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Topic: Spoiled
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 08:08 AM
I see an awful lot of mens' profiles saying they want to spoil their women. Are you the type of woman who likes to be spoiled? If yes, what are you looking for men to do? Are you the type of man who likes to spoil women? If yes, what does it do for you?

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 08:39 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76377	Tue 01/31/12 08:51 AM
Hummm, I'm not one that likes to be so called spoiled. But I do like a little attention at times... I enjoy it when a man does the little things that comes natural. I love it when my man cooks for me or takes 5 minutes to make the bed, or walks by and says hi baby and gives me a hug just because... I'm not a material person so I don't expect the things you have to buy....Even though something simple once in a while like remembering to pick up something I really like to eat or drink just because he thought of me is enough for me..... I don't want to be treated like a china doll or do I expect it just treat me like your equal and make me smile. That will get them farther then they will ever know..

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 08:52 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. You often speak for others, rather than yourself, I see.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 08:53 AM
Hummm, I'm not one that likes to be so called spoiled. But I do like a little attention at times... I enjoy it when a man does the little things that comes natural. I love it when my man cooks for me or takes 5 minutes to make the bed, or walks by and says hi baby and gives me a hug just because... I'm not a material person so I don't expect the things you have to buy....Even though something simple once in a while like remembering to pick up something I really like to eat or drink just because he thought of me is enough for me..... I don't want to be treated like a china doll or do I expect it just treat me like your equal and make me smile. That will get them farther then they will ever know.. I wouldn't consider any of those things as spoiling someone.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 08:54 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. You often speak for others, rather than yourself, I see. Are you saying that my opinions aren't welcome in this thread?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 08:55 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. You often speak for others, rather than yourself, I see. Are you saying that my opinions aren't welcome in this thread? Not at all. It was just an observation. You always seem to speak for a whole group, rather than just yourself.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76377	Tue 01/31/12 08:57 AM
Hummm, I'm not one that likes to be so called spoiled. But I do like a little attention at times... I enjoy it when a man does the little things that comes natural. I love it when my man cooks for me or takes 5 minutes to make the bed, or walks by and says hi baby and gives me a hug just because... I'm not a material person so I don't expect the things you have to buy....Even though something simple once in a while like remembering to pick up something I really like to eat or drink just because he thought of me is enough for me..... I don't want to be treated like a china doll or do I expect it just treat me like your equal and make me smile. That will get them farther then they will ever know.. I wouldn't consider any of those things as spoiling someone. That's because I'm not one that feels I need to be spoiled....Some are out to get what they can from another and feels it is what they should do..Myself I feel that one should never have to give to the point it hurts. But instead what will bring a smile to your face.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Tue 01/31/12 08:59 AM
I see an awful lot of mens' profiles saying they want to spoil their women. Are you the type of woman who likes to be spoiled? If yes, what are you looking for men to do? Are you the type of man who likes to spoil women? If yes, what does it do for you? I just like making her happy. I'm a sucker for a great smile. So, if that's spoiling... ..than yeah, I do. If you mean materialistic-type spoiling, then nah.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 09:00 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. You often speak for others, rather than yourself, I see. Are you saying that my opinions aren't welcome in this thread? Not at all. It was just an observation. You always seem to speak for a whole group, rather than just yourself. I was talking from the standpoint of one particular psychologist, with whom I happen to agree. His book changed my life and showed me why I spoiled the women I was in the relationship with. To be honest, before I read the book, I didn't know why I spoiled women. So maybe the guys with "profiles saying they want to spoil their women" won't know the answer. Just a thought.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 09:04 AM
Maybe one of those guys will speak up and let us know why they want to spoil women.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Tue 01/31/12 09:06 AM Edited by justme659 on Tue 01/31/12 09:07 AM
Hummm, I'm not one that likes to be so called spoiled. But I do like a little attention at times... I enjoy it when a man does the little things that comes natural. I love it when my man cooks for me or takes 5 minutes to make the bed, or walks by and says hi baby and gives me a hug just because... I'm not a material person so I don't expect the things you have to buy....Even though something simple once in a while like remembering to pick up something I really like to eat or drink just because he thought of me is enough for me..... I don't want to be treated like a china doll or do I expect it just treat me like your equal and make me smile. That will get them farther then they will ever know.. I wouldn't consider any of those things as spoiling someone. What do you consider being spoiled so we can answer the question correctly? Because I agree with TxsGal, that the little things like a meal cooked for me and other small things would make me feel like a queen. (spoiled)

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Tue 01/31/12 09:07 AM
I was brought up in a poor family. Some women are brought up having suffer from 'Spoilt Princess Syndrome'. I'm just someone who wants to be able to feel relaxed in a relationship. I don't care much for being pampered. I'm not the "Bring me my glass of wine now" biatch. Also, i don't snap my fingers. Though i certainly remember my ex was that way towards EVERYONE he knew. I find that brattish behaviour kinda nauseating.

whobedat Joined Sat 01/07/12 Posts: 141	Tue 01/31/12 09:07 AM
nothing wrong in doing that, bit i dont do it, i try to not go to the extent of spoiling a woman. Because eventually they take u for a RIDE.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 09:07 AM
Hummm, I'm not one that likes to be so called spoiled. But I do like a little attention at times... I enjoy it when a man does the little things that comes natural. I love it when my man cooks for me or takes 5 minutes to make the bed, or walks by and says hi baby and gives me a hug just because... I'm not a material person so I don't expect the things you have to buy....Even though something simple once in a while like remembering to pick up something I really like to eat or drink just because he thought of me is enough for me..... I don't want to be treated like a china doll or do I expect it just treat me like your equal and make me smile. That will get them farther then they will ever know.. I wouldn't consider any of those things as spoiling someone. What do you consider being spoiled so we can answer the question correctly? Because I agree with TxsGal, that the little things like a meal cooked for me and other small things would make me feel like a queen. There is no correct answer.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Tue 01/31/12 09:08 AM
Maybe one of those guys will speak up and let us know why they want to spoil women. I'm betting they got small pe**es.. ..since a majority, nowhere near all though, of women these days seem to be very materialistic; they they make up in another area by satisfying their one desire over one that they clearly cannot. Just a guess. >.> I will say again NOT ALL WOMEN. Before I get gang tackled.. ..though, that'd be kinda hot. -.-

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 09:14 AM
Maybe one of those guys will speak up and let us know why they want to spoil women. I'm betting they got small pe**es.. ..since a majority, nowhere near all though, of women these days seem to be very materialistic; they they make up in another area by satisfying their one desire over one that they clearly cannot. Just a guess. >.> I will say again NOT ALL WOMEN. Before I get gang tackled.. ..though, that'd be kinda hot. -.- I do think it has to do with a guy wanting to show he has money to spend on her, in hopes of her liking him more. And materialistic women will eat that right up. Though, from the women I know, I wouldn't say the majority of women are materialistic like that.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 09:17 AM
Maybe one of those guys will speak up and let us know why they want to spoil women. I'm betting they got small pe**es.. ..since a majority, nowhere near all though, of women these days seem to be very materialistic; they they make up in another area by satisfying their one desire over one that they clearly cannot. Just a guess. >.> I will say again NOT ALL WOMEN. Before I get gang tackled.. ..though, that'd be kinda hot. -.- I do think it has to do with a guy wanting to show he has money to spend on her, in hopes of her liking him more. And materialistic women will eat that right up. Though, from the women I know, I wouldn't say the majority of women are materialistic like that. You often speak for others, rather than yourself, I see.

Niceladyrealy Joined Sun 05/29/11 Posts: 279	Tue 01/31/12 09:17 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. theres probably nothing wrong with some1 that wants to give there partner pleasure in life.theres probably nothing wrong with some1selfworth if they wanto pleasure their partner.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Tue 01/31/12 09:19 AM
IMHO, men who attempt to "spoil" women feel that they are lacking in some way that makes them unlovable. Attempts at spoiling a woman is their way of detracting her from their perceived flaws. Such men should work on finding themselves to have worth and to be lovable, before entering a relationship. It will save them heartbreak and frustration down the road. theres probably nothing wrong with some1 that wants to give there partner pleasure in life.theres probably nothing wrong with some1selfworth if they wanto pleasure their partner. I never said there was. There is a problem when a man ignores his own needs in an attempt to spoil a women.