Is it just me or does it seem like being a gentleman is no longer a desired trait. I have been finding it very difficult to get even a hint of a response and when I do it would seem I am too nice. It seems the world is turning to more desirable compatibilities being Age and Material things and more aggressive personalities leaving us Gentlemen behind without as little as a Kind Obituary.

I wrote a Poem not long ago to a woman I truly had an amazing evening with and fell for just about immediately (Love at first sight), so amazing that the location we were in did not ask us to leave even having closed an hour before we left. The chemistry and energy was so amazing I feel it still today. The next day all talks came to an end, I fear it was my Poem and my affectionate person for whatever reason all of that was tossed without any care the verdict my friends I was told is my age.

Gentlemen if you have had these problems too please share your stories with me here. I find it intriguing that a woman can say to a man you are such an amazing guy you will make someone very happy someday when all you truly dream is that you could make that one woman happy. The whole time ladies are asking for a man that has all these traits they scare them away when they find a man with them. Are we a victim possibly of the too good to be true clause or the societal fear of the existence of those whom pray on these benefits for mal intent. I would also find it comforting to know I am not alone in having these issues. I would love to hear some of your experiences.

Ladies if you still have a heart for a true Gentleman Please remember us and think of us in your search. And please remember that a man may be a bit sappy, loving and poetic and have high levels of charm and truly be sincere and mean what he says. Give them a chance to show you their hearts. Get to know the man that is true, sincere and would live to please only you. And remember please we often do wear our hearts on our sleeves and will fall way too easily for a good woman. Our most sensitive time is when we first meet the strength of the foundation will definitely come over time and be stronger than any without comparison; however at first we can feel a bit shaky and lost just remember we have went through life being trampled so often and almost always getting taken advantage of due to our high levels of kindness and sincerity.

One thing a true gentleman will always have on any other man is true Compassion and Chivalry. We may be a little clich� and sappy from time to time and wear our hearts on our sleeves but remember their is no more loyal man than a true Gentleman.

I don't know if gentlemen are any less scarce of if they have just been out promoted by the 'bad boys' and 'gender neutral' philosophies of modern times

but , you aren't alone in being drawn to or interested in those values and traits,,,,,

just gotta keep trying,, eventually a lady will attract a gentleman

and a gentleman will attract a lady,,,

There will never be another Cary Grant.

I am sure the chemistry was there lol. I think that is truly what boggles me.

But none the less I have had more situations than just that which seem to lend to women seemingly gravitating toward the bad boys more so than gentlemen and it boggles me to see and makes me wonder why? Just a general open ended question and thread for other gents like myself to be honest I do not mean to whine believe me lol. I am used to being cast aside due to my sappy romantic nature and opening doors too often for a ladie, hell its how I was raised and I am proud of it.

Even my last relationship would still after 2 years get upset from time to time as I all too often opened here car door for her or pulled out her chair for her even after 2 years in a relationship.

as a female, I can honestly say that those are the qualities I have been searching for but who ever is trying to meet me doesn't have good intentions, or they are way too much older than me (5-8 years is a big enough gap for me Ive been getting hit on by men older than my father) I know age shouldn't matter but someone as old as a parent or older sorry, that's just my issue. Or the other people I find or find me on here are too far away, or are crazy and creepy....
I think guys a lot of guys don't feel like they have to be gentlemen either because women allow them to talk to them anyway they want, afraid to stand their ground because they themselves don't want to be rejected by these jerks. very sad...

Yeah it is sad but I do think that is true about not having to be Gentlemen lol. I must say I probably would fall into that may seem creepy category though and that is my Extremely Sappy Hopeless Romantic shining through lol. For instance a very dumb move sending an amazing woman a love poem the morning after our first date albeit amazing and great chemistry I am sure that is what scared her. But why not any compassion in getting to overlook those things you know that is what I wonder about. Why is it automatically seen as creepy and not a sweet romantic gesture?

Don't you think that writing a poem so soon may have made you look needy? I know I would think that way. Many women would call it creepy. Whats so wrong with moving slowly? Why does everything have to be instant?

You may be a great guy..so whats the hurry?

all I can think is maybe she felt a little overwhelmed....try to stay friends

or

maybe you are not looking for the same things? (from experience)I will say that if she is not wanting anything serious, she prolly does not want to lead you on, maybe?

just a couple thoughts :)

I can see that, yet is it truly bad to send a little note of affection after what would seem to be an amazing evening as a thank you. I guess my question is why is it always seen as way too much instead of taking it with strides and saying well that may just be who this person is. Is it truly out of bad experiences in the persons past or is it out of fear that they may be sincere. That would also fall into the category of getting to know a person. Not too mention we all know boundaries are there, if you perceive someone as passing them why not say so instead of immediately giving up on them. It would seem to be much more logical in the end as you get to see the whole package verses the initial moments of that person. I am truly writing this post out from a philosophical standpoint of sorts. It truly confounds me at times and I got to ask why. Besides seeing other peoples experiences would help me learn just as hearing a Womans view point as well.

I agree it was a lovely gesture, but apparently not to the right person. How long ago was this? If it was a short time ago she may just need some time...

It can be scary when one is moving at light speed and the other is driving in a school zone

I don't know the content of the poem or anything but if it was one that declared undying love, cant live without you ect then that is a bit much too soon. if those are your true feelings that's really sweet and kind but it might be better to journal them and make a little book or something to give that special person later in the relationship if it is something you want them to have...

I think he's just hurting right now klc

I believe the gentleman died upon meeting the modern gold-digging whore. We really do have an epidemic of gold-digging whores out there

Not really I came to terms with the decision she made and am fine with it. I am still seeking more actively to find that special someone but I would think it is all part of getting to know someone learning their quirks and full personality

I would like posts but please leave the avarice at the door my friend, it is never good to speak in such manners.

really. that's an interesting clarification and it may be what you believe and it may be true. but your previous posts give another impression. good luck to you.

Oh, I am sorry that my plain speaking offends you. How should I say it, or should we just pretend it does not exist?

Shocking! When a man meets a lady, he should a gentleman. However.....