Does anyone know anything about this condition? Will be grateful for replies.

Stay away from him. He will first drive you nuts, then angry, then you will never again want to see him.

Any personality disorder man or woman will come across as exceedingly charming. Then it's only downhill from there. Their irriating ways range from passive aggression to keeping tabs on who owns the other more favours or concessions, and to outright fits of anger that are not explicable by rational ways. When they are angry, look out --- they fly off the handle at a moment's notice and can be cruel, although they don't get violent -- they are too chicken for that.

When young, they are cutters, (cutting into their own skin), reckless in sex, driving, money or drugs/booze, and when they are old, they are just crappy and negative. Most are typical fault-finders and they are INVARIABLY hard to get along with. They may or may not be jealous, but they are definitely extremely self-centred and egotistical.

I give a "1" on a scale of one to five for their worth to even look at or ask where the nearest bus stop is.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/borderline-personality-disorder/DS00442

A really good source of information is Wikipedia. NAMI = National Alliance for the Mentally is is also good.

I would not make such sweeping accusations against anyone with anything wrong with their brain. There is a huge segment of society who is treated and you don't even know they have it. And yet others with no diagnosis and try to pass as normal who are completely crazy and destroyers of lives.

Borderline personality is very tricky from what I know about it. It is often used as a catch all when they don't know what exactly to say. You can also read the PDR at the library.

Some of the most brilliant people have brain disorders. The divine spark they get from mental illness is referred to as "being touched by the fire". You will hear it referred in poems and songs, "Watch out for those touched by the fire because you could get burned", etc. If you have ever heard a lyric like that or what have you, that's what it means.

There are a lot of really really famous people though who take medication to reign themselves in and are high functioning.

People with BPD tend to have a number of intense and unstable interpersonal relationships. A person with this condition can go from idealization of their significant other, to intense hatred in a heartbeat.
There tends to be a loss or lack of self identity, often times the person with BPD looks to their companion for their sense of identity and self worth.
Behaviors can include fear of real or imagined abandonment, self harm urges and threats (this can be cutting, binge drinking, driving their car to fast, etc.), threats of suicide and attempts, impulsive behaviors (over indulgence in sex, drinking, substance abuse, etc), inappropriate fits of rage, difficulty controlling ones anger. A pattern or history of repeatedly going from one intense and unstable relationship to another.
Manipulative words or behaviors are also common.

Dr. Marsha Linehan invented a therapy known as Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT) which has proven useful in the treatment of people with BPD. More info about BPD can be found on this site,

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/symptoms-of-borderline-personality-disorder/

Hope you can find some useful information.

This could be a very interesting subject.

Look forward to reading the replies.

YES,,,I KNOW OF THIS DISORDER...

Its what all the Texans feel and get when they see or catch any illegal immigrants coming into their State,,as they cross their Boarder,,,THEY START GETTING ALL UP-SET and YELLING,,CUSSING,,and SOME,,even ATTACK THEM or SHOOT at them..
Hence,,the name,,Boarder-line personality disorder...

THAT was easy....


Your NOT serious I hope?

WHAT?

OMG,,,YOUR NOT, RIGHT!!!

WHAT???

Never-mind....

Mental health problems have come more to the fore since famous people eg Steven Fry(Bi-Polar Disorder) have openly spoken of their condition.

It has been generally 'swept under the carpet'and those horrific attacks that make the headlines add to the negative thoughts on mental health.There are those who are extremely ill and should be getting the treatment required-hospitalisation.

Many others are in therapy and it has been very sccessful-people becoming 'enabled' rather than 'disabled'

The brain is a very complex organ and an individuals life can impact on them in different ways.

If you met someone and got on well and liked them and they were open and honest by telling you early on that they had problems-would you stay or go?

I'm NOT sure,,but I do BELIEVE,,your pic here would make me think,,that some with this issue,,MIGHT resemble your disposition at the moment this pic was taken?
Just a guess on my part...
I am just picking on ya,,,so ya know.....

Big Boooos lol-It was taken on my birthday!!

To be REAL with your questions here,,
I have been involved with this exact question,I STAYED.
I THOUGHT I could make them better,,I have some great patients and
a compassion to help others..
I gave THAT relationship six years and many changes in their meds and set ins with their conselors and many long talks..

I could NOT,,FIX THEM!

And I lost six years of my life trying?
SO,,it all depends on your willingness to go through hell,,to try and make something better in a few years,,what took their life-time to become..

Honesty is very cool to have and to know about how someone is or any conditions they may suffer from.
Its up to us, each in regards to how we feel about them,,and about sharing life with them to understand and be there for them in any struggles they may be having..

My lady suffered cronic depression,,,NOT BPD,,,but yet ANY and ALL conditions of a persons abilities to adapt or act which differs from a constant as its norm,,ALL have issues within them that SOME,,or MOST,,will still die with,,no-matter the time or care given to them in this life..

IF,,I had my time back to redo,,I would never have ventured into that relationship...WE could have and would have made,,,much better GOOD FRIENDS...
I hope this helps you ,,but to be very real here..
NO-ONE CAN MAKE YOUR CHOICE,,but YOU?
Good luck with finding your best ways...

i always knew i was an odd ball lol but i enjoy the fact that im a bit ok alot off upstairs lol.

that's a tough call. I think it would depend on alot of other variables relative to that person, their degree of illness etc and about yourself and what you have going on in your life. You would be one up on many of us who ended up in relationships with troubled souls with no diagnosis; at least you know what you are dealing with from the get go. If you don't get caught in the trap that 'all they need is love' pattern, and the 'I can't leave them now' cycle...and maintain your instincts for self perservation then you could have a delightful relationship....seems it certainly wouldn't be boring anyway.

I can tell you I have vast experience with this. I think it's really best if you are going to date someone like this to maintain separate households. Their level of commitment to helping themselves has to be paramount. You absolutely do not want to find yourself in CARETAKER role. Only time can tell you whether or not that person's particular disorder is one you can live with day in and day out. It's best you discover this long before they move in. I would encourage you to date them a REALLY long time before even letting anyone utter words like "co-habitat" or "marriage". Also realize the genetics of mental illness are a very new field. And you may possibly have border line children if you choose to have children by him. You also have to realize when someone has a mental disorder if their chemical balance is off, they may not be able to be there when you need them as they are having problems of their own. This can lead to feelings of emotional abandonment and neglect on your part. Also, mental illness is forever. It does not go away. Certain ones even become worse with age.

When you convert to Judaism, a rabbi must turn you away three times before letting you study to convert because it's such a serious deal.

When proposing to date someone with a mental illness, I also kind of feel you should be turned away 3 times and given a chance to realize what you are doing. If you come back on the 4th try then there may be something to that relationship.

i second that advice i dated someone with that disorder n i regretted it almost cost my life n freedom buyer beware when dealing with people with that disorder

Heard about some Nutritional Ways!
Possibly not Cures,but at least Relief!

http://www.nutritionj.com/content/7/1/2


http://www.encognitive.com/files/Mental%20llness%20and%20Nutrition.pdf


http://tinyurl.com/6ve5kso
I am no Expert on it,but it seems there is some hope!

I hate working with BPD! The best protocol, I believe is Marsha Lehman (sp?), which is a form of Mindfulness training.

Thank you all for replying,very interesting and informative poats.

..i think the whole world is FKN nuts...