Tired of people telling me I chose this.

It's not a choice. I was born this way...

As long as you are happy ...nothing else really matters.

No, it is a choice. No matter what you want to believe or why you choose it, it's a choice.

But, it's not like I care, so if it helps you sleep at night, I'll play along.

Everyone has their own opinions on this, i respect them and thank you.

This is for me personally. Does it really matter what people think? Hell no.

I'm happy with who I am. Nothing wrong with me.

pyxxie13, totage: ")

I don't particularly care what you are, it doesn't bother me at all.

But your statement is incorrect.

i totaly agree its a choice cause people like the life style they choose it but there comes with it some negative parts so they justify it saying it wasnt a choice i was born this way. what a bunch of bull

the only thing we cant choose is to be born,,,from that moment,, everything is our choice (even though some choices are tougher than others)

we basically dont identify with gender until we are two or three, so we certainly dont develop gender preference before that time,,,,especially not before birth,,


thats not to judge the choice, I chose my lifestyle too,,,and I am still growing enough to possibly change my mind about parts of it from time to time,,,

This all is really interesting. Willing to hear everyone out.

http://www.sciencemag.org/content/284/5414/571.summary


AS you can see, even science does not agree, we will have to wait for more research to understand if choice or born.

From what I've heard from my gay friends, I don't think it's a choice.

But, don't worry about what others think.

When did you choose to be straight?

I am an 18 year old girl, I have knwon about my being a lesbian since I was small. I have tried to date men, be with them, I cant, just as much as any of you can't be with the same sex. Why would a person chose to be made fun of, have their family turn against them, their friends turn their backs on them and be different? I did not want this for a very long time. I have accepted it, I am who I am, I am a lesbian just like some of you are straight. You can't be with the same sex just as much as I can't be with the oposite.

I agree its not about choice but what the op said you are just born that way. If people don't like it; they can take a flying leap. That's the whole problem with our society that if you don't go with the flow; then you are an outcast. Screw them. Live your life the way you want to. The only happiness that matters is yours.

He He. Good question Sing.

sometime AFTER I realized what gender was and started associating certain 'feelings' with one or the other,,,


kind of like when I realized I liked ice cream not that I was BORN liking it

but when the taste first hit my taste buds, I enjoyed the sensation enough to permanently associate the two,,

causing me to continue telling myself I liked ice cream and reaffirming that reality mentally and emotionally every time I ate it,,,


on the contrary, I didnt like liver. BUT , having the CHOICE to eat it and learning about its health benefits, I later learned to season it up in such a way that (when I cook it) I now like it.

preferences and likes change all the time, if we have the mental and emotional openness to expand our perception and our experiences.

some choices are difficult

it would seem odd that you tried to 'date' men since you were small
its more likely that you , for some reason, had initial negative feelings with the males you were exposed to that were reaffirmed often enough for you to equate that with their gender...

people choose things that wont be accepted all the time,, in the sixties people chose interracial dating but they werent BORN interrace sexual,,,,,

whatever the difficulties, apparently the positive outweighed it for you

I dont think people are born with a 'behavior'. I also dont agree with outcasting people for their imperfections. None of us are without our own.

I just dont feel pressured to pretend as if a behavior is ever a biological MANDATE.

I have gay friends, I don't judge.

Sorry that life has been so rough for you at times. I've heard "horror stories" from some of my gay friends about how they were treated by their parents and family and communities when they told the truth and admitted they were gay...The abuse they experienced makes me feel sick. It's not right. And some of these people grew-up in so-called religious homes...Anyway I believe that we come into this life with sexual preferences that kick-in when we reach puberty. I'm glad that you feel more accepting of yourself today even though society can still be judgemental and intolerant at times. Sorry about all of it.

I believe you! I feel the same way.