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Topic: fun?
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Thu 01/26/12 12:24 AM
29 male single no kids

Ok any woman here between late 20's to mid or early 40's
looking for more than just texting ...sorry i cannot stand that
say hi if thats you or drop me an email..i respect your time here and i want that in return please know what you want prior to answering my friend requests ...nothing wrong with friends but i specifically state
in my profile what im here for and i want to know who else is here for the same ...i like this site cause it's better than all the rest
but at the same time im an honest person and that matters to me i value that alot so i do not want to waste my time nor do i want to take up your time if all you want is just texting and chatting...state that in your profile so at least i have some idea why your here
there are plenty of great guys out there even on free sites but that doesn't mean were just perfect and that were going to meet every single one of your expectations if you think like an illusionist...everyone (guys too)have qualities and have little flaws or quirks ..i say that cause im getting the impression you all think were still perfect without some cons...be honest but be realistic and serious enough so that i do not think your a fake



any takers?
you know what to do thanks and good luck;)

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Thu 01/26/12 05:18 AM

fyi:
Lots of women assume that when a guy says 'fun', he means meaningless sex. Its just like code.

Great post. I feel the same way really.


You could put it right in your profile for clarity too.


I agree with Karen.

Fun=meaningless unattached sex

I am NOT a text person. I finally got phone that can do it right. I hate it. There is nothing I need to convey in a few characters that cannot wait for a phone call or email.

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Thu 01/26/12 11:30 AM
awesome i agree with both of you
there is nothing fun about meaningless unattachment in the dating world
thanks "texting" ...i knew right when i saw it introduced in myspace
and facebook it was a bad idea...it has it's uses but i agree it doesn't belong in dating...lol try getting that across the under 30 crowd id be doing good

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Thu 01/26/12 01:06 PM
I can't stand prolonged texting because at some point, I want to hear the sound and tone of his voice.

Being direct is never a bad thing and like Klc and Tea said, "fun" usually doesn't mean that a person's looking for a relationship.

Just out of curiosity...have you had any luck with the 40's/early 40's age group? I'm just interested because I can only date a few years younger than myself...

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Thu 01/26/12 01:12 PM

awesome i agree with both of you
there is nothing fun about meaningless unattachment in the dating world
thanks "texting" ...i knew right when i saw it introduced in myspace
and facebook it was a bad idea...it has it's uses but i agree it doesn't belong in dating...lol try getting that across the under 30 crowd id be doing good


I'm not sure I'd agree that texting doesn't have a place. It really depends on the person. And there's no problem chatting online either. Again, it will depend on the person.

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Thu 01/26/12 01:57 PM
hmm well i haven't meant anyone in that age yet but i had a great time chatting with them even though i didn't get to meet them,but yes im still saying what i said about the texting thing and yes being direct with me will make me want to know you and meet ya ;)right on i too like hearing the womans voice at some point and it going to more than just "texting and messaging"

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Thu 01/26/12 02:02 PM
Ummm...what do you think you're doing now? Texting is typing on a phone to another persons phone. You're typing now, Just not on a phone.

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Thu 01/26/12 02:08 PM
i don't disagree it does have a purpose,to get something going and set up to meet someone ..communication is communication but like i said just texting alone without the intention of the person helping to take it to the next level is what i mean by meaningless...sometimes though it happens meets do not take place but should be for the right reason ....otherwise it goes over as the electronic version of playing someone i think

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Thu 01/26/12 02:21 PM
In my mind, texting/emailing just serves as an introduction, it shouldn't become the sole means of communication.

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Thu 01/26/12 02:24 PM
Don't worry so much about texting/iming/emailing. Meet in person and go from there.

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Thu 01/26/12 02:27 PM
Right on exactly!!:wink:

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Thu 01/26/12 02:33 PM
I only text or message cause im outta no where so that means locally it won't happen for me,sometimes i feel people forget that- that goes under reasons when online and texting serve a purpose.

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Thu 01/26/12 02:41 PM
Edited by 42BlackBBW on Thu 01/26/12 02:42 PM
Regardless of geographical location, I'd still want to hear his voice every now and again because if I don't, in my mind, you're using your imagination too much and it doesn't feel real.

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Thu 01/26/12 03:31 PM
im with you 100% on that i feel the same wayhappy

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Thu 01/26/12 04:13 PM
For those sitting at home who are wondering why there luck isn't so good,if you treat dating like what is being applied here(just texting and messaging)stop and think about what the other person may be wondering about you,keep in mind that they may start to get tired of this over a period of time and want you to prove to them your serious about wanting a relationship or wanting a date whatever the case but that could be why they may have suddenly stopped texting back or messaging you back...what you do as a person defines you and says alot about so and it will come through eventually ..it is like lying ...you are representing yourself to that potential date and they are going to be taking notice and why would they go shoot themselves in the foot when they know there are those that be happy to have them.This goes to that 18-25 sometimes older crowd...you need to think and be about what your seeking ...give and share alike basically...if you do not understand this then most likely you do not care and that makes a person unfit or your just being a baggage/issue feeder..in which cases don't be surprised to find some people giving back at you!They will resent you for that!

p.s.before you go disagreeing keep in mind our divorce rate is at least 50%. just so you know i see this helpful to whom it applies.

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Thu 02/23/12 12:07 PM
oh and another thing drama .........i don't like it don't do it
other people don't like it either
and finally if you go on multiple sites free and paying and your
not having luck ....maybe it really is you ...your attitude and
personality matter more than looks ....a lot of you would do well to remember this ...maybe your the one thats not "working"
effort ....kinda like the watch the texting thing and
yes here is the BIG ONEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
BE SERIOUS ONCE IN A WHILE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lol common sense but you get what you put in if your at the right place and your playing where the field is level for everyone

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Thu 02/23/12 12:39 PM
I have never heard that fun = meaningless sex. Learn something new everyday I suppose......smokin

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Thu 02/23/12 12:53 PM
nothing wrong with txting, I tried it once, and I enjoyed it :)

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Thu 02/23/12 04:48 PM
[Quote\] you need to think and be about what your seeking ...give and share alike basically...if you do not understand this then most likely you do not care and that makes a person unfit or your just being a baggage/issue feeder..in which cases don't be surprised to find some people giving back at you!



I agree with that. Don't give more of yourself away, if it only feels one-sided. You need to be able to know when someone is being serious about wanting you, and when they may just be "fishing". Luckily, i'm not exactly looking to be in a relationship right now, though depending what happens in the future, i might one day, right now doesn't feel right for me. Good luck drinker

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Thu 02/23/12 05:47 PM
Actions speak louder than words.
Texting just makes people more withdrawn and anti-social.

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