I went manic two years and and did not come back to earth until recently. I can't believe I divorced my husband two years ago. I am going through delayed shock and grief.

Has anyone else experienced this?


TL

It can take some time for things to set in at times.

I'm glad you're back though. :)

No, I've never experienced that, but I'm sorry for your loss or rather your new awareness of your loss.

It is normal to have a mourning time, I've heard of delayed as sometimes other things push it out of the way. Good luck!

Last year, I did not really get a chance to grieve because I had two major emergency surgeries. One really botched. Both altering my body in a major way.

Thanks for your support everyone.

Sometimes grief hits you at the most unexpected moments. Just when you think you are okay, you realize you aren't. It takes everyone their own amount of time to process and grieve - no matter what the extenuating circumstances. Just be kind to yourself and keep moving forward. It's all you can do.

One of the cruelest elemnts of Manic Depression is having to live with some of the behaviors and their consequences later when the maic stage passes. .

Delayed greif over lost relationships; even those that seem like they were your choice at the time or stage of the cycle you were/are in is not rare at all.

Since it is not uncommon that those losses can compound the depressed side of the cycle I would recommend seeking serous support from professional greif counselors who are also qualified mental health counselors as well as mainstream friends. Because the mainstream person may not recognize a manic depressive/s may be a much greater risk to themself they might over look dangerous symptoms. .

While varrying degrees of manic depression exist it is a serious health issue that goes best when addressed by a team approach of patient, supportive friends, experienced peers, and qualified professionals when secondary issues come up in life, such as post divorce greif which is no small thing.

It stands to reason there are a typical number of manic depressives on Mingle as any other site I do know there are a couple of sites that are particularly helpful. First is the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill peer site and then Datehookup.com's sub group for the Disabled. They commonly discuss such issues with empathy and expertise.

No one really says manic depressive anymore. They say bipolar. I do not refer to myself as a bipolar. I am a person with bipolar disorder. In some circles saying manic depressive is like saying retard or the N word, it's considered offensive. I have a therapist and a psychiatrist and good friends and family. I find those disabled dating sites are very destructive. It's not good necessarily to think you need to date disabled just because someone is. It's often twice the fire and twice the chance of exploding. I am what is considered very high functioning despite my problems. My major issue is I finally found a doctor who understands I have a form of OCD. No I am not a clean freak. Without proper meds, I have poor impulse control. I am doing great on my meds. I am suddenly finding myself more stable than I have been in a long time and turning around and seeing the damage that was the path behind me. The good news is that I have stopped all that destructive behavior and the future looks bright and positive. Today I am high functioning. Believe it or not, my ex husband is my biggest cheer leader in getting through the divorce grief. He told me it's like a death. He mourned it back then and I am mourning it later but it's still a huge loss. We discussed why it happened, why we cannot go back in time, and how much better I am doing. I truly did marry and divorce my best friend so I am lucky in that regard. No we will never be together again but he understands like no one else does the relationship we had.

And the fact that he is your best friend, and that you are still in contact - in a healthy way - is a major reason why you will be able to work through the grief. You are truly in a transformative period in your life!

Thanks to all who responded.

I would imagine Bi-Polar is the more commonly used and may be more acceptable to some people but so is the term Manic Depressive. Depends generally on your age which term may be more familiar. Names for disabilities tend to transition over the years and everyone has their preferences and sometimes even have preference for when and who can use them.

My personal preference is to see the Person first and I really don't much like lables. I think labels are for jars not people.

My recomendation of the DateHookUp Sub Group of People with Disabilities was not exclusively to promote it for dateing any more than I would promote Mingle as ONLY a date site. There are many subgroups that exchange information and support over a variety of topics but that particular subgroup is long standing, positive, and often has constructive ideas how to deal with any special nuances of situations that are related to living with a disability along with other life issues. Yours was greiving divorce which is significantly higher for people with disabilities but DOES NOT preclude some very happy long standing relationships, even marriages, and as you say is your situation a friendly relationships even after divorce. A person I know there is currently very articulate on the subject as is she on the subject of greif and how the effects of a disability can complicate it or visa versa.

The preference to date a person with the same, similiar, different or no disability is always a personal preference. The case can be made for positives and negatives either way. I would never want someone to date me because I have a disability anymore than i would want them to date me because I didn't. Especially since having a disability is VERY rarely a choice and I tend to pick people because of the choices they make not things they have little or no control over.

I particularly like the Alliance becasue they have the broader view of serving the whole Community and Families not single mindedly just the Person with Mental Illness. There are groups that do that and I have nothing against them in certain situations.