After being single for so many years a guy like me might have a tendency to make stupid decisions where finding a new girlfriend is concerned. Most girls don't pay me a lot of mind these days, but usually I get the attention from the outrageous sort, the ones who want free drinks, or waitresses who want bigger tips. If I meet women while working they tend to want special deals. I know you wouldn't think that with the industrial equipment I build, but it is true.

So anyway I'm thinking of cutting a lot of this out by finding myself a nice wedding band and wearing it most of the time. I hardly think this is going to stop me from getting some unexpected surprise since I never really had that kind of trouble, and it might just save me some annoyance and keep me from looking neglected and pitiful. Besides that it takes the pressure off the single women I meet and saves me from financial predators who just want to borrow a hundred dollars so they can pay their car note which they have almost enough money for if I would just help them a little this one time and they will pay me back real soon and get a notarized document with a payment schedule and,,, give me a break.

Any thoughts on this?

If it makes your life easier, than go for it.
Question though, to me it would be like trying to live a lie.
Would be better for me to learn to say NO, firting won't get you a better tip, just because I'm not married, doesn't mean I am a lesser person.

I always feel the TRUTH is the best way to live.
But I am an opinionated old man.

As a female, I have often considered wearing a wedding ring to keep unwanted attention away, but have never done so.

What happens when you meet someone that you like and you are wearing the wedding ring/band?????? I've decided it is not necessary. I can always tell the creeps that I am dating someone to get them off my back. You should be able to do that w/ the gals.

why not ?? many women do it just so they will not be hit on by every Tom **** and Harry out there

I wanted to put my thoughts into this one. Im sorry to hear about your luck with women. I myself am not like that but i had a friend who definately was and i know she hurt a lot of people and its wrong.
I understand why you want to do that but honestly, that could hurt you in the end also. I know that if i see a man with a wedding band i sometimes dont even like to talk for fear of hurting someones feelings. I dont like trouble so why go look for it. I think if you do that then you may lose out on someone special. Also, what would you do if you found someone, told them why you were doing that but then she thinks...red flags..he lied all ready...just a thought for you to think about ok???...good luck though.
Erika

I know a lot of women who do the same thing. I don't blame them either, we men can be pigs around single women. I don't think its living a lie. It is just easier than explaining stuff all the time. It is nice to go somewhere by yourself and not be bothered

Thats kinda like lying is'nt it?

Besides- some women are attractted to married men and that plan
might fail you misserably...

You don't really think a wedding ring will deter any woman who just wants a bigger tip, a free drink, or a favor do ya? It won't!!!

Plus the fact, you could be screwing yourself out of a great relationship......scenario: She sees you out somewhere, she thinks 'hey! he's cute (or whatever)' then she gets a glimpse of that gold around your left finger and she's gone forever....

my daughter went out the other night with a girl friend and these guys were coming up to her and hitting on her and she did notwasnt anything to do with them, and if she told them she already had a boyfriend they would still have persisted on annoying her so she finally said that she was a lesbian and you should have seen them run the other way. Lie YES did it work YES and no one got hurt

well, with or without a wedding ring if a man/woman is really wanted to flirt w/ anybody they wouldnt care.So it depends to the person,for example....me ,if i see a man wearing a wedding ring even how hard he tried to flirt with me I wouldnt waste my time entertaining him,coz thru that Ive already know that it will only lead us to nowhere.......

.....hmmmm, the guys ran, just because she said she was a lesbian....WHY??????

My best friend of 27 yrs have "played lesbian" on several occasions! It works great most times....sometimes the guy is even more turned on!

...no offense but personally, I would've asked...."can I watch?"....LMAO

Wearing a wedding ring can be a deterant, however, as several have said, what if you meet someone you are interested in? How do you explain the ring?
Why not just try the honest thing, tell these women who are a problem, that you just aren't interested? Have heard, Honesty is the best policy.
As for the people that hit you up for loans, just tell them you can't help, don't have the money, or whatever. The waitress looking for a bigger tip, that is going to happen no matter who you are or what you look like. Most waitresses work for minimum wage and count on their tips to make ends meet. They will flirt with everyone for a bigger tip.
Good luck

I was thinking more of a diversionary tactic rather than a lie. I figure if someone wants to know if I'm married they can ask or simply get to know me well enough to someone mention it. As for messing up the potential perfect match, its been years and its not happening that way. Strangers don't meet accidentally in public life at my age. I'm certainly not walking up to a woman in a grocery store or gas station and asking for her number. No real danger there.

Women for the most part do not approach strange men in public either, so same thing, no worry about missing something there. I figure if I'm really going to meet someone it will probably be an introduction by somebody or something like that. Unfortunately most of my friends are as single as I am and any of them would try to meet someone for themselves first.

I'm just thinking of separating the quest for a spouse from my daily life, and maybe complicating things for myself whenever I want to do something really foolish like ask a woman for a date in the checkout line.

I should really proof my typing.

when i was married and wearing a band all kinds of women were flirting with me and coming on to me. but now i'm divorced and not wearing a band these same women won't give me the time of day. so what's up with that?

I Pawned Mine and Hers LOL