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Topic: Ladies...if you had to choose....
1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Tue 08/13/13 05:08 PM
Old woman perfume irritates my lungs. Would you give it up if your man was allergic? Thank you Willing. This is another good reason someone might have to choose their relationship over their stuff.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Tue 08/13/13 05:15 PM
If he really loved you, he wouldn't make you give up your stuff, and vice versa. I'm asking if you could "give" up. I thought this indicated WILLINGLY, but apparently the topic is not as clearly stated as most would have liked.

Candiapples Joined Thu 07/18/13 Posts: 1941	Tue 08/13/13 07:51 PM
Hmmm! thats a hard question honestly..depends on why I'm giving it all up I guess Things are things..you an replace them. Real love is rare, one of the hardest things in life for me to find anyways. I did ask myself this question many times

Ouizee Joined Sat 08/18/12 Posts: 4080	Tue 08/13/13 08:10 PM
OK There are 2 things I need to know! How big is my suitcase/trunk/traincar? Do I have to be able to carry my purse/armbag/dufflebag when I have filled it? If there is AMAZING SEX every night, then I'm not seeing a need for a lot of clothes!

ArtGurl Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 17722	Wed 08/14/13 01:32 AM Edited by ArtGurl on Wed 08/14/13 01:34 AM
It would depend upon the circumstances... In a former relationship, I was planning to move to Hawaii. I was prepared to give up everything nonessential due to the high cost of shipping. It was my choice and It is just stuff. I can't imagine being asked to give up anything though...and I'd never ask him to give up anything either ... although that supersize leather recliner with the sports logo stitched in the back with the built in beer cooler would definitely not be going in the livingroom! We'd be building the most secluded kick-@$$ man cave ever!

Jezpassinby Joined Mon 09/03/12 Posts: 569	Wed 08/14/13 01:50 AM
If I gave it up, would I be able to buy new stuff??

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 08/14/13 09:55 AM
OK There are 2 things I need to know! How big is my suitcase/trunk/traincar? Do I have to be able to carry my purse/armbag/dufflebag when I have filled it? If there is AMAZING SEX every night, then I'm not seeing a need for a lot of clothes! One...I have a rather large suitcase myself. And two, how would I know...are you accusing me of sleeping with your mythical man?

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 08/14/13 10:01 AM Edited by 1Cynderella on Wed 08/14/13 10:02 AM
If I gave it up, would I be able to buy new stuff?? I don't see why not. If it was possible I would imagine you would both strive to regain the life you prefer...unless they were conflicting and then one or both would have to decide how far they would be willing to compromise. Maybe you will never have 25 pairs of shoes again...or maybe you will have to move into a larger home to accommodate 2,000. The spirit of the question is more along the lines...does it matter that much to you? If you want a relationship, which is more important to you? Your lifestyle or preserving the relationship you want?

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 08/14/13 10:08 AM
It would depend upon the circumstances... In a former relationship, I was planning to move to Hawaii. I was prepared to give up everything nonessential due to the high cost of shipping. It was my choice and It is just stuff. I can't imagine being asked to give up anything though...and I'd never ask him to give up anything either ... although that supersize leather recliner with the sports logo stitched in the back with the built in beer cooler would definitely not be going in the livingroom! We'd be building the most secluded kick-@$$ man cave ever! So...you didn't go? Hawaii, huh? Would you mind if I take a crack at him? If the only way to get the BIG TV in the living room is to accept the man chair...it can stay as far as I'm concerned. That is, as long as he does talk during the game. I would think a grown man can remember what he was going to say until the commercial!

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 08/14/13 10:15 AM
Hmmm! thats a hard question honestly..depends on why I'm giving it all up I guess Things are things..you an replace them. Real love is rare, one of the hardest things in life for me to find anyways. I did ask myself this question many times That's kind of how I see this myself. You may spend half of your life searching for someone to love who loves you in return. You can pick up a pair of shoes anywhere. A purse can't hold you when you need a hug, and a diamond bracelet is a cold and edgy bed mate. I don't think I could be with a man who did not rate above any and all belongings I had. I like to think I would sell my great grandmother's wedding ring to be with the right one.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Wed 08/14/13 10:31 AM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot... But if it's true love, they wouldn't tell you what you can and can't have. It's not about "making" your partner do it, she was asking for a willing reason... would you sell everything you own to bail them out of jail or something like that

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 08/14/13 10:32 AM
Old woman perfume irritates my lungs. Would you give it up if your man was allergic? This is a reasonable request. As for giving up things, as most others have said, it depends on what I'm being asked to give up and why. A pet? Absolutely not.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 08/14/13 10:34 AM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot... But if it's true love, they wouldn't tell you what you can and can't have. It's not about "making" your partner do it, she was asking for a willing reason... would you sell everything you own to bail them out of jail or something like that What did they do to be put in jail? Like others have said, it all depends on the whats and whys.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Wed 08/14/13 01:57 PM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot... But if it's true love, they wouldn't tell you what you can and can't have. It's not about "making" your partner do it, she was asking for a willing reason... would you sell everything you own to bail them out of jail or something like that What did they do to be put in jail? Like others have said, it all depends on the whats and whys. so your answer is no...not a big deal

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Wed 08/14/13 02:03 PM
Could you give up your stuff for the good of your relationship? Say you could keep one purse and a few cosmetic items and suitcase full of clothing? Would you walk away, or sacrifice and stay? Would it matter if it were an established relationship or someone new who you really cared for? Sure I could but I don't see why I would need to. Yes it would matter, I need something secure and established to give up another part of my life.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 08/14/13 02:24 PM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot... But if it's true love, they wouldn't tell you what you can and can't have. It's not about "making" your partner do it, she was asking for a willing reason... would you sell everything you own to bail them out of jail or something like that What did they do to be put in jail? Like others have said, it all depends on the whats and whys. so your answer is no...not a big deal You didn't answer my question. I'm not able to answer without more info.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 08/14/13 09:35 PM
Could you give up your stuff for the good of your relationship? Say you could keep one purse and a few cosmetic items and suitcase full of clothing? Would you walk away, or sacrifice and stay? Would it matter if it were an established relationship or someone new who you really cared for? Sure I could but I don't see why I would need to. Yes it would matter, I need something secure and established to give up another part of my life. I've put that in there because I've heard stories of people who have given up everything on a chance to be with someone they barely knew. I was curious if I would get that response from anyone. Glad to see most of the ladies here have more sense.

Lishb Joined Wed 08/14/13 Posts: 6	Wed 08/14/13 09:38 PM
Sacrifice

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 08/14/13 09:39 PM Edited by 1Cynderella on Wed 08/14/13 09:59 PM
so much for true love, huh... Why do you say that? cause your crap is worth more than love... crap can be replaced, true love cannot... But if it's true love, they wouldn't tell you what you can and can't have. It's not about "making" your partner do it, she was asking for a willing reason... would you sell everything you own to bail them out of jail or something like that What did they do to be put in jail? Like others have said, it all depends on the whats and whys. so your answer is no...not a big deal You didn't answer my question. I'm not able to answer without more info. If the allergy situation seems reasonable to you, then your answer is yes...there is a situation where you would do this. We can't answer to every situation that could require you choose between your relationship or your stuff or we would be on the topic for 71.5 years. That's a real number too, cause I ran it through an actuary this morning. But wait...you actually said "no", you would not give up a pet for a man. I forgot your last line for a minute, because I thought it was a reasonable request. I'm confused.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Wed 08/14/13 09:43 PM
Sacrifice Lishb, he will be lucky to have you and hopefully you will never HAVE to sacrifice a darn thing.