...even when it goes against everything you believe in? Do you absolutely HAVE to make your point? Is it worth your time?

It's not like a great mystery (and I am completely sure there is an "inspirational fb graphic" that I am plagiarising from)...........that every time I fail to evacuate from a toxic conversation, I start to sound like someone that "I" would not like.

I'm so waiting for the generic and cavalier "I don't care what anyone thinks" statement!

If you're happy with who you are, you can make your point, give your opinion, without ramming it down anyone's throat. You have no need to argue about it, you can accept you have your view, someone else has theirs. If others do want to argue, you can calmly explain your view AND listen to someone else's. And if ppl keep hassling, simply walk away if need be or say something like "we're not going to agree on this issue, we both have our own points of view" and leave it at that. Without anger.
It's amazing how different things go in such situations if you no longer have the need to convince someone else. Others will feel that, so they won't feel attacked.
It does mean YOU have to learn to accept that your truth is exactly that: YOUR truth. Someone else might have theirs, for whatever reason.

You're wrong.


(obviously kidding)

I have so many friends with whom we have to (cliche' but) agree to disagree.

Sometimes the line as to WHERE to really stand your ground is so blurred. I don't want to roll over either, just for the sake of keeping the peace.

Uh huh..this

Hehe 2KM!.....waiting to slap someone who generically says, "pick your battles".

...is not REALLY interested in slapping anyone (just to clarify lol)

I tell my kids that crap... pick your battles..


But yea...where I'm at today..I got nothing
To lose....I will not walk away.

Now....I tell my almost 10 yr.old
Nip it in the a s s .right then and there.<3

((((((Beach))))))<3:)

Kids need to learn cliches! hahahaha



jk.........they're only cliches if they are so embedded as "values", that you say, "well, no $#!+ !!!!!!!".


((((2KM))))

Obviously



Well, that's your problem in a nutshell: as long as you keep seeing it as a fight (standing your ground), you will keep ending up in these situations. Once you realize it's not a fight, it will stop. But most ppl don't WANT that, somewhere inside they like it. So if that's the case, enjoy it (and don't whinge about it )

It'd be a lot easier if everyone just saw the light and agreed with me!!!

Then you may wanna switch from TL and halogen to environmentally friendly low-energy LEDs
Make sure you got a good quality core-chip so the light colour is pleasing to the eye and inviting to people

Depends who? If it was my son? No! A lassie that I could see no future with? Easily! A lassie who I cared for? I'd fight for her!

When it gets to a point where I'm arguing my position repeatedly, this comes to mind... Never argue with idiots, people won't know who's who.

If it is Politics or Religion I will walk away and agree to disagree... Anything thing else and I feel I'm right then it's on like donkey kong lmao but all light hearted.....

I'm not into arguing we all see things different and I will not try to make anyone see things my way. As long as we can agree that we all have our own views and it is what it is.... it's all good...

If I realize I'm arguing with someone who either clearly won't hear or accept my point of view, or is so limited mentally that they aren't capable of such, yeah I walk away. No need in beating your head against a stone wall.

i know when im right. if the other person doesn't see it my way, to hell with them.

For me it is a thing of where and when.

In person I am wAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAy more likely to just let something pass than do what they used to call pass and repass something to death.

To me it is wiser to let someone save face and win, than conquer or even at times stick up for a value. Rarely if you embarrass someone publicly can they learn ANYTHING from the exchange or forget the sting of whatever verbal slap you give them deserved or undeserved and "nobody wins in a fight". Way more often "Silence for a Fool" or "kindness to thy enemies" is more effective. Confuses an frustrates them at least lol.

A truly great gift from my father was showing me that pretending to submit and out live the ******** really was victory and conserving energy and saving more control of a situation that might be obvious. Often what you leave behind in a fight is easier to get again than recover.

If someone is foolish enough to start something if I really truly believe, this is very rare, schooling them as only age and experience can, I might say or do something and not be too gentle about it. Not big on firing someone or divorcing over trivial things but it is a very effective tool at times.

Now on line where anyone who doesn't want to debate can opt out with a click I will say what I think and stand my ground.

LOL don't ask for an opinion in open forum if you don't want an answer. But you can stake your life on I won't take it off forum or play if you try to.

Loath bullies and liars and really enjoy seeing them cut and run when they are called out.

Actually enjoy a good thinking dual however. Someone give me what appears to be viable reasons, legit documentation, or an astute observation I am truly impressed. It isn't easy but you persuade, convert, or even impress me with your partial "win" I will salute it.

Actually like people who don't cower down at opposition.

I totally agree the "agree to disagree" concept is awesome. Actually some of the people I admire have views I directly disagree with on that one level but I still like them over all; even admire them.

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