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I sure don't blame you. trust no male especially the lying low grade ones. they never satisfied. if you haven't been cheated on that's good I will keep my fingers crossed that you never do.
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Edited by
msharmony
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Mon 01/27/14 01:18 AM
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I don't think men are any more or less trustworthy than women
in most cases, I give individuals the benefit of being my 'equal' until they show me otherwise,, that includes equally trustworthy |
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Both sexes are as sneaky as each other! Felt sorry for a pal of my brothers though, when he broke up with his ex and it turned out that the 2 kids that he thought were his turned out to be his best mates. I never knew how someone can just be so callous when it comes to a child, that's all.
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Personally; I have never been cheated on but I don't trust anyone unless they have earned my trust. |
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Personally; I have never been cheated on but I don't trust anyone unless they have earned my trust. Whatever. 
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Personally; I have never been cheated on but I don't trust anyone unless they have earned my trust. Whatever. |
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Edited by
realcarebear
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Mon 01/27/14 08:15 AM
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Anyone that has ever been cheated on or lied to will have a difficult time finding the ability to trust again. It gets even worse if it happens multiple times with different partners. You even get so you don't trust yourself anymore. The real question, it seems to me, is how do you regain that ability? What you stated is very true...the more infidelities, the more lack of trust and disbelief at anything that person tells you. Trust can be re-established in new relationships, it's not impossible, but it is very difficult. The only option there is to find a partner who is willing to be patient and understanding of the things you have experienced in past relationships, and be willing to prove with love and time, that they truly are different and can be trusted. Unfortunately, those are truly hard to find. JMHO  I get really tired of fighting with myself... do I trust this person from the start or go in with doubt. I'd rather trust from the beginning. Just don't seem right to have doubt from the start up. (Who knows...just don't give out any money or get pregnant!) |
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When I was 17 I cheated. I kissed "another" girl at a party. I felt so guilty, I had a tearful confession the next day. That was the last time. I get, "I CALL BS!!!" all of the time....I suppose I have "emotionally" "cheated" since then.....but it seems that the idea of guys being true and faithful is impossible to believe. Look everyone, a real live angel!   The ability to trust can be as strong or a weak as we choose to make it....After all, trust is nothing more than a prediction of an outcome based on how well we "think" we know a person...Sometimes you have to put trust to work within minutes of meeting someone too..So how do we decide?...We rely on our gut, we rely on first impressions, we "pull" from past experience, we monitor consistency, WE PAY CLOSE ATTENTION...The more we hone these skills, the better we become at giving and receiving trust...And, since trust is an integral part of healthy living, learning how to do it well is a very good thing.... |
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I keep trusting women that don't trust me. Found myself saying about the last one that if she returned an item of property that I lent her she would prove to be a decent girl. When I gave it to her I wasn't counting on getting it back and wouldn't have given it to her if I had. I suppose that I didn't really trust her that much but I still gave it freely and didn't have to. I just wanted to believe in her. Wanted her to believe that I believed in her. When she let me down that last time and I tried to talk about it with her, that was it and she was gone.
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Edited by
willing2
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Mon 01/27/14 12:09 PM
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Sheeeit!
I wouldn't trust young men! When I was younger, I could be patient. I'd have 2 or 3 I was servicing while selling you a line. The fun was in the game to get you outa' dem pantIES! 
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Oh my.... 
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Well, I'm glad you have us all figured out.
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Well, I'm glad you have us all figured out. Not me!!!!!! I have never fingered you out. 
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Anyone that has ever been cheated on or lied to will have a difficult time finding the ability to trust again. It gets even worse if it happens multiple times with different partners. You even get so you don't trust yourself anymore. The real question, it seems to me, is how do you regain that ability? What you stated is very true...the more infidelities, the more lack of trust and disbelief at anything that person tells you. Trust can be re-established in new relationships, it's not impossible, but it is very difficult. The only option there is to find a partner who is willing to be patient and understanding of the things you have experienced in past relationships, and be willing to prove with love and time, that they truly are different and can be trusted. Unfortunately, those are truly hard to find. JMHO I agree dcaste. I seem to have great conversations and then they just stop. I'm at a loss. |
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never known Bens Fold any but pop wisdom, so Ima say no thanks to that. there are those of us who have a hard time trusting because of experiences we have had with those who cannot be trusted. It does not mean we can't be trusted. People who have been burned are often more trustworthy because we don't want to do what has been done to us. .....ah yes if I can't be trusted YOU must be the problem. really....or even better, yes, trust blindly while I screw you over.....I don;t think so. Trust is earned, and those who wish to be trusted need to behave as such even in small matters. Cheers! |
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That goes for anyone, any sex, creed, or nationality.
The risk of trusting is that the trust will be taken advantage of, it isn't more apparent in any one person based on any criteria. Some people just take advantage of the trust they're given, and some people ignore it while others take offense. S* happens. |
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I try to trust everyone with all matters. If the world wants to do one over on me, so be it. But no one is out to get me, and i don't think that nature is mean or kind by itself.
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