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Topic: Stepping out of my comfort zone...
MicheleNC's photo
Tue 07/31/07 04:50 PM
Okay, so I have met a guy on another site. He seems awesome, sweet, attentive. However, he is a bit younger (3 years) and it a few hours away by car.

Those of you that know me, know I have my son most of the time so my free time is limited and I DO NOT bring people around my boy until I know they will be around for a long time (as friends or otherwise).

I think it is time to step out of the box. I might be free next weekend. I may go there or he may come here. My gut is telling me to go for it. If I go there, I have a place to stay nearby.

Thoughts, ideas, nudges in any direction?

I just needed to babble. Hugs to those that care enough to read, M

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Tue 07/31/07 04:52 PM
GO WITH YOUR GUT FEELING OR WONDER WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN FOREVER

Silkbutterfli's photo
Tue 07/31/07 04:54 PM
Age is just a number, my ex husband was 7 years younger than me. If you feel comfortable enough to go and have the time available, check it out. You will never know for sure unless you give it a shot.
Good luck!

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Tue 07/31/07 04:54 PM

Whatever you decide to do, do it from your gut and your heart. If you want to take a chance, go for it. No one got anywhere without stepping out of their comfort zone!

Good luck to ya!

KeepingTheFaith's photo
Tue 07/31/07 04:57 PM
You should go, but be sure to protect yourself until you know it is a safe environment. That said, I'm all for taking a chance and would encourage you to do the same.


MicheleNC's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:00 PM
I love that my JSH family points me in the direction I am going. Thanks for the nudge, Now, Silk and Bay.

BTW-BayAreaGal, I love your area. Want to go back there!

Now for fun things to do while there...he lives right near Carolina (UNC-Chapel Hill for those who do not bleed blue), so Franklin Street and campus walks are in order. Do I cook for him? Yes, I am a constant planner. Can't do anything without a plan even it the plans get changed.

Okay, I really should sign on to work now or find chocolate.

MicheleNC's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:01 PM
Thanks, Keepingthefaith. I'm a safety girl, first and foremost. Remember, I am a paid, professional stalker. I know what and where I am getting into at all times! GRIN!

Bornnaked's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:02 PM
Age no problem just have a backup plan just in case.I have met with women from differant sites but the first time was some place netural.

Silkbutterfli's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:08 PM
That is really good advice, meet some place where you will feel safe. That way, if you are uncomfortable, he doesn't know where you are staying. Be careful whatever you do and have fun.

daleray1606's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:11 PM



Go and have fun.. I'll pray for ya'lls safety.. just to be sure...

Angelsing's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:12 PM
Don't forget, the coffee shop is a great place to meet:smile:
Good luck.

Silkbutterfli's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:13 PM
How do you become a professional stalker? I want to too!!! LOL

incognito29's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:13 PM
I agree, go. You don't want to have any "what if's". If it helps calm your nerves...background check.
Meet up for lunch, keeps it light that way. If things go great then you will have the rest of the day to spend together. If it goes bad then it is much easier to say bye after lunch then diner.

mahaskins's photo
Tue 07/31/07 05:16 PM
I agree with several posts above. You should take a chance, but be extremely careful. A lot of people mis-represent themselves on-line. I took a chance recently and met a girl in Indiana. She is one of the best things that has happened in my life in a long time. Make sure that if you do decide to meet him, it is in a public place and you have your own transportation. That way you can bail on him if you need to. Hopefully everything will work out fine and you will be underway on a new and wonderful relationship.

P.S. I am originally from Vance County in N.C., It is nice to see someone else from N.C. Good Luck Home Gurl!

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Wed 08/01/07 01:54 AM
sO YOUR comfort zone is not jiving with the age difference???? I think all of my bfs/husbands have been younger than me.......wow......maybe that was the problem?????laugh laugh laugh

ok nvm what I just said.......be careful, have a cell phone, eat your veggies, wear clean underwear!!!:wink: laugh

MicheleNC's photo
Wed 08/01/07 02:34 AM
Gypsy-I'm used to dating guys that are older than me. However, it is the distance thing. But the distance is not too great to worry about it right off.

Mahaskins-Go Heels! What made you leave our fair state?

Either way, my niece is thrilled I might be coming up there. She needs help packing up her place since she is moving back home for grad school.


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Wed 08/01/07 02:41 AM
wOW........THE DISTANCE THING....oops caps!!! Try dating another country???? geeeeeeeeeez

Here I go again....grumble grumble laugh laugh

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Wed 08/01/07 02:41 AM
wOW........THE DISTANCE THING....oops caps!!! Try dating another country???? geeeeeeeeeez

Here I go again....grumble grumble laugh laugh

nurjoyce's photo
Wed 08/01/07 03:34 AM
time to step out of your comfort zone.
you do need to go with your gut feelings.
just be safe.

oldsage's photo
Wed 08/01/07 03:49 AM
Michele, you know what to do, be careful & we got your back.

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