once a cheater always a cheater right? My ex wants me back. I do still love him but he hurt me so bad. Now a year later he comes crawling back.

counseling first. then, if it can be resolved, possibly he made
a mistake and you can recover trust. but counseling first so he
knows what it will take to earn back your trust. not impossible
though.

They always do...my thought on the matter is..if you want to try again with him...you should, but take it slow and easy as if you are just beginning the relationship...no sex...for a long while, it needs to be a new and different sort of relationship and ..remember....YOU could be the rebound now....if he sticks around and is ever so patient with you then maybe he knows where he wants to be now.

No. Not always 'once a cheater always a cheater'. People can and do change. Not completely sure about that after only a year though....

he cheated a couple times and i kept takin him back until he moved to another state to be with a girl without even a word and sold my stuff to get there.

Right that sounds pretty bad. I started writing this before I read
your explanation. Multiple cheating incidents and selling your stuff
to be someone else sounds like too much to easily overcome.

Only way it would be worth a shot if you both still care for one another
and you have a kid together. But I do think that some joint counseling
is needed to get off on the right foot and rebuild trust. If he is
sincere then he would understand and in fact be eager to do whatever
is required to rebuild trust.

The basic requirement is a sincere desire on the behalf of both
parties to honestly try and to accept responsibility for the mistakes
of the past and move on...This would be a lot to overcome though.

he's not my daughter's father and actually he has a kid on the way. It's a big hot mess.

NEXT!

Agreed!

There...right there...hold on to that anger (for now)...he did you wrong, wrong, wrong girlfriend...don't make it easy for him....and don't set yourself up for more heartache..I like what s1owhand has to say.

Yep, sweetheart...you are the rebound! sorry...move on. Be an example to your daughter...no doormats here!!

Proceed with all haste in a calm manner to the nearest fire escape
or disaster shelter!

Proceed with all haste in a calm manner to the nearest fire escape
or disaster shelter!

and go ahead and knock down any fools in your way

thanks everyone.

I guess the question for me would be could I trust him again.

If you feel that you can get past it and trust him and make it work . sure.

If you think that you will be wondering if he is telling you the truth every time he is late home..

Then I would say no, dont put yourself through the heartbreak, you will probably always feel something for him, but you can love someone else and trust someone else..

So basically do what you think is best for you

i say trust is earned not given just my opinion go with what your gut tells ya to do.

People can and do change, it’s rare, but it can happen. what I don’t get is, why would you want him in the first place. he has already shown you who he is, now it’s up to you to remember that. his history is what you should judge him by and it is clear, from your explaining this, that he doesn’t know how, or doesn’t want to treat you the way you need to be treated.

by taking him back (again) you are telling him that it is ok for him to do whatever he wants to you, just as long as he gives you enough time to either forget, or forgive him. do yourself and your child a favor and leave him in your past, where his own actions have shown he belongs.

Run as fast as you can and don't look back. You are a young and very beautiful woman don't wast your time. Have pride in yourself and go find someone that will love you because you deserve it.

Good Luck!!!

Been cheated on by a few men. With the info you give of cheating a few times, and selling your stuff.
RUN !! GIRLFRIEND RUN!!Don;t even give him another consideration. It does not look like he is worth it.

If you feel you can't get over him, try talkign to your minister/ pastor/ priest(whoever) Or a counselor.
He does NOT deserve the chance.

Good Luck Sweetie!