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Topic: Should a christian sleep with her fiance be4 marriage?
JerryNtege Joined Tue 07/30/13 Posts: 24	Wed 07/31/13 07:02 AM
Am from a christian family and am here to find am soulmate

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Wed 07/31/13 07:16 AM
to answer the thread title biblically speaking, I think once two people sleep together they ARE married,,,,,if there has been a commitment made to each other and God,,,, I don't believe formal or legal ceremonies are what define a marriage, biblically speaking,, but the vow/commitment made between two people and God,,,, so, biblically speaking, I don't think its really possible to sleep with someone 'before' marriage because the act of becoming one and 'knowing' one another constitutes the beginning of the marriage if both parties have a commitment to each other and God,,, just my thoughts,,,,, but Im not looking for sex or marriage,,, just to be the best me I can and leave the rest for God,,,

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14567	Wed 07/31/13 11:06 AM
If you sleep with a person before marriage, it is fornication.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48926	Wed 07/31/13 12:37 PM
To answer the question in the thread title, if you are so determined to have sex with the person you are engaged to, then just go ahead and marry the person.

JerryNtege Joined Tue 07/30/13 Posts: 24	Thu 08/01/13 03:38 AM
No comment

MsDiamond77 Joined Sat 08/10/13 Posts: 2	Sat 08/10/13 05:41 PM
Absolutely Not!

MsDiamond77 Joined Sat 08/10/13 Posts: 2	Sat 08/10/13 05:43 PM
Spiritually they have become one through soul tie but are they legally married in the site of God and their family absolutely not so therefore hit is fornication.

smokin7193421 Joined Sun 08/11/13 Posts: 1	Sun 08/18/13 02:22 PM
from biblical standpoint it is wrong to sleep with your significent other before marriage. God instituded the act of mariage. the wife is given away by the father to the husband. in the same since we are given away through baptism to be the bride of Christ. take alook at 1 corinthians 7.note verses 1-3. so much immorality. people having sex before marriage. when you get married you make a commitment before God and everyone present to be faithful. the same type of commitment you make to God to be faithful. you give your life to him in baptism. you give your life to each other in marriage. you have a choice before marriage to have sex with someone else. just in the same sinse you have the right and choice to serve God. focus on verse 8 and 9. if you cannot control your fleshly desires you should get married. now if this was not important why would paul write anything conserning marriage?

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 08/18/13 03:21 PM
ask your pastor...

shaksweet123 Joined Sun 08/18/13 Posts: 1	Mon 08/19/13 09:29 PM
No, should wait until marriage for sex.

shylee_smile Joined Tue 07/30/13 Posts: 3	Fri 08/30/13 08:37 PM Edited by shylee_smile on Fri 08/30/13 08:40 PM
No...you need to wait until marriage was done...you need to control ur flesh...coz its fornication..

shylee_smile Joined Tue 07/30/13 Posts: 3	Fri 08/30/13 08:41 PM
from biblical standpoint it is wrong to sleep with your significent other before marriage. God instituded the act of mariage. the wife is given away by the father to the husband. in the same since we are given away through baptism to be the bride of Christ. take alook at 1 corinthians 7.note verses 1-3. so much immorality. people having sex before marriage. when you get married you make a commitment before God and everyone present to be faithful. the same type of commitment you make to God to be faithful. you give your life to him in baptism. you give your life to each other in marriage. you have a choice before marriage to have sex with someone else. just in the same sinse you have the right and choice to serve God. focus on verse 8 and 9. if you cannot control your fleshly desires you should get married. now if this was not important why would paul write anything conserning marriage?

doulas4life Joined Sat 09/07/13 Posts: 8	Sat 09/07/13 07:04 PM
Marriage is a really big deal to God, I believe marriage is symbolic of Christ covenant to the church, and symbolic of Christ relationship with the church. The groom being symbolic of Christ, the bride being symbolic of the church. God said the marriage bed was undefiled; not the engagement bed, if you truely believe God exist honor Him with your life, not just your lips.

Richardhopkins Joined Thu 09/05/13 Posts: 65	Sun 09/08/13 12:09 PM
The answer is NO

Friend25v Joined Sun 09/15/13 Posts: 1	Sun 09/15/13 02:46 PM
Agreed , when u have sex you just don't have sex with the body , your having sex with the soul

Goddependant Joined Sat 08/24/13 Posts: 5	Mon 09/16/13 04:47 AM
Christians should flee sexual sin and wait for marriage

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Mon 09/16/13 05:12 AM
Dumb question.A real born again christian wouldnt even ask that question.We are not only commanded to flee fornication but to be pure in heart,mind,action and speech.Whats the rush to sex for? some of us by God's grace have lived eight to ten years now without sex since repentance.People should discard 'mere church going' that can't save from sin's power and embrace genuine salvation while there is time pls