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Topic: Men Who Play Emotional Games
ridewytepony's photo
Mon 10/28/13 07:02 PM


I live in an area where women out number men about 7--1. I hear complaints that "every man I meet is married, gay, or leaving next Wednesday."

Some are on Mingle. Try and strike up a conversation and you treated as a stalker. Where is the honesty there?

It isn't just the expats, but the local women also. I think the gals play more games than the guys.

The only conversations I seem to attract is over my dog.


Hmm, maybe your approach or conversation is all wrong? I know when I met guys; I loved talking about a number of different things but the once I mentioned say doing my own renos; that usually ended the date. They simply didn't want to hear a woman saying she could do things for herself, so I had to pretend to be dumb to keep their interest in me. That approach worked for a while but eventually I had to be myself and again it was game over. Incidentally; it was my friends' idea to act dumb but it made me feel very dishonest and guilty; so this is why I would have to come clean with them as I make a lousy liar. laugh


Wow! the things we will try; you should have persuaded him with a devastating left shin to the
Liver:laughing: ouchsad
I guess those men still exists,I would think it wouldn't be as common in North Alberta & BC as many woman work in gas & oil field construction/construction.
that's the city for ya I guess,to many girly girls.

navygirl's photo
Mon 10/28/13 08:47 PM



I live in an area where women out number men about 7--1. I hear complaints that "every man I meet is married, gay, or leaving next Wednesday."

Some are on Mingle. Try and strike up a conversation and you treated as a stalker. Where is the honesty there?

It isn't just the expats, but the local women also. I think the gals play more games than the guys.

The only conversations I seem to attract is over my dog.


Hmm, maybe your approach or conversation is all wrong? I know when I met guys; I loved talking about a number of different things but the once I mentioned say doing my own renos; that usually ended the date. They simply didn't want to hear a woman saying she could do things for herself, so I had to pretend to be dumb to keep their interest in me. That approach worked for a while but eventually I had to be myself and again it was game over. Incidentally; it was my friends' idea to act dumb but it made me feel very dishonest and guilty; so this is why I would have to come clean with them as I make a lousy liar. laugh


Wow! the things we will try; you should have persuaded him with a devastating left shin to the
Liver:laughing: ouchsad
I guess those men still exists,I would think it wouldn't be as common in North Alberta & BC as many woman work in gas & oil field construction/construction.
that's the city for ya I guess,to many girly girls.


Yep, the boys here like the girly girls. laugh Guess I will get a taste of being on the oil fields when I start working up North. Heading up there myself on fly in/out job.

ridewytepony's photo
Tue 10/29/13 08:16 PM
Edited by ridewytepony on Tue 10/29/13 08:21 PM




I live in an area where women out number men about 7--1. I hear complaints that "every man I meet is married, gay, or leaving next Wednesday."

Some are on Mingle. Try and strike up a conversation and you treated as a stalker. Where is the honesty there?

It isn't just the expats, but the local women also. I think the gals play more games than the guys.

The only conversations I seem to attract is over my dog.


Hmm, maybe your approach or conversation is all wrong? I know when I met guys; I loved talking about a number of different things but the once I mentioned say doing my own renos; that usually ended the date. They simply didn't want to hear a woman saying she could do things for herself, so I had to pretend to be dumb to keep their interest in me. That approach worked for a while but eventually I had to be myself and again it was game over. Incidentally; it was my friends' idea to act dumb but it made me feel very dishonest and guilty; so this is why I would have to come clean with them as I make a lousy liar. laugh


Wow! the things we will try; you should have persuaded him with a devastating left shin to the
Liver:laughing: ouchsad
I guess those men still exists,I would think it wouldn't be as common in North Alberta & BC as many woman work in gas & oil field construction/construction.
that's the city for ya I guess,to many girly girls.


Yep, the boys here like the girly girls. laugh Guess I will get a taste of being on the oil fields when I start working up North. Heading up there myself on fly in/out job.

Oh fly in! that's nice(I hate driving)
I guess you need you oil field tickets:H2S,fist
aid, ect. I may end up working there yet, before break-up,if this job doesn't last.Now we have a big seismic job in bucking horse BC, that's located about an hour south of Fort Nelson, on the Alaska HWY.

Not sure what you are going to do up there to start
but there's a ton of security jobs in the ft Mac.
area.
I would imagine you could pick where your want to work up there.
One would want to work directly for Sun cor or one
of those.
Four years ago there base rate was $35 per hour
12 hour shift, ot after 44 h, so that's 40 h ot per week. Often 2 weeks straight with a week off.
that's a great gig! sit in a warm booth and walk out
and check passes:smile:

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Tue 10/29/13 08:34 PM

Ok, so I'm wondering how come so many men pretend and say they don't care about a woman, when their actions clearly reflect that they do. Is it that scary for a man to admit they have feelings for a woman? I'm going thru this right now, he SAYS has no feelings for me except friendship, but his actions say different and I'm so confused by it all. Anyone want to chime in feel free!


what actions? I'd listen to what he says. if he says it's nothing more than friendship but you are looking for more, them break it off

no photo
Tue 10/29/13 08:49 PM

Ok, so I'm wondering how come so many men pretend and say they don't care about a woman, when their actions clearly reflect that they do. Is it that scary for a man to admit they have feelings for a woman? I'm going thru this right now, he SAYS has no feelings for me except friendship, but his actions say different and I'm so confused by it all. Anyone want to chime in feel free!



This is a man afraid of commitment. He fears that expressing any feelings beyond friendship means.... the marriage trap.

I suggest you take him at his word. He probably 'cares' about you, maybe likes to have sex with you, maybe enjoys your company, but he does not want that to get more serious.

Don't delude yourself into thinking it will change. He will be looking around for someone else and when he finds someone he does go ga ga over, he will drop you like a hot potato.

If you want a serious relationship, I suggest dropping him first.







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Tue 10/29/13 08:54 PM


Ok, so I'm wondering how come so many men pretend and say they don't care about a woman, when their actions clearly reflect that they do. Is it that scary for a man to admit they have feelings for a woman? I'm going thru this right now, he SAYS has no feelings for me except friendship, but his actions say different and I'm so confused by it all. Anyone want to chime in feel free!



This is a man afraid of commitment. He fears that expressing any feelings beyond friendship means.... the marriage trap.

I suggest you take him at his word. He probably 'cares' about you, maybe likes to have sex with you, maybe enjoys your company, but he does not want that to get more serious.

Don't delude yourself into thinking it will change. He will be looking around for someone else and when he finds someone he does go ga ga over, he will drop you like a hot potato.

If you want a serious relationship, I suggest dropping him first.







:thumbsup:

navygirl's photo
Tue 10/29/13 09:17 PM





I live in an area where women out number men about 7--1. I hear complaints that "every man I meet is married, gay, or leaving next Wednesday."

Some are on Mingle. Try and strike up a conversation and you treated as a stalker. Where is the honesty there?

It isn't just the expats, but the local women also. I think the gals play more games than the guys.

The only conversations I seem to attract is over my dog.


Hmm, maybe your approach or conversation is all wrong? I know when I met guys; I loved talking about a number of different things but the once I mentioned say doing my own renos; that usually ended the date. They simply didn't want to hear a woman saying she could do things for herself, so I had to pretend to be dumb to keep their interest in me. That approach worked for a while but eventually I had to be myself and again it was game over. Incidentally; it was my friends' idea to act dumb but it made me feel very dishonest and guilty; so this is why I would have to come clean with them as I make a lousy liar. laugh


Wow! the things we will try; you should have persuaded him with a devastating left shin to the
Liver:laughing: ouchsad
I guess those men still exists,I would think it wouldn't be as common in North Alberta & BC as many woman work in gas & oil field construction/construction.
that's the city for ya I guess,to many girly girls.


Yep, the boys here like the girly girls. laugh Guess I will get a taste of being on the oil fields when I start working up North. Heading up there myself on fly in/out job.

Oh fly in! that's nice(I hate driving)
I guess you need you oil field tickets:H2S,fist
aid, ect. I may end up working there yet, before break-up,if this job doesn't last.Now we have a big seismic job in bucking horse BC, that's located about an hour south of Fort Nelson, on the Alaska HWY.

Not sure what you are going to do up there to start
but there's a ton of security jobs in the ft Mac.
area.
I would imagine you could pick where your want to work up there.
One would want to work directly for Sun cor or one
of those.
Four years ago there base rate was $35 per hour
12 hour shift, ot after 44 h, so that's 40 h ot per week. Often 2 weeks straight with a week off.
that's a great gig! sit in a warm booth and walk out
and check passes:smile:



I am going to Kearl and the company has recommended me to be a supervisor. Once I get some seniority; I am thinking of doing armed guard. The company is GS4 that wants to hire me but I still have a shot as a 911 dispatcher and as a Peace Officer for the Calgary Police, so keeping my options open. There are lots of jobs in Fort Mac but do you really want to go that far for work?

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