How will u feel or what will u do if u find out after 20yrs of marriage wit kids dat d house u ave being staying 4 d past 20yrs which u pay house rent for belong to your wife.

my ? is how, after 20 yrs didnt you know?....you've got to read the fine print friend, :)

I would of divorced her and let justice prevail through the courts

SO!

My wife and I shared and honestly never had that conversation. You were going to pay for what ever you lived in for 20 years anyway. Does it really matter who's name it is in?

Are you saying that you lived in a house for 20 years and didn't realize it belonged to your wife? I don't know that you could pull that off in America as you'd see it on your tax return. Although I guess if you really weren't paying attention...

sorry this is not funny, it's heart breaking

correct, I agree

were I that wife I would discuss options that include selling the house and dividing the money or having one partner buy the other out. divorce should not mean financial ruin

u raise a good question OP

and warning will robinson - do everything u can to keep it OUT of the courts rather than prevail through them - the lawyers & court system will take as much of your money as they can. they are legalized thieves and see your pain as their opportunity. STAY AWAY

I don't see anywhere here where the OP has suggested the relationship is over. He's asking how we'd feel.

The more pertinent question is how do you feel and once you determine that, have a conversation with your wife.

Why would this be a problem? If you weren't losing the house, and she was paying everything and you chose not to ask about it 20 years ago, then it's kind of a moot point!

I don't understand...if you were paying rent, then the house would not belong to you or your wife so I don't see a problem.

Also if you have children with your wife of 20 yrs, why would you want to displace your children from their home?

To answer your question..how would I feel would depend on how the marriage ended. However, if I had dependent children ensuring minimal disruption to their lives etc would be my priority.

Yes, it's heartbreaking. for you to be with someone many yrs, and there is such secret.
For me that will be the end of what ever we have together.

Joy, I have something to tell you.

oh.. Pleassssseeeee, don't break my heart.

Well in some states it doesn't matter. Community property.

But I think the house should belong to the wife. Men usually die before their wives anyway.

And that way the man can't throw her and the kids out in the street.

Well maybe.... but he has to move out.

gtfo

Maybe he was paying the rent to the wife.

I'd think I'd have to sit down and have a nice long talk with my wife.

I think i am starting to love these feet,damit i'm suppst to love feet but these are so Beautiful i cant help it.