I suspended my account here quite some time ago. I can't remember for sure why. However, Having reactivated it and had a quick look through the profiles of women searching for men I SUSPECT that ONE reason is the number of them using the term "Looking For Mr Right" as their catch-line. This is so old, tired and clichéd that it is not just boring, it's alienating.

"Mr Right" sounds like some unobtainable, ephemeral being along the lines of an asexual "Heathcliffe" that I find it instantly off-putting and thus just immediately pass those profiles by. I assume, in doing so, that the women involved are emotionally stunted and sexually arid.

Personally, I do not care to even think of being "Mr Right" but rather "Mr Okay", "Mr Flawed, But Will Do", Mr Will Give It All I Can But Insist On Having Fun".

What is other men's take on this? Do you just find it judgementally off-putting? Are the women here surprised at such a view? If you're not, why do it? Why set out from the word go to achieve a success rate of zero? Why bother putting your profile here? Why alienate the majority of men from the word go?

wow w/e works for ya dude

ur doin' better than me

I don't even read profiles

especially lex's

btw

there is no such thing as mr right

there is just mr who I love...not perfect but w/e

Where's Lex?

There can be a big difference in Mister or Misses Right Now and Mister or Misses Right.

You've barely scratched the surface....93.8% of everything I've ever seen in profiles is nothing more than a string of trite, hackneyed cliches that should have gone out of style in the Neanderthal days.

I think what happens is a lot of women read through a few other women's profiles to see what others have written. And there's such a preponderance of "Looking for my Prince Charming" and "I like long walks on the beach" and "I see the glass as half full" and "I love my friends and family" and "No game players!" and "Looks don't matter, it's what's on the inside that counts," and "I look good in jeans or the little black dress" or "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" or "I don't bite!" and so on and so on, that people actually believe this is what a profile is supposed to look like.

So they make theirs look like that.

You're right, it's not just boring, it's alienating. It makes them look lazy and unoriginal and unmotivated and dull and unappealing. And I don't think they care, because they're blissfully oblivious to the whole reality of the thing. And as long as they can post a cleavage shot or two, there will always be some drooling cretin who will send them an incomprehensibly mangled and garbled e-mail saying something astonishingly clever like "Nice bewbs!" And the girls will be happy with that.

Because that's all most of them want in the first place.

Have I ever let you down?

^ case in point


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I have temporarily shortened it while the original has been sent out for retooling. It will be back shortly, but probably in Russian.

Interesting view.
I dont think my profile reads like the ones mentioned here.
I get very little response to my ad.
I bet if I put some boring stuff in there and maybe a boob shot I would get a whole lot more of a response.
Probably not Mr. Right....but a MR. none the less.

NEVER!!

Well I am RIGHT HANDED!

The best profiles (that chicks write) start out by saying.....

1. No Drama (Which is code for she herself loves the hell out of it)
2. No FWB's (Means that she wants sex but only if she sees the bulge in your pants is AWESOME!)
3. I Know What I Want (Means she has no clue what she wants)
4. No short men (Means Mini Me is so 1999)
5. I pay my own bills (Means she does, but if you would like to pay them, then that means more money for purses, so SCORE!)

I think you get the gist of what I'm saying. Or maybe you don't. But whatever the hell it is I am saying, if a chick does say she is looking for Mr. Right, then chances are if you have that AWESOME bulge I mentioned earlier....well...you'll suffice.

Wow sounds like everyone is in a real positive mood.

Oh so now it is a matter of how bulgy your pants look uuumh sounds yummy!!!

Men do the same thing. I've seen several profiles that talk about looking for Mrs. Right.

I also see several profiles saying they're looking for their princess/queen. I think that makes them sound like they're looking for fantasy, rather than reality.

That's funny, because I think the thing I see the most in mens' profiles is also the no drama/no games thing, which to me says they're already surrounded by drama and play games often.

im going to defend the ladys here for a second. Sir, each one of them are looking for something specific,therefor sayin im looking for my mr right,they might even b lookin for you. My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me. Many will not be mr right and a few could be.i think the"mr right..is achievable and could even b found on thisite.

GOOF I SOOOOO love your responses.