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Topic: who believes?
INnotOF's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:42 PM
Who believes that a strong faith in God is VITAL in a relationship?


ME!

INnotOF's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:43 PM
Sound off!

Rapunzel's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:44 PM
I agree flowerforyou

Queene123's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:47 PM
i guess i would agreeflowerforyou

Jess642's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:51 PM
Ummm.nope..not for me...however, each to their own, and if that is important to you, so be it.

Differentkindofwench's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:53 PM
I have to think about this. Must ponder.

I believe a strong faith in God is vital to a relationship with God.

As to relationships between me and other humans - I believe its easier to have similar beliefs. However, honestly, if all of a sudden I am bowled over tomorrow by someone who does not believe in God, yet fits my personal definition of an all around great human being, I seriously doubt I would tell them to hit the road.

INnotOF's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:53 PM
I tried getting my feet wet again in the whole dating thing. I met a guy with a great personality, a great heart, and even good lookin'. The only thing missing was God. I know that I need a match that is compatible or even more involved with God than I am. So when I told him I couldn't continue seeing him based on this need, he said he'd go to church with me. I told him that if he wasnt' seeking God on his own before I was in the picture, what makes him think he'd continue seeking God after I was his. He didn't get the picture...

INnotOF's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:54 PM
opps Different...my mistake I wasn't specific...i meant dating relationship with a future together in mind...sorry girl!

:D

INnotOF's photo
Sat 07/28/07 04:56 PM
you know what's errie...no men are responding...but women are...do you suppose women have no fear when it comes to discussing this kinds of stuff?

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Sat 07/28/07 05:07 PM
Nope, I think this thread has been done a couple of times before, so responses may have already been given.

On one of the other threads, does a different religion matter in a romantic relationship. On that one, I sat on the fence and said it depended on the individuals. After reading the discussion, though, I realized a lot of people who said it wouldn't matter to them had really great and valid points, which caused me to change my thoughts and get off the fence.

If its important, right and proper for you, then by all means go with that......

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Sat 07/28/07 05:07 PM
Who believes that a strong faith in God is VITAL in a relationship?

No, not me.


flowerforyou

Abracadabra's photo
Sat 07/28/07 05:14 PM
I prefer to have a woman who can handle reality. If she's leaning heavily on a god she doesn’t need me. She obviously has someone in her life already.

You see, I believe in god, but not the kind of Santa Claus god that you lean on. If she knows god in the same way I do then it won't be a problem, but if she thinks of god as a third party it probably isn't going to work out very well. Especially if she equates any particular organized religion to god. There's no way I want to have anything to do with any organized religion. They are the furthest thing from god.

I steer clear of bars and churches. They are both ungodly places as far as I'm concerned.

Also, if you are rejecting really nice guys just because they aren't religious you may veyr well be passing by the love of your life. But that's your choice. Seems to me that if god is getting in the way of love there's something drastically wrong with that picture of god.

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Sat 07/28/07 05:57 PM
Hey Abra,

How goes the composing?

Redykeulous's photo
Sat 07/28/07 06:13 PM
Hi Abra, DKW, and everyone else. I don't want a life partner just like me. I want someone who has some interests different than mine. It allows time apart, personal time to experience life on one's own terms and the wonder of this freedom is that it can add so much more to a loving, trusting relationship.

For this reason, I can not imagine that a personal relationship with God, that extends to interests within a religious setting or community, could bother me at all. In fact I would support it as I would support anything my partner valued and strived to do or accomplish in life.

Of course it that partner would have to feel the same way, and return in kind, the same trust and support of my own striving. That would mean, she would not try to convert or change me.

When I see this kind of question, especially when I see answers that affirm that common believes are relevant & required in a relationship, I wonder how tolerance and non-judgment fits into that persons life. Sounds more like a condescending acceptance based more on pity than on true acceptance.

no photo
Sat 07/28/07 06:16 PM
an ancient pastor once told me that if a couple puts thier faith in God first, that that the rest of thier relationship will take care of itself. it seems to be true from my observations.

Abracadabra's photo
Sat 07/28/07 07:29 PM
Hi DK and Di,

I just wrote a song, I posted the lyrics in the Poems forum, but they are also on my web site along with the music for the melody of the song. I can't sing so I had a trumpet play the melody with piano accompaniment.

You can hear it here:

http://www.csonline.net/designer/ideas/dont_no.htm

ArtGurl's photo
Sat 07/28/07 07:31 PM
Hi Abra, Wench & Di flowerforyou

Lovely to see your faces here. Hope you are well!

:smile:

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Sat 07/28/07 07:32 PM
>> I told him that if he wasnt' seeking God on his own before I was in the picture, what makes him think he'd continue seeking God after I was his


Good call! His 'going to church' sounds like a gesture intended to appease, rather than a sincere, spontaneous desire of his.

no photo
Sat 07/28/07 07:33 PM
>> Who believes that a strong faith in God is VITAL in a relationship?

Oh, and: Not me.

ArtGurl's photo
Sat 07/28/07 07:34 PM
Sorry forgot to answer...

Not vital to me but tolerance is...I am intolerant of intolerance bigsmile

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