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Topic: Do u think Sex is necessary for this age....
dcastelmissy's photo
Thu 03/13/14 05:12 AM
Edited by dcastelmissy on Thu 03/13/14 05:33 AM

perhaps you mean a monogamous relationship as there is a big difference between a committed one and a monogamous one.
My case in point, I am in a very committed LT relationship, however we do allow ourselves a little safe play within reason outside of our relationship which works well for the both of us.

The fact is, only 3 percent to 5 percent of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals (including humans) are known to form lifelong, monogamous bonds , with the loyal superstars including beavers, wolves and some bats.

Social monogamy is a term referring to creatures that pair up to mate and raise offspring but still have flings. Sexually monogamous pairs mate with only with one partner. So a cheating husband who detours for a romantic romp yet returns home in time to tuck in the kids at night would be considered socially monogamous.




I view a "committed relationship" as a completely "monogamous relationship". I don't care what social monogamy is considered to be by whoever wrote the definition. That description does not describe a committed relationship to me but a semi-committed one, meaning "committed part of the time". That concept does not accurately describe what I wish to have or want in a relationship. If that was the type of relationship I would have offered to me, I would prefer to remain single and keep my integrity rather than settle for something of lesser value. I also don't believe people should be described or even remotely compared to "creatures who pair up to mate". JMHO

OralManOnly's photo
Thu 03/13/14 05:21 AM


perhaps you mean a monogamous relationship as there is a big difference between a committed one and a monogamous one.
My case in point, I am in a very committed LT relationship, however we do allow ourselves a little safe play within reason outside of our relationship which works well for the both of us.

The fact is, only 3 percent to 5 percent of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals (including humans) are known to form lifelong, monogamous bonds , with the loyal superstars including beavers, wolves and some bats.

Social monogamy is a term referring to creatures that pair up to mate and raise offspring but still have flings. Sexually monogamous pairs mate with only with one partner. So a cheating husband who detours for a romantic romp yet returns home in time to tuck in the kids at night would be considered socially monogamous.




I don't view a "committed relationship" as a wholely "monogamous relationship". I don't care what social monogamy is considered to be by whoever wrote the definition. That description does not described a committed relationship to me but a semi-committed, meaning "committed part of the time". That concept does not accurately describe what I wish to have or want in a relationship. If that was the type of relationship I would have offered to me, I would prefer to remain single and keep my integrity rather than settle for something of lesser value. JMHO

OralManOnly's photo
Thu 03/13/14 05:24 AM
Of course you are entitled to your opinion and outlook. Whatever works for you is all that really counts. That goes for everybody. We are all different with different needs and desires. Finding a happy middle ground within a stable relationship is what's important for me. Nothing is one sided.


perhaps you mean a monogamous relationship as there is a big difference between a committed one and a monogamous one.
My case in point, I am in a very committed LT relationship, however we do allow ourselves a little safe play within reason outside of our relationship which works well for the both of us.

The fact is, only 3 percent to 5 percent of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals (including humans) are known to form lifelong, monogamous bonds , with the loyal superstars including beavers, wolves and some bats.

Social monogamy is a term referring to creatures that pair up to mate and raise offspring but still have flings. Sexually monogamous pairs mate with only with one partner. So a cheating husband who detours for a romantic romp yet returns home in time to tuck in the kids at night would be considered socially monogamous.




I don't view a "committed relationship" as a wholely "monogamous relationship". I don't care what social monogamy is considered to be by whoever wrote the definition. That description does not described a committed relationship to me but a semi-committed, meaning "committed part of the time". That concept does not accurately describe what I wish to have or want in a relationship. If that was the type of relationship I would have offered to me, I would prefer to remain single and keep my integrity rather than settle for something of lesser value. JMHO

dcastelmissy's photo
Thu 03/13/14 05:36 AM
Edited by dcastelmissy on Thu 03/13/14 05:39 AM
I've edited my prior statement as it did contain some errors. It's a given that everyone can choose to make their own choices and reap their own consequences, I do not dispute that. My choices are just that, my choices made according to my conscience and no one else's. In deciding what type of person I would choose to be with, the only one who would be a good match with me would be someone who shared "the same values" as regards what commitment and monogamous mean to them. We, in other words, would be on the same page.

venky1952's photo
Thu 03/13/14 06:05 AM
Sex is must for all males till they are physically active irrespective of age.But in case of ladies it may not be the same especially after menopause.

Husker5347's photo
Thu 03/13/14 06:33 AM
Yup. That's exactly my policy. You have to have that special person in your life to make it worth having. But I know everyone has their own view on this and I certainly don't put down anyone for what their position (blushing ) is on this.

OralManOnly's photo
Thu 03/13/14 07:02 AM
agreed :)
I've edited my prior statement as it did contain some errors. It's a given that everyone can choose to make their own choices and reap their own consequences, I do not dispute that. My choices are just that, my choices made according to my conscience and no one else's. In deciding what type of person I would choose to be with, the only one who would be a good match with me would be someone who shared "the same values" as regards what commitment and monogamous mean to them. We, in other words, would be on the same page.

OralManOnly's photo
Thu 03/13/14 07:06 AM
I would say sex is a must for everyone, that been said most women do need more of an emotional connection than men to engage in sex. That's just my observation and opinion.

Sex is must for all males till they are physically active irrespective of age.But in case of ladies it may not be the same especially after menopause.


OralManOnly's photo
Thu 03/13/14 07:16 AM
from my own experience, most men do not need an emotional connection 1st. in order to engage in sex.
I know I certainly don't ;)
Sex for me is just that , SEX with a very primal instinct and zero emotional connection ..... NOT to be confused with love although the two when brought together, IS a very special and magical thing.




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Thu 03/13/14 03:34 PM
Just tell me where and when lol
I think everybody needs somebody to lean on

vickiehcm's photo
Thu 03/13/14 06:34 PM
:smile: thank you I was begining to think there was something terribly wrong with me




vickiehcm's photo
Thu 03/13/14 06:39 PM
years after menopause my desire for sex seems to be stronger than ever am I crazy?

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Thu 03/13/14 10:51 PM
I frankly could care less about the human race and it's survival :smile: . I love sex for what it is intimate moments thinking about nothing else or anyone else except the person in your arms. embarassed

oldsage's photo
Fri 03/14/14 06:51 AM

years after menopause my desire for sex seems to be stronger than ever am I crazy?


As I have said before, "everyone is different." To make general statements is like "assuming" something & we all SHOULD know what that does. Something about --- u & me?

Ladies sorry for the lack of education & jumping to conclusions by some of the male species here. Some of us know better & I must say appreciate post menopause ladies.

OralManOnly's photo
Fri 03/14/14 08:43 AM
Not crazy, perfectly normal for most. Not everyone is the same though.

years after menopause my desire for sex seems to be stronger than ever am I crazy?

OralManOnly's photo
Fri 03/14/14 08:47 AM
what a weird opening statement to make? I think you are still confusing sex and intimacy. I reserve real intimacy with my life long partner not my out of relationship sexual encounter. Those are never intimate for me. I look at it the same way as I look as self masturbation. (just a way of getting your 'rocks' off)

I frankly could care less about the human race and it's survival :smile: . I love sex for what it is intimate moments thinking about nothing else or anyone else except the person in your arms. embarassed

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Fri 03/14/14 10:24 AM


what a weird opening statement to make? I think you are still confusing sex and intimacy. I reserve real intimacy with my life long partner not my out of relationship sexual encounter. Those are never intimate for me. I look at it the same way as I look as self masturbation. (just a way of getting your 'rocks' off)



In that case, wouldn't it be more convenient and SAFER to masturbate ?slaphead

OralManOnly's photo
Fri 03/14/14 11:32 AM

yes it would indeed, however it's like comparing kraft dinner (eew!) and a nice MR dry aged steak with fries and onion rings. ;)


what a weird opening statement to make? I think you are still confusing sex and intimacy. I reserve real intimacy with my life long partner not my out of relationship sexual encounter. Those are never intimate for me. I look at it the same way as I look as self masturbation. (just a way of getting your 'rocks' off)



In that case, wouldn't it be more convenient and SAFER to masturbate ?slaphead

orting514's photo
Wed 03/19/14 06:31 PM


I think it is important to get to know each other, from the start. If sex is the only aim, no deep relationship develops. There is much to learn about each other, at many levels. Sex prevents that from happening or growing.



True..best way to start a true relatonship is without sex first. :thumbsup:



I agree fully!!!!!

hammert1234's photo
Thu 03/20/14 06:28 AM
gree with what u say !

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