after spending a while talking to some one on here it all turns out to be complete bull**t so not impressive to that person

Thats too bad that something like that happened to you. There are a ton of really amazing people on this site though.

feeling sad for you. but there are so many nice people here. meet them too. hit the forums...

Those are some of the pitfalls of the ste my friend. You have to know the difference between the good and the bad on here and know who is real or just feeding you a line of B.S. stand up for what you want and make it known that your not going to tolerate any of that foolishness. :)

At least you know now not to fall for just any old sucker ;) I've had my fair share of them. Not many, but still had a few. I think it's important to check how willing he is to really get to know you, otherwise no point. Some are just time wasters. Nothing worse than those inbox messages where they have nothing to talk about. . Don't let them no-gooders get you down. It was useful you found out what these deadbeats were, before you went any further, as it means you're giving yourself a better chance at finding the guy who will truly want you. Some will always just belong in the gutter. I feel sorry for people who can't stick to a faithful relationship ;) They obviously haven't figured how low their self-esteem really is.

It's a sorting process. Problem is, the BSer's find new ways to get what they want. It makes us a bunch of sceptics, and we manage to overlook the truely honest ones.

Be careful because they put on a different face until their lies come unraveled...then they turn vicious and you get to see the real person.

As far as I am concerned...liars are cowards because they are scared to face the truth

Ya well there are tons of them who are full of carp. Many with sob stories that are full of carp. How many guys on here "were ready to leave until I met you"? yadda yadda yadda. Oh please. I have been told that and "if it doesn't work out with you, I am never dating again" I don't know how many times.

Just YOU CONTINUE to tell the truth and your stories won't change. In many of our cases, the truth is stranger than fiction LOL.

Their stories come out eventually. Beware the guy with NO JOB, NO HOME, etc. Those with nothing to lose and everything to gain ARE DANGEROUS.

I HAVE, respect for the guy who is honest about being married or in a relationship but says he needs something more in his life. It doesn't mean I will spend time chatting with him but in my opinion he has respect for others.

Better you learn to identify the phony guy early on, because they are on these free dating sites. It is a game with them, they like to get you engaged in sexual conversation after they get you snagged and have you chatting on the phone (I believe it is called phone sex).

I DON'T feel sorry for them, I just don't have the time of day for them. There are tell tales signs that you will be able to identity after awhile.

And it is not just the guys, there are plenty of women who are phonies, so to those of us who are honest, I applaud you. We all know they are in the really world also.

Depends on how long your''a while'' is...
Because,this being the internet,i'd talk to someone for a month without putting a description to what ''it'' is!



So;
Slow down,
Dont be too gullible believing everything some email/chat tells you,
Go slow with investing emotions,
Keep eyes and ears open,
Tune in your intuition!

Then,in two days,u'd know bs from real/genuine!!

Well,
jmo!

thanks all for your replies its good to know many like me saw thru the liars.. all sites have them I know and im in no rush to go to any extreme .. I like to weed out the bulls******S from the true and genuine..

they show up in the end

I didn't know you felt this way. Maybe the reason I am so skeptical is because I really was going to deactivate my account. Truth is stranger than fiction I suppose. Then you waltz in with a friend request at the last hour. Well, coincidence. It doesn't help that there were similarities between your story and another's where I got my teeth kicked in. Regardless, I believed most of it. Where I guess things turned is precisely when I got a barrage of personal question like, my job, my home, my family. It was posted in another topic, those are precisely the things you don't mess with.

It is a game with them, they like to get you engaged in sexual conversation after they get you snagged and have you chatting on the phone (I believe it is called phone sex).
I missed this on the first go around.

Well i'm not a liar myself
But i can see why so many fugrs lie...
How the hell you gonna fit all these high expectations and fantasy demands if you don't ?
HAHAHAHAHA !
I think the one most of us lie to the most is ourselves...

I was being sarcastic. I have no reason to really feel sorry for any of them ;)

There are pretenders out there.
Never trust anyone 100%.
Trust maybe 20% and then gradually increase your trust over time.

Some people (read:most) are fuggin asholes, lol. But I'm not giving up and neither should you or anyone else who replied to this.
Law of averages, sooner or later we'll find someone who's sincere about the whole relationship thing. Just weed out the fakers from the....uh....umm....bakers??
Good luck to us all!!!

here's the way I look at it

We're all on the computer right? How hard is it to have each other show that they are real and who they say they are? People who get sucked in could use a little course in todays technology. Not your fault the first time around, but staying in the same mindset over and over will get you no where in person or on the web.

Part two

We are all different and there are probably a ton of folks your going to meet on here that are not right for you. Fair enough, wish them well and say your sorry it didn't work. That is life today!

There are, and will be added to, cool people who hang on mingle. You don't have to get dressed, hop in your car, peek through the window to see if their hot or not. All in all mingle is not such a bad choice.

I like seeing all the little romantic hook ups here. Most of the time they go no where, but it only takes that once right!

good luck to you and hope you meet tons of nice people you can call friends

reading the replies made me laugh and smile to. im in no rush as for the players and time wasters they can just pass me by they stand out a mile after 2 or 3 messages
but thanks all for the replies its great to know the views