His email to his female best friend and lover for over 2 yrs:

morning ------,

I'm off to work :( hope your having a great weekend so far, keep cool!!
Just so you know , I went out with that girl and that seemed to go well. I am going to pursue this and see how it goes. I won't say no more bout it unless you ask cause I know it may be painful to you.
love you and TTYL,
-----!


Her Reply:

Just so YOU know. I think you're a fool for not realizing what is right in front of you. But. You go and be happy and I will be happy for you. -----


His response to her reply:

I probably am a fool but i must find out how big a fool I am.



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Huh? This guy's best friend is also his lover for 2 years? And he went out with another girl? And now his lover is upset because he went out with this other girl and he wants to date this other girl now?



I'm confused.

Is this a joke post, or a real situation?

That's right Bay. And it's real.

the fool is going to loose his lover and bestfriend for ever and he see this but hes a 'f' idiot

He says his best friend / lover is not 'the one' - does this make a difference?

The writing on the wall can't be any clearer. He's not into his lover and that's that. Sorry, babydoll. Time to move on.

Oh, it's not me (believe that or not).

Oh, good. You don't strike me as someone who take crap like that!

Now,go tell the person who in the emails that she's gotta kick him to the curb! He's no good.

OMG...I agree with BayArea...he is more than DONE!!!!

KICK IT TO THE CURB... JERK! WOW...

Trying to help out my friend. She just can't believe this guy is doing this. She always thought he'd wise up one day....I've run out of words of wisdom for her. Thought maybe you all could be a back up........thanks

Unfortunately, it sounds like she got used when it was convenient for him. Didn't try to see if there was more there with the friend/lover and basically threw her over. She needs to kick his azz to the curb and find someone that will treat her with the respect she deserves.

From a guys viewpoint...she ought to rip his head off and crap in the hole that is left. Although, at least he is enough of a man to tell her, I suppose that that is better than just going out on the sly, but, not much. It sounds to me that he is still playing the field.

It kind of sounds like he knows that she will always be there IF his other relationships don't work out. This is why I would never mix friendship with a relationship...I would rather keep a good friend!!
I would tell her to really look at how he handled the situation, would she really want him now? I think he wants her to wait for him and always be there "just in case"
I say move on and don't even have a friendship with him! He is no kind of friend at all!! Good luck

wow, i'm really surprised that everyone's so angry with him. it's not like he's lying...it sounds as though they have had an extended agreement.

the only thing i would question is why he didn't end it when he figured out she had feelings for him.

Scratching head. I will never ever figure people out. Sigh.

Here's a bit of background, ....He once told her he'd stop having sex with her if she thought it would ruin the friendship. And they did for a while. But, I believe someone needed a booty call at some point and well. The sex was not real often maybe once a month except when they went out of town together, then it was everyday, sometimes twice. His actions were always loving. He told her he loved her. He signed most of his emails "love". They were inseparable really. Traveled together. Spent vacations together. He usually paid for most 'dates' and expenses. He wouldnt' let her pay. He sent her flowers on her birthday and for valentines. He bought her really cool gifts at Christmas. He attended all of her holiday parties with her (as her date). I guess she kept thinking the light would come on sooner or later..... I had hoped it would, myself. To see them together you'd have thought they were a real couple and very much IN love......I'm pretty sure he's always been up front and honest with her. I believe she was reading his actions and not his words, as I have done myself once.........

I have a male friend that has a female friend that does things together like that. I don't think its that extreme, they use to do what he calls a movie night. I honestly believe they are just friends and no sex is involved...BUT I truly believe that she really likes him. I warned him but you know how men are, they don't understand how us women think. I tried to explain that if you keep taking her places and showing her any type of affection...she might get the wrong picture!!

I do think that men and women just think so totally different and maybe your friends guy was thinking he was just actually a friend. I see it way past friendship from what you described. I think some people sign things "love" and don't really even think about it!!

Makes a lot of sense, unsure, thank you.