There is nothing wrong with you! You are a beautiful, intelligent woman. I think a lot of guys our age are going through their teens again and need the validation that comes with dating a MUCH younger woman.

I think I might know. We are not blond, wear size 0, have big boobs that hang half way out, and young. I think this is what most guys are looking for no matter how old the guy is. The guys need to give us girls a chance, especially us older women. You know what they say "older woman make better lovers"

Welcome back. Hope you are recovering well.

No rules here that say you have to be here everyday.

I would not say you are doing anything wrong or that the guys are "wrong". Just some are less social as in posting, and only read forums rather than post.

There are two courses of action.

Go through your mutual matches and nudge a few people into action.

The other that works really well for me is if you see someone in public you would consider but don't necessarily want to give your home info you can give them your screen name here. Chat, get to know them, and decide if you want to date.

Keep in mind most guys would rather have their hair set on fire than have their dating life mentioned on line and most that date off line still want to move to in person before they talk the idea to death.

No I don't think it is all about blonde, beautiful, boobs, and being young. Come on is that ever what you see on the street? Would you date the male version of that? Even if they ask? It is more about the same reasons we don't date any more than they do; responsibilities, dating is expensive, not having time, and being intimidated to ask. Every woman in this thread has things to offer a good guy and they don't have to put out immediately to do it.

Nothing to apologize for and glad to see you feeling better. I do wonder if technology has made us less sociable. For instance; I was frustrated when dating that the guys had their cell phones on while on a date and took calls. I can't see why you can't turn your phones off for a little while during the date. This was never a problem before cell phones. Out of respect; I always turned my cell phone off when on a date as I can always check messages later.

Hey don't say that yu are one of the prietiest...wishing you gud luk.

Oh don't worry about having surgery. If you had to have it, then you probably did the right thing.


i feel guilty for fainting, while still online, during an online conversation last night. My blood sugar level was too low. I just felt so tired that I slumped to the ground.

Just a thought, but do you talk about your ex's a lot. As that could put some men off, thinking you care more about ex's, than having a new relationship.

I tend to agree with this. If you can't run a job or find adequate care for dependents to have a short date undisturbed it does not bode well for your potential in my life. I call it maturity and courtesy. Doesn't mean a guy can't take a true 911 but if he is checking the ball game scores at lunch forget it.