from my own experience. Anyways; dear they aren't worth the effort if they haven't got the balls to tell you why they stopped emailing. Sometimes men can be such children. frustrated

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Thu 09/29/11 01:56 PM
That's your insecurity talking ybcat...you probably haven't done anything wrong, it's the guys that you've been talking to.

Don't forget most men online aren't just talking to you - regardless of whether you were chatting to them as a potential bf or as a mate - usually have two or three other women on the go..

I do understand...you just want closure. You want to know what you've done wrong (if anything). Trust me, You didn't do anything.. you just may not have been their type or their wife found out they were on mingle LOL..Don't sweat it.


navygirl's photo
Thu 09/29/11 02:51 PM

I do understand...you just want closure. You want to know what you've done wrong (if anything). Trust me, You didn't do anything.. you just may not have been their type or their wife found out they were on mingle LOL..Don't sweat it.




Good answer. :thumbsup:

navygirl's photo
Thu 09/29/11 02:51 PM

I do understand...you just want closure. You want to know what you've done wrong (if anything). Trust me, You didn't do anything.. you just may not have been their type or their wife found out they were on mingle LOL..Don't sweat it.




Good answer. :thumbsup:

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Thu 09/29/11 03:06 PM
I do occasionally come up with one or two good answers, it just takes me a littler longer laugh

krupa's photo
Thu 09/29/11 03:32 PM
First off...some people are just intimidating when they KNOW what they do and do not want. (guys ain't used to fully developed, level headed women of clarity)

More importantly, the internet is like a giant freaking buffett of possibilities. Any chick with bad enough taste to even consider me has surely been considering other dudes too. Same is true for women. I was here for three years talking too, and growing to know and love a LOT of fine women here. At this point in life I figured "What's the rush?...All my other relationships bombed...why not take my time and do it right this time"

I have had some serious crushes on here.....in the end, though I hated to disappoint by not persuing them, it was the right thing to do cause I found the one that I can relate too on all levels plus some that I hadn't even considered.

But, thats just me....the rest of the guys are douchebag horn dogs.

:)

ybcat1's photo
Thu 09/29/11 04:32 PM

What are you saying to them that makes you think it's something you've done, rather than them just being flaky?


I don't know. First it's exchanging greeting with one another, then I tell them a little about myself, my interest, and what not. After that nothing. They have no more interest. It's not like I tell them anything personal. Really, I can't understand why in all my life I've never had one male friend, a man who just looks at me as a friend.

ybcat1's photo
Thu 09/29/11 04:33 PM

That's your insecurity talking ybcat...you probably haven't done anything wrong, it's the guys that you've been talking to.

Don't forget most men online aren't just talking to you - regardless of whether you were chatting to them as a potential bf or as a mate - usually have two or three other women on the go..

I do understand...you just want closure. You want to know what you've done wrong (if anything). Trust me, You didn't do anything.. you just may not have been their type or their wife found out they were on mingle LOL..Don't sweat it.




Ok, that's makes sense. laugh

krupa's photo
Thu 09/29/11 04:50 PM

Really, I can't understand why in all my life I've never had one male friend, a man who just looks at me as a friend.


Uhhhh Honey...I am male and I like ya. I got no intentions of anything other than friendship. To me, you are a friend type of woman.....unless you get me really drunk. Then, there those awkward apologies and lame explanatins for all the butt hickies.

RhonLynn's photo
Thu 09/29/11 05:14 PM
I Always get the Nice Tatt E~mail then its I want sex Questions, Proves to me that they DO NOT read my Profile.

grumble

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Thu 09/29/11 05:19 PM

I don't know what it is but I think I scare men away. After a few exchanges of emails and then it like they disappear. Wow, I'm just trying to be friends. :smile: Wonder what I'm doing wrong. I can't seem to make male friends.

What can women do that would scare off a man? frustrated


You can't make male friends?

Sounds to me that you've been barking up the wrong tree.

In other words you have been approaching the wrong kind of males.

Some males think that being "just friends" with a Lady friend, is a little bit odd. And others may be looking for something more, then just friendship.

There are plenty of nice friendly chaps, that would be happy to be friends with you. Keep looking, and make it very clear, what you're looking for.

The only thing that scares me away from the ladies, is when they become too quiet, or too close. There has to be a balance :)

All the very best to you! ^.^

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Thu 09/29/11 05:39 PM


What are you saying to them that makes you think it's something you've done, rather than them just being flaky?


I don't know. First it's exchanging greeting with one another, then I tell them a little about myself, my interest, and what not. After that nothing. They have no more interest. It's not like I tell them anything personal. Really, I can't understand why in all my life I've never had one male friend, a man who just looks at me as a friend.


Try starting a conversation about something they may be interested in, rather than just talking about yourself. Once the conversation gets going, then tell each other about yourself.


ybcat1's photo
Thu 09/29/11 10:32 PM


Really, I can't understand why in all my life I've never had one male friend, a man who just looks at me as a friend.


Uhhhh Honey...I am male and I like ya. I got no intentions of anything other than friendship. To me, you are a friend type of woman.....unless you get me really drunk. Then, there those awkward apologies and lame explanatins for all the butt hickies.


Alright! I got a male friend. You crack me up. :laughing: :laughing:

ybcat1's photo
Thu 09/29/11 10:36 PM

I Always get the Nice Tatt E~mail then its I want sex Questions, Proves to me that they DO NOT read my Profile.

grumble



I get the wow, nice boobs. I'm going to change my picture and wear a turtleneck sweater.

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Thu 09/29/11 10:54 PM



Do you like golf?

ybcat1's photo
Fri 09/30/11 12:54 PM




Do you like golf?


golf? what I don't get it.

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