I broke up with this guy in March. We’d dated for 7 months and I ended the relationship due to:

a) Work. He (more than me) worked crap hours and we didn't see each other often. We rarely spoke on the phone but he would text.. A LOT. We once had a 5 hour argument via text. I don’t mean 5 hours throughout the day...I mean 5 hours straight of texting.

b) Him being a compulsive liar. He didn’t cheat but would lie about the smallest, insignificant things.

c) Him agreeing to see me knowing that he had something else on. Rather than saying anything, he'd go silent on me...wait until he thought I’d cooled off (2-3 days), then send a text. He would only call if he thought I was seriously piss3d off.

d) Him wanting me to stop talking to all men that I wasn’t related to or he’d end the relationship. Naturally, I refused but it didn’t stop him from going on and on about how he “allowed” me to keep talking to my best mate (a man) – completely forgetting that I had told him that if I had to choose between him and my friend(s), he'd loose..

e) My getting the impression that he wanted to move in - he wasn’t getting on with his flatmate and couldn’t afford to move out..

The first request for sex text came two weeks after the relationship ended and have continued up until this morning. He doesn’t care whether I’m single or with someone...I haven’t accepted but this hasn’t stopped him.

I expect to get the ‘he has no respect for you/block him’ posts...but I’m more interested in whether you’ve ever had a sex text pest or whether you’ve been a text pest.

He is testing to see how receptive you are to him. If you respond in his favor he will start you on your trip of "him" again. More of the same. Some men will continue to try to get what they can from whoever will let them "talk" to them.

It happens. If you want sex, go for it. If not, ignore him.

He's so odd because when I refuse, he just says "no worries" and that I was given 'first refusal'. Then I won't hear from him for another month or so.

If you stopped responding all together, he may stop. Some guys have an odd thing that when they get a response, even if it's negative, they stay hopeful.

Turned off texting due to text pests.
My man and I talk on the phone
every few hours.

You will like this.
Have you seen the reality show with
Ice-T called "Ice Loves Coco"?
He runs a huge congomerate, and she
is very busy too.
They share ONE phone.
Just the one, that's it.
They say it keeps them close :-)

I bet they don't text.

Never seen the show but at least they 'talk'.

Have tried not responding to him but hasn't stopped him. I delete his number after he texts. I've asked him to delete my number but he hasn't...

The thing I wanted to know is how many other people have had a sex text pest or to hear from people (male and female) who are or have been text pests.

Thanks for your comments.

I meant stop responding completely. Not even telling him to stop.

If it really bothers you, I'm sure there's a way to completely block his number.

I've never had to go that far to get someone to stop texting.

Next time he sexts you just tell him to come over cause you just got this new strap on and you want to try something you saw in a movie once.

He would probably enjoy that..this morning's text went into great detail about golden showers - nope. never have...never will.

I am not offended or flattered by these texts. I just wonder why? Why continue to send them after 7 months?

If he wanted to keep in touch, why not send a text saying 'hi, how are you?'.

I hate that. Arguments are like 95% honest misunderstanding made worse by taking things the wrong way, or out of context... how are you supposed to explain yourself clearly via txt? I've learned not to get roped into txt arguments. If she can't give me the benefit of the doubt regarding what I meant, I'll save the discussion until we can chat in person.




I've had sex request txts, and pest txts, but no sex request pest txts. I don't know any woman who have such boundary issues that they'd do that, except as a joke.

I agree, you can’t explain yourself properly in text. That’s probably why the argument lasted for 5 hours. I think we both started to lose the will to live after the first couple of hours but we neither of us would back down...fortunately neither of us are grudge bearers and we were able to go for a drink and have a good laugh about it later on that same evening..

Like you, I much prefer to argue/chat in person so that misunderstandings can get worked out as quickly as possible and life can move on.

Don't read the text...delete.

That's what I have done. Eventually they run across some other poor sucker to intrude upon.

I think you are rather enjoying it, else you would have blocked him and moved on.

YOU ARE SO RIGHT!

I don't stay in contact with an ex. As i know i'll only end up having feelings for them again, if i talk to them. Try buying a new phone or change your number. Otherwise you probably find he'll keep doing it. There's never an excuse for a nuisance to still be in contact.

He keeps it up because you respond. The solution is obvious.

That's what I was trying to say earlier. If she stops responding all together, he'll eventually give up.

lol .. If you want him to stop, start talking about him and another man..that might turn him away! Assuming he isn't into men himself.