Interesting thread...dating a partner with children does take a very unselfish person, to accept a family unit, as they are, and to love all of them inclusively takes a lot of work...

We are all different, with different personalities, and sometimes they clash..finding the tolerance to love the differences is hard work.

It is easy to make closed statements that families are a package and if you love the person, love the kids...or burn them at the stake if they don't..,kudos to anyone who honestly asks for opinions to situations that are less than perfect, even hyperthetical ones.

If you like her and want to see where you and she end up, I'd say you better keep those thoughts to yourself. If the kids are that bad, you might want to leave before you blow a gasket and hurt the kids' feelings or piss off mom.

If you can't take her children, tell her it just isn't going to work & walk away. Trying to make her choose, is rude. No gentleman would EVER attempt such a thing.

If you hate her kids its time to move on cause they are hers for life.

Why would you want to tell a woman you HATE her kids when you have a wife at home. Would this same woman HATE hearing this from you?? something to think about hey?!

As a mother...if someone said that to me they would have their clothes in one hand and the car keys in the other...oh...and they might want to call an ambulance...If someone didn't like my children then they can leave...no need to stay around untill you hate them...mom's are very protective over their children if they are bad or good children...don't cross the line...there are better ways to discuss the issue

I just don't date anybody with kids, period. Problem solved.

Does it limit one's options? Sure, but I've tried it before and it's not for me. No sense pretending otherwise, that does no one any good.

Believe me, if you don't like her kids she will know. You won't have to tell her. Women with children are looking for men who love their children almost as much as you love her and if that's not the scenario, it ain't gonna work. Like somebody else said, it's a package deal.

It is also said that a man is not inclined to raise another man's child.

I was married to a man who didn't treat my daughter kindly who has some minor disabilities. He would wait till I left the house and start in on her. Going up to her room and telling her what to do.

Each and every time I'd leave the house my cell phone was blowing up with, Mommy, he's in my room yelling at me and telling me this and that. Then he'd call immediately after defending himself. I'm like, but you don't dicipline her when I'm around.

I believe he had good intentions underneath it all, and just wanted her to be more responsible but I just didn't like the way he treated her when I was not around, and I could never leave the house in peace.

If a man isn't kind and patient with your children especially when you're not around, it's not a good sign and I ended up divorcing him with that issue being one of about 70 others.

Your children are more important than anybody else, and if you sense your man dosen't like them or as this string suggests, "hates" them, he gots ta go bye-bye.