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madam please never neglect or reject him.first and foremost what really happen?please it is very hard for someone who love's you to forget your good time with him. you never can tell about tomorrow. am not saying this because am a man .just think wise before you can tell someone am done with you. i hate that word when it come's to love......   
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Lookin' for booty but can't get none so they come crawling back to u.
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I can think of a couple of reasons... 1. They think you might have a change if heart and want to be there when you do? 
or 2. They think if they bug you long and hard enough, you will eventually throw up your arms in exasperation and say..."fine, just take me already!" just to make the madness stop. And they certainly want to be there when THAT happens.
I just said "long and hard" again.
Cinderella, I have given in a few times. I know one thing is I would never bother a guy again if I knew he didnt want me. So what would make anyone want to do that? I wouldn't either...but have had the same experience as you with this. I'm not so sure it's a guy thing as much as a can't face reality thing? 
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madam please never neglect or reject him.first and foremost what really happen?please it is very hard for someone who love's you to forget your good time with him. you never can tell about tomorrow. am not saying this because am a man .just think wise before you can tell someone am done with you. i hate that word when it come's to love...... I disagree! If a single woman doesn't want a man for a boyfriend, then nothing requires her to keep him. Not only do I agree with this but think that it's unfair to the person pursuing you if you let them think there is hope when you know there is none. I think that would be selfish.
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Lookin' for booty but can't get none so they come crawling back to u.
I dont think so
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The guy is fishing.
Just cause a guy throws out the bait and a fish don't bite...he don't pack up and leave...hell no! He keeps casting that bait hoping to hook the large mouth bass of love. If he is any sort of average stubborn guy...he will keep casting till he is too drunk to fish...passes out with flies buzzing around his mouth searching for the stink bait.... Then the next day....he goes fishing again. THAT is how we guys do it baby! :) |
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The guy is fishing. Just cause a guy throws out the bait and a fish don't bite...he don't pack up and leave...hell no! He keeps casting that bait hoping to hook the large mouth bass of love. If he is any sort of average stubborn guy...he will keep casting till he is too drunk to fish...passes out with flies buzzing around his mouth searching for the stink bait.... Then the next day....he goes fishing again. THAT is how we guys do it baby! :) This does sound exactly like him..and he is very stubborn..thankyou BTw he has never admitted that hes in love |
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Guys ain't gotta love the fish he is trying to catch.
Most guys just wanna have em mounted and show em off to their friends. |
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because you have given in a few times he does not take you seriously when you say you're done.
You have to break all contact for a time if you want him to stop contacting you. I know it sounds harsh but what is worse than harsh is complaining but not taking the steps that need to be taken. |
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I understand that...sighs..hes just really good at this..rang my doorbell the last time and left beautiful flowers by the door...suckered me in...I really need to toughen up no matter what
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Ultimately i know this is my fault .. i dont want him but im a sucker..wasnt complaining but wondering why a guy would keep persuing someone whos not interested..I did get my answer here and ty :)
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Edited by
2KidsMom
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Tue 08/13/13 08:50 AM
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Guys ain't gotta love the fish he is trying to catch. Most guys just wanna have em mounted and show em off to their friends. Right...
((( Krupa))))  
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Tue 08/13/13 05:40 PM
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sweetestgirl called it! its the "No" sometimes means yes scenario.You have rewarded him for his efforts much like a mouse going down the same corridor in a maze looking for cheese. you boundary's are simple not firm. grade 1,page 1 psychology. so what are you doing later..nevermind, i"ll just bring flowers
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I can think of a couple of reasons... 1. They think you might have a change if heart and want to be there when you do?
or 2. They think if they bug you long and hard enough, you will eventually throw up your arms in exasperation and say..."fine, just take me already!" just to make the madness stop. And they certainly want to be there when THAT happens.
I just said "long and hard" again.
Cinderella, I have given in a few times. I know one thing is I would never bother a guy again if I knew he didnt want me. So what would make anyone want to do that? Just that, because you have "given in a few times". |
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sweetestgirl called it! its the "No" sometimes means yes scenario.You have rewarded him for his efforts much like a mouse going down the same corridor in a maze looking for cheese. you boundary's are simple not firm. grade 1,page 1 psychology. so what are you doing later..nevermind, i"ll just bring flowers
Lol firm has to mean never..I have known him for three years now. I have stopped talking to him for months at a time..once it was for eight months..its a strange situation I know. I was hoping he would have changed but thats another story altogether.. |
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He keeps coming cause he feels you irreplaceable:) Lol..in his case meaning nobody else would put up wth his crap but me 
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Thu 08/15/13 04:55 PM
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sweetestgirl called it! its the "No" sometimes means yes scenario.You have rewarded him for his efforts much like a mouse going down the same corridor in a maze looking for cheese. you boundary's are simple not firm. grade 1,page 1 psychology. so what are you doing later..nevermind, i"ll just bring flowers
Lol firm has to mean never..I have known him for three years now. I have stopped talking to him for months at a time..once it was for eight months..its a strange situation I know. I was hoping he would have changed but thats another story altogether..  so you want what you want when you want it but the "boy" cant handle it, "The pricks in the air and the brains are in the ground" he probes in and we probe the info out lol. OK, this is how you fix em! The best way to fix a chasing man is chase the man. bring him in like a prisoner right after sex just be a total biotch, give him the 20 questions routine,start pulling the jealousy trip take his money,cut him down then watch him run...then call him a few days later and tell him "I guess i don't make a very good girlfriend and say i'd rather make 5 guys really happy than one guy miserable ...and laugh it off with him. now the grounds will be set for Booty calls from you..this experience should ground him keeping his manners in check and respecting your boundaries or you tell him to respect your boundaries, if he cant do that then firm boundaries would mean "never again but you have unhealthy boundaries and thats why he doesn't respect yours. There are three types of boundaries: collapsed,firm and rigid, most people with collapsed boundaries get walked on over and over until they have had enough then often go to rigid boundaries and let nobody in for a while..bouncing back and forth. thats what i see here,shutting him out for three months and then 8 months...there may be some people in your life that you may need to be rigid with, but that shouldn't be often,but he may be one of these people. firm boundaries are healthy boundaries..go to a work shop on boundaries,if you want to hear it twice its easy and will change your life.
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Is it you live in his house?
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I can think of a couple of reasons... 1. They think you might have a change if heart and want to be there when you do?
or 2. They think if they bug you long and hard enough, you will eventually throw up your arms in exasperation and say..."fine, just take me already!" just to make the madness stop. And they certainly want to be there when THAT happens.
I just said "long and hard" again.
Cinderella, I have given in a few times. I know one thing is I would never bother a guy again if I knew he didnt want me. So what would make anyone want to do that? Just that, because you have "given in a few times". I just figured out that by "given in a few times"...you don't mean you went on dates with him do you? I have to agree with the others who have said this is the problem. I would consider sleeping with someone you aren't into a problem on more levels than...you've totally lead the man on. 
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I live in my own house..he comes here..
And yes I know my bondries are off..I know what I need to do now..thankyou for the advice 
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