I was talking to a friend of mine today about dating. He gave his number to a lady and hasnot heard from her yet. He said she was probably waiting three days so that she would not seem desperate. Does this three day rule really exist? Who uses this rule and why three days?

I don't have a set amount of time but I usually wait a couple of days so I don't seem desperate or to see if she really wanted me to call and I hate to admit it but to let being nervous die down a bit.

I don't wait.

If we were interested enough to exchange numbers, then the sooner we engage in conversations, the sooner I can fiqure out how dumb or sexy you are to me, and vice versa.

Life is too short to wait.

I told my friend these "unwritten" dating rules keep me from dating. Lol. What other "unwritten" dating rules are there?

Most of the "unwritten" rules are on a case by case basis.

I tend to just do what I feel. If I feel a need to wait, then I wait. If I get the urge to dive right in, then so be it.

Most of the time, I just go with the flow. If it feels right, go with it.

If am given that phone number,and you havent heard from me in 3big whole days,then there's a 99.99% chance that you wont hear from me at all!

And if i gave my number to a guy and he hasnt got in touch,in 3days i'd have given up hope of hearing from him at all!!


I also follow my gut-if we are doing well,i'd most likely follow through later that same day!!

It sounds dumb, but I think a lot of people do it. It's the same with emails, waiting 2-3 days to reply to an email so you don't seem desperate. So many games....

People say they do not like playing games with dating, yet they follow these unwritten rules. These rules still seem like games. If you call someone the day they give you the number I would think that shows that you are interested in them. What does being desperate have to do with it?

I agree. If someone waits 3 days to call and then I wait 3 days to call them back, that's 6 days wasted, which is ridiculous. Like on this other site I used to go on, the guys want the women to email first, and the women want the guys to email first, but no one will make the first move, because they have to play games. Seems so childish.

A three day rule?? I don't think there is anything deprate about responding when the person feels it's right to do so. If I'm interested in someone, I want to get to know them. I respond to messages when i notice I get them, it's the same thing with someones number.

That's why so many people are single or their relationships don't work out, the stupid rules get in the way.

I think there might be a few more reasons then a 3 day rule. Life does get busy but if someone wants to stay in touch with someone else then they will. I think that some might not be sure of what they are looking for and others just act before thinking. Been there to many times before but I still can't see myself following a silly 3 day rule.

my 3 day rule - if i don't see boobs within the first 3 days of meeting a woman,they go in the "friend zone"

Boobs after 3 days....

hey,if i'm not seeing boobs within 3 days than the relationship isn't going anywheres

I have an unwritten rule. "If she has a penis its a total deal breaker."

But you'd have to check for that upfront and that'd be kind of...well...awkward?

Crocodile Dundee got away with it.

its about compatibility,,,

some have set days to respond to a phone number, set amount of dates to have sex or kiss,,etc,,,

seems pretty expectable to me anyway

those raised with similar values on such things will be compatible whereas those who aren't will not be,,

I think honesty is best,, if one is the 'eager' type that wants to run home and use the phone number right away, I think they should, reveal their 'character' right away because they can only fake it for so long,,,

I just read the OPs post and realized the guy gave his number to a woman and she hasn't called yet. No way I'd call a guy first, so for his sake, I hope she actually goes through with it.

(Yes, that's one game I still play)