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Topic: question for the ladies
ansarirdx's photo
Fri 09/13/13 12:09 PM
hi

ansarirdx's photo
Fri 09/13/13 12:10 PM
hi

Simonedemidova's photo
Fri 09/13/13 12:28 PM
Hi

Angelbabe1965's photo
Fri 09/13/13 06:52 PM
I am sorry but if there is no physical attraction in the least then it would be really hard to go ahead with anything else .... having other qualities is great but you will only ever be fiends without physical attraction ??? Just my own personal opinion ... I have to be attracted to someone to want to learn more ... shallow maybe but honest !!!

red_hot_mama's photo
Fri 09/13/13 07:54 PM
I agree.. If there isn't at least some sort of "spark" you might develop one over time but the initial "wow" should be there from the start

red_hot_mama's photo
Fri 09/13/13 07:54 PM
I agree

N2000's photo
Sat 09/14/13 05:53 AM

have you met a man that had the qualities your were looking for ,but there was no attraction?



I met a guy who has everything, attraction too. had a short wonderful relationship.But he is married.

sparkyae5's photo
Sun 09/15/13 08:14 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Sun 09/15/13 08:15 PM
to simondemidova.....there is hope.! there are men working on themselves paying a lot of money to get there stuff handled,working on being best version of themselves.......they are going to classes and one on one coaching.............just be ready when you meet him..................

eyemaflirt247's photo
Sun 09/15/13 10:27 PM
No

no photo
Tue 09/17/13 05:15 AM

attraction is not a choice.....it has nothing so much to do with the outside of the person.....we are looking for a image......


Attraction might not be a choice for a brief time, but I've known gorgeous men who quickly revealed themselves as ugly and my attraction to them ceased immediately.

My first husband came as a shock to my mother, who later told me she thought he looked like an old polish woman who was just missing the handkerchief. He became ugly too.

misswright's photo
Tue 09/17/13 06:08 AM

have you met a man that had the qualities your were looking for ,but there was no attraction?


Only at birth when my daddy picked me up for the first time. He was the best man ever, and no attraction despite what Freud believed. :wink:

Other than that, resounding no. I'm guessing this is so because there are many more attractive guys that lack the qualities I seek than there are guys with the qualities I seek that aren't attractive. Matter of odds I'd say.

dcastelmissy's photo
Tue 09/17/13 06:14 AM
I have met men with all the qualities I desired but no spark. I have met men with sparks flying so high I felt the world was going to explode, but not the ethical qualities I desired. I really don't understand this phenomena, although I know it's real. :cry:

1stSara's photo
Tue 09/17/13 06:15 AM
It is the hardest thing in my life , till now i dont find any man.....ohwell it'll be my dream...:tongue:

sparkyae5's photo
Tue 09/17/13 08:13 AM
when we communicate with another there is the persona,the part we show to the world 1st there's the words.. on another level there's the emotional side the body language,,,the voice tones,, the eye's,,our body movements etc... have you heard someone say something,and your stomach said different......hear what outside is shouting at you......when a man is not congruent with the words its all about him........i have to say this.......what's our part? this stuff is never one handed,when we don't see our part we are condemned to repeat .............:smile:

jinksb86's photo
Tue 09/17/13 10:41 AM

have you met a man that had the qualities your were looking for ,but there was no attraction?



Yes! This is such a great question. I have met people that I could talk with for hours, but had absolutely no attraction to them. As it turns out one happens to be one of my best friends now. He really is an amazing guy, just nothing there other than friendship. :-) :-) :-) :-) :-)

sparkyae5's photo
Tue 09/17/13 04:35 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Tue 09/17/13 04:36 PM
jinks,,, when you meet him he will stir the little girl in you...... what we are looking for is a image that matches whats going on inside us.....there are a lot of people that match that image there just spread out.........good luck finding the love you want....you sound like a person who can be a great friend to the people you care about.....:smile:
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