I have always been with guys older than myself...however as I reach 40 I still find I'm attracted to young fit guys while guys my age or older seem, well old.

Leaving adide "love can conquer all" what age gaps between couples do you think can work?

I'm puzzling over whether to date guys 30 and younger.

There's plenty of forty, fifty, and even sixty year old guys out there that are in excellent shape.

So if you got a mothering complex. Or you're just looking for some nice eye candy to hang on your arm when you're at the opera, go with what you feel comfortable with.

Wow, a mutual match.

Maybe it's just a midlife crisis then?

Yeah, I like older guys, one guy was 54 though, he looked cute but when I saw his profile I thought it was a bit too old for me. I think I will taper down to people in their forties. They have to at least be 2 years older than me.

Either that, or you are as human as the ...err... other humans on this site.

If it is acceptable for a middle-aged man to go for a much younger woman, then why shouldn't it be acceptable for a middle-aged woman to go for a much younger man?

I know it's acceptable...I'm not asking that.

I'm asking what age gap "works"...when women are dating younger guys.

Go for the Young fun stuff for dating if that is what attracts you but someone fairly close to your age in either direction has a better chance of working in a marriage.

I think, generally, age is a decent guide of the average developmental stages of our life

the average 16 year old for instance will probably be raging with hormones and revolving their life around popularity and hetero or homo relationships

though many 16 year olds have a maturity beyond the 'average' and are focused on their future and taking care of their families


the same is true at every age, no absolutes, but pretty good AVERAGE indicators based in age


,,,bottom line is that two people at a similar developmental age can make it work

whether its a mature 18 year old with a 35 year old, or an immature 35 year old with an 18 year old

the match has to be the developmental stage, which is USUALLY going to be found in similar age groups, but not always,,

When I said younger, I was thinking like 25,26.....not 16!

But thanks for the answer I take your point.

I stay within 10 years younger.
As far as older women go, as long as there's a gap, age is no problem.

Being on mingle you will soon learn that alot of younger men will message you. It is who YOU are attracted to and are compatible with. At the end of the day it is the both of you who make the choice, 15 years is nothing if he is mature.

Whatever works for you...This is why we are individuals.

And yes, you will get messages from a lot of younger men here...I apologize in advance, however, our options are between an age gap and that other 20-somethin' girl that our abundance of "A tad to close a bit too quick" messages scared off.

Statistically, the majority of the female residence here at Mingle2 is typically over 30.

Just concentrate on finding one that is good for you. Why bother asking the age to come to that conclusion?

Last person I had a relationship with was 12 years older than I. I thought I had a catch till I realized age has nothing to do with maturity. From this point on im no longer concerned about the looks and age. Yes there has to be attraction for it to work but it won't be the larger issue. That will just fall into place if your into the person. The main thing is if the quality of them and if we match in life goals . If we are on the same track.

malibu818, if you are not concerned with age, then why do you have your account filter set to limit the age of people who contact you?

Age is nothing but a number ... But sometimes maturity is not there

Either younger or older

it really depends. I always have been with guys younger but only by ten years younger then me cause they wud make me feel young, but lately older men then me have caught my eyes cause of respect, and being treated as a lady and i don't think it has anything to do with midlife crisis, it more to do with how u want to feel within yrself...

I feel the same way OP. Women my age (50) are are generally obese (BMI above 29.9). And the few that have taken good care of themselves are usually only interested in men wealthier than myself. I see the second type hanging out in bars near a marina.

Most women are in their first marriage by their mid to late 20s. And that'll last seven or eight years. So, when it's over they're mostly the two types I mentioned above.

That leaves only women in their late teens and early 20s. So, that's who I usually date.

I don't generally get to deeply involved with them though. It's like a ride at Six Flags. I enjoy it while it lasts and then jump on another. When I met my last girlfriend I was involved with three other young ladies. But, the one that became my girlfriend was just more fun to hang out with. So, I gradually began to spend more and more time with her until we were exclusive.

My advice is date the most interesting, attractive, fun person you can and enjoy it s long as you can.Because none of us know how long we have.

Date whomever you like. What do you care what other people think?