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Topic: Do you know who you are?
pkd1220 Joined Thu 05/24/07 Posts: 8318	Sat 01/07/12 09:22 AM
Our families influence us. Mine was not the best, but I am greatful for what I had. I took whatever situations I was involved in with them and made the best out of it. I interacted with my family and helped them out expecting nothing in return. What my family lacked I found by surrounding myself with loving and accepting friends. Parents and grandparents are all gone. I interact sporadically with three younger brothers by choice. I have my son and will always be there for him and he knows this. I am happy with how I turned out despite whatever challenges I faced. I am a strong woman who will always land on my feet. I thank my family for that and love those that are left. I embrace what I love about them and accept them, faults and all, because they are my FAMILY.

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Sat 01/07/12 09:29 AM
Our families influence us. Mine was not the best, but I am greatful for what I had. I took whatever situations I was involved in with them and made the best out of it. I interacted with my family and helped them out expecting nothing in return. What my family lacked I found by surrounding myself with loving and accepting friends. Parents and grandparents are all gone. I interact sporadically with three younger brothers by choice. I have my son and will always be there for him and he knows this. I am happy with how I turned out despite whatever challenges I faced. I am a strong woman who will always land on my feet. I thank my family for that and love those that are left. I embrace what I love about them and accept them, faults and all, because they are my FAMILY. And we are all so happy that you are who you are.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Sat 01/07/12 09:34 AM
I am me, a quishmash of conflicting paradoxes. That is all I need to know.

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Sat 01/07/12 09:35 AM
I am me, a quishmash of conflicting paradoxes. That is all I need to know.

pkd1220 Joined Thu 05/24/07 Posts: 8318	Sat 01/07/12 09:39 AM
Our families influence us. Mine was not the best, but I am greatful for what I had. I took whatever situations I was involved in with them and made the best out of it. I interacted with my family and helped them out expecting nothing in return. What my family lacked I found by surrounding myself with loving and accepting friends. Parents and grandparents are all gone. I interact sporadically with three younger brothers by choice. I have my son and will always be there for him and he knows this. I am happy with how I turned out despite whatever challenges I faced. I am a strong woman who will always land on my feet. I thank my family for that and love those that are left. I embrace what I love about them and accept them, faults and all, because they are my FAMILY. And we are all so happy that you are who you are. Thanks Kim. I see so many that continue to be bothered by their families. They continue looking for validation or acceptance or support by people that aren't able or willing to give it. Accept, love and feel good about yourself first and whatever you felt you weren't given by your family won't be so devasting to you.

John8659 Joined Thu 12/22/11 Posts: 299	Sat 01/07/12 09:47 AM
Or take a course on language in case one does not see that relation to self is inadmissible. The part is not different from the whole, when each is a member of a class by the same definition. Try some buttermilk for that cough. John, I mean in this in the most respectful way possible. Sometimes your posts make me want to hit you in the head with a 2x4. what on earth do you have against 2x4's? Do you know how much a good one costs?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 01/07/12 09:48 AM
Thanks Kim. I see so many that continue to be bothered by their families. They continue looking for validation or acceptance or support by people that aren't able or willing to give it. Accept, love and feel good about yourself first and whatever you felt you weren't given by your family won't be so devasting to you. This is what I learned to do over the past several years and I am a much happier person today. I accept my family for who they are and no longer harbor anger or resentment. It's very freeing.

John8659 Joined Thu 12/22/11 Posts: 299	Sat 01/07/12 09:49 AM
As for John, he and bhernandez have a back-and-forth going on between them which they are continuing here in this thread. Therefore, John's comments are directed at B., not at you. He's not trying to upset you. John was attempting to point this out to you. we do? OMG, did I just hear vows?

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Sat 01/07/12 09:51 AM
I love it that you have such great and support in your family. Some remain a bit jealous of such a healthy loving family. I am somewhat envious that you can continue such a great local, loving support group. I wish I'd been afforded the same luxury. Alas, my family continues on a path of drama, discord, and manipulations for me to handle. I cut most of them out of my life. Kudos to you and your familial connections. And congratulations on your upcoming newest member.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Sat 01/07/12 10:01 AM
what on earth do you have against 2x4's? Do you know how much a good one costs? $3.54 per board I love it that you have such great and support in your family. Some remain a bit jealous of such a healthy loving family. I am somewhat envious that you can continue such a great local, loving support group. I wish I'd been afforded the same luxury. Alas, my family continues on a path of drama, discord, and manipulations for me to handle. I cut most of them out of my life. Kudos to you and your familial connections. This I am envious of those who have a large family to some degree, but we all feel that way about something or someone. Of course I would not want my family to be that large if they were all like my family as it is now. I have enough issues with the handful who speak to me...lol. I have been defined by a lot of different things and experiences in life, but it was a lot of the stuff when I was younger that granted me my outlook that continues to this day.

John8659 Joined Thu 12/22/11 Posts: 299	Sat 01/07/12 10:03 AM
what on earth do you have against 2x4's? Do you know how much a good one costs? $3.54 per board Don't ya just hate it when someone disrespects good lumber?

bhernandez Joined Sun 03/21/10 Posts: 14901	Sat 01/07/12 10:03 AM
OMG, did I just hear vows? no.

John8659 Joined Thu 12/22/11 Posts: 299	Sat 01/07/12 10:04 AM
OMG, did I just hear vows? no. Well, you will just have to talk a little louder then.

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Sat 01/07/12 10:05 AM
I love it that you have such great and support in your family. Some remain a bit jealous of such a healthy loving family. I am somewhat envious that you can continue such a great local, loving support group. I wish I'd been afforded the same luxury. Alas, my family continues on a path of drama, discord, and manipulations for me to handle. I cut most of them out of my life. Kudos to you and your familial connections. And congratulations on your upcoming newest member. Thank you so much. This came from someone asking me why I could not leave my area in order to form a relationship. I gave it a lot of thought, and this was my reply. I cannot say that any family is without drama, I have that, also. I simply don't waste my time with it and keep in mind that it will eventually pass. We must disregard the negative to remain optimistic and maintain a smile on our faces.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45332	Sat 01/07/12 12:40 PM
I have removed all the disparaging and defensive comments made on this thread. Please respect each other's opinions and keep it impersonal, so we can all enjoy it. soufie Site Moderator

Grim14u Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 390	Sat 01/07/12 01:38 PM
Nawwww..........I havn't got a clue!!!!! But that works for me!!!

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Sat 01/07/12 05:26 PM
wonderful to read MisKim, I know how much family means to you and again Congrats on the new grandbaby! I'm pretty much the opposite. I live alone with all my family living in Canada or Arizona. I think it's different for men to be alone though, I never minded it at all. It's tough to be away from family, as I am and always have been close with my siblings; but my brother made his move to Florida. He was the last one to move. I miss them even tho I talk to them regularly. I think being/living alone depends on who you are and if you are comfortable in your own skin. I've become my own best friend and...I even laugh at myself

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 01/07/12 05:30 PM
With all due respect, I call Family "Damnly". While it's great you and your relatives are so close-many people around the Globe are Not. Sometimes, family causes the vast majority of our grief, stress, and uncertainty. Family has been the cause of problems-and though I come from a large bunch....I realize, it's ok to let them go. We don't have to be connected at the hip to be in touch or to be close. It is what it is. true I love my fam but I also love that family called friends too - that's the family we choose

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Sat 01/07/12 05:40 PM
Kim, people are over-analyzing this. I think it's a beautiful thread. Thanks for making it for us this morning. I think it's a beautiful thread too MsKim...but the problem I have with people is that they "blame" their parents, and some of them, for their entire lives. I had a very tough childhood too...full of abuse from my father; but once I left home I vowed to change my heritage and not make the same mistakes as my mother and father did. I forgave them. Everyone does what they have to do. I chose to stay close with mine :)

Grim14u Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 390	Sat 01/07/12 06:44 PM
I truly Do NOT know who I am.......But whomever it is.....I have come to Like Him. I didn't always..... So..... I guess I am at the least.... On the right track!!!