I will like to know how come men who get to be in their 50's and 60's decide NOW that they want to settle down and b in a relationship after they spent years just going from one woman to the next, I mean good women. They have broke the hearts of many of women worth marrying but now that they r older or sick they want someone to settle down with. whats up with that.

I can't tell you. I was on a site for people 50 and older and I would say that 1 out of 4 of the men that had contacted me had never been married.

For me it is a red flag because I am going to rightly or wrongly assume the following:

1. they are too picky

2. they are too set in their ways

3. they can't make a commitment

4. they are a playboy at heart

5. they still have mommy issues

Hmm.

I have been married so 1 doesn't apply to me. I am not sure about 2. 3 is a tough one as I did make a commitment. Keeping a commitment isn't listed. I never saw myself as 4. I think 5 applies though. But then who doesn't have mommy issues?

Number one, I don't want to settle down, number 2 I was married twice and that is once too many, number three both my wives left me for someone else so I don't believe I broke any ones heart. So it's not like you think.

heck if I know. at times I begin to wonder whether I really like men at all (but don't get all ready to call me a lezzie > don't care for that at all)


I am just annoyed with men right now - not all men - just several of them.....

I was married and my wife was killed in Israel 1983. I had 3 daughters and have been busy raising them. As a single dad in the military it was tough to even think about a relationship. Now my girls are gone and I want to share my life with someone. So, thats my story and why Im ready to settle down with someone. I have a good retirement as I spent 34 years in the Israeli Army and retired a Lt. Col. I want to share that with someone.

I suppose you should be joining the retired Israeli Army dating sites then?

LOL I live in the states now and I rather enjoy this site. Its been so helpful for improving my English.

LOL I live in the states now and I rather enjoy this site. Its been so helpful for improving my English.

fab-u-lous! and welcome to mingle2

if u need any tutoring let me know


in ENGLISH that is

Thankyou and BTW I love redheads

a lot of men have been in relationship for years and their hearts are broken for one reason or another but wiling to step on an go on with life I know
Mike

well I can't and won't speak for others but but I'm here to find a life long companion. With my old fashion up bringing I an set in my way and that's because of my standards and moral up bringing. But I know how to treat women right to let her know shes my everything
Mike

yes I agree with u on all of them

I am very sorry about ur wife and what I said dont apply to u. I know u did a great job at raising ur daughters and I know they love u with all their hearts.

this doesnt apply to men who have been married b4, cause that means u did make a commitment before actually u made a commitment more than once, sorry about the broken hearts no one deserves that.

this doesnt apply to u, u seem like a great guy

I am one of those men you speak of, all I can really add to this topic, is with some it takes a little longer to find the right person, and in some instances you may have found the right one and then let them get away, once you have truly loved another person, it becomes more difficult to capture those same and intense emotions with another person.
I can't speak for everyone in my age bracket who have never married, but this happen in my case, I have had 2 long term relationships in my life, but I had only felt true love for the 2nd relationship I was in, and as far as being a playboy, I never thought of myself as one when I was younger, I guess some people may had perceived me as one, but truth be told I had turned down a lot of woman I think maybe because I was always truthful and straightforward with a woman I had fewer problems being in their company then a lot of males, I never had went for the line pick-up with woman, have always just been myself, everyone is an individual.
Yeah I screwed up big time and lost the woman I truly love, and I have to own it, still love can come again, I hope this has answered your question, please don't put the same label on all of us who have never married, I believe that everyone deserves to be happy and loved.

Peace

Some are content when their young(er) and don't feel a need to "settle down"! I'm not married, never have been and probably won't be for a few years yet. I hear enough yakkity yakkity yakkity from one of my cars bad lifter.

I am sure there are a few men who are just looking for a nurse or a purse but that is hardly the venue of only older men or even only men.

I think a lot of men who just become kind of invisiable. Good guys that work long hours, try to help their families; Kids, and or parents, even siblings,

Often coworkers assume men are married or have girlfriends because they keep their private lives out of the work place.

The economy has been real hard for some men to even afford dateing. Or feel like they could comfortably afford a traditional partner. I know several men my age who are struggleing with climbing rents, reduced work hours, if not unemploument or fears of it, and major out of pocket medical expenses as minor chronic health issues eat up their social budget. .

I know at least three men who never planned to be single but were dumped, with catestrophic medical bills when their spouses survived health issues and decided they could just live with someonelse and walk away from their financial obligations.

That many women will not date anyone that lives with family or in shared houseing the men eventually just give up trying.

And it is sad but many times children actively discourage mature men's efforts at dateing. They make it clear that if their parent attempts another relationship they will abandon them and take the grandkids with them.