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Edited by
teebee79
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Fri 01/10/14 05:42 AM
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I believe a good friend is a good friend....regardless if they are married or single.
HOWEVER I don't think I'd like my husband being on a dating site, or elsewhere for that matter, looking for " friends".  It's one thing if he ALREADY had some female friends BEFORE me, but I don't like the idea of him having NEW female friends. Yes... I get that marriage is about trust. I also get that, when times are rocky people make mistakes... Why invite the temptation?  Anyone agree  or vehemently disagree Ps.. I AM NOT MARRIED THIS IS A HYPOTHETICAL HUSBAND |
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I think it depends on the person.
I couldn't imagine either one of my wives or girlfriends not going out on dates or being anything but social. How boring that they would have to be stuck with me fulltime. I only seriously date big girls (grown ups), and have no time for insecurities. Life can get burnt up so quick when you have to look over your shoulder or theirs. The jealousy thing goes right over my head. If she wants to be with him or her, do it. I don't think I was ever cheated on, and I never asked or cared. I look at being with someone as a gift. If they take that gift away for some strange reason that would be on them. I'm not saying I wouldn't jump in if our "vibe" was disturbed, but I've been with women who weren't about hurting a good thing. If their honestly being them, we're good. |
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I think it depends on the person. I couldn't imagine either one of my wives or girlfriends not going out on dates or being anything but social. How boring that they would have to be stuck with me fulltime. I only seriously date big girls (grown ups), and have no time for insecurities. Life can get burnt up so quick when you have to look over your shoulder or theirs. The jealousy thing goes right over my head. If she wants to be with him or her, do it. I don't think I was ever cheated on, and I never asked or cared. I look at being with someone as a gift. If they take that gift away for some strange reason that would be on them. I'm not saying I wouldn't jump in if our "vibe" was disturbed, but I've been with women who weren't about hurting a good thing. If their honestly being them, we're good. hmmm, I would love to be this enlightened but as open minded as I am about all other things.... New females coming into " my husband's life"... I just wouldn't like it, I would try to accept it for his sake but I would have to tell him my feelings on it, so he could at least be mindful. For instance, If he is going to be where this NEW friend is, Let me know immediately... Don't assume it's no big deal.. and then, my friends see him and then the Rumors are off to the races! 
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Hi teebee
Their only people, and if your relationship is one of wanting the best it has to come with freedom and letting the other person be who they are. The women in my life made me feel so spoiled that I never gave a thought to anything outside of a constant flow of togetherness and friendship and lots of the good stuff. You know though the flip side to this were the women who were not what they claimed and their relationship with me died a fast death. They might as well been (and I'm sure were) great ladies, but there's something about a perfect flow of wanting each other to be truly happy that is the cats meow to me. I think my second wife probably couldn't have been married to anyone but someone like me without being killed lol. She got away with so much in the world but this was her, and I loved it. She was like a little kid but all woman. Think about it, your married to a guy who gives you total freedom. Would you want to cheat on him or put that in jeopardy? Would you want to do things that hurt a marriage like that? Of course not. I was her toy and the world was her oyster. I do see great women though getting stuck with guys who the first thing they do is put them in a box. What woman wouldn't want to have something else? Same goes for a guy. If the woman is the all in all, the total package, why would (how could) he look else where? |
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Oh, I left out the rumor thing.
If you got to know me one of the first things you would notice is, I don't hang out around the rumor mills. People who live in the middle of rumors are not allowed to be a part of my circle. They're deadly and distructive and one of the things one can find on the bottom of my shoe. There are a few things that make me draw a fast and straight line, and one at the top of that list is rumor people. It's so easy to misjudge another human or misinterpret them. And once we do we do great harm by spreading what we think instead of what is really there and I would rather be hung than someone thinking I did damage to their life or reputation. I think there's one judge and it's a lot bigger than me. It sees things from all sides where I only see out of my eyes. |
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Hi teebee Their only people, and if your relationship is one of wanting the best it has to come with freedom and letting the other person be who they are. The women in my life made me feel so spoiled that I never gave a thought to anything outside of a constant flow of togetherness and friendship and lots of the good stuff. You know though the flip side to this were the women who were not what they claimed and their relationship with me died a fast death. They might as well been (and I'm sure were) great ladies, but there's something about a perfect flow of wanting each other to be truly happy that is the cats meow to me. I think my second wife probably couldn't have been married to anyone but someone like me without being killed lol. She got away with so much in the world but this was her, and I loved it. She was like a little kid but all woman. Think about it, your married to a guy who gives you total freedom. Would you want to cheat on him or put that in jeopardy? Would you want to do things that hurt a marriage like that? Of course not. I was her toy and the world was her oyster. I do see great women though getting stuck with guys who the first thing they do is put them in a box. What woman wouldn't want to have something else? Same goes for a guy. If the woman is the all in all, the total package, why would (how could) he look else where? I do agree with you here
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Edited by
willing2
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Fri 01/10/14 09:37 AM
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Does your hypothetical husband give you good hypothetical lovin'?
 I am married. I live alone 99.9% of the time. Aside from going to town, this is about my only link to any social connection I have. Mostly, me. I'm a loner and I work alone. If someone is on here to deceive, bad. They upfront, cool. BTW, the wife is aware I am on here. She knows I won't abandon her just because she's I'll. I do have my foster kid here. He has his life and don't much like hanging with an old fart. |
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Does your hypothetical husband give you good hypothetical lovin'? I am married. I live alone 99.9% of the time. Aside from going to town, this is about my only link to any social connection I have. Mostly, me. I'm a loner and I work alone. If someone is on here to deceive, bad. They upfront, cool. BTW, the wife is aware I am on here. She knows I won't abandon her just because she's I'll. I do have my foster kid here. He has his life and don't much like hanging with an old fart. My hypothetical husband is very generous  I can see this exception.... Your wife knows you and trusts you, and being the super cool hubby YOU ARE, you never do anything that she is not aware of. |
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My hypothetical husband is very generous A perfect hypothetical husband would be a Melmacian.
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I think married guys in here looking for single females is just creepy, and no, it would be a dealbreaker/ dealender if I was married to someone doing that for the purposes of having multiple partners or anything besides simple, casual conversations in a public forum...no PM...or nothing I am not allowed to also see...I'd grant the same in return
I would not care if he was here to chat forums only as I would want to be able to do that too...maybe I'd hope for a relationship of the kind that would make me forget about the site...lol |
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I would like to think if I were married and my wife said she wanted to be on a site like this to make new friends then I would be fine with. even one of the opposite sex. But if she was looking only for single men to be friends that would be suspicious. That would be like having a wolf with the sheep. Some guy constantly sniffing around for his chance to get his dick wet. Kind of like what Joe Rogan talks about in this video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NsOyvVVgYDg |
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Ps.. I AM NOT MARRIED THIS IS A HYPOTHETICAL HUSBAND Soooo.....that was a hypothetical proposal you made to me?  
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